so just a few days ago Thomas Halbert opened up and got very deep and very
vulnerable on his YouTube channel so in this video we're going to talk about it
see what lessons we can learn from it and don't worry this story does have a
happy ending
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just been on my mind for days and Thomas Halbert just released this video shortly
after all of the James Charles drama with taki Westbrook and Jeffrey star and
I don't know if it brought up a lot of old feelings for him or what but anyways
to take you back a little bit in history last year
Thomas Halbert is a beauty youtuber there's a lot of makeup kids got skills
and anyways he got caught up in some controversy calling out Jeffrey star and
then some things got exposed about Thomas cobbler and yeah the cancel
culture hit him and all this stuff happened and since then Thomas has been
working very hard to bounce back from it but in this new video where he opened up
he talks about how that affected his mental health and what I hope all of you
take away from this is not only get help like get help I can't say that clearer
get help all right I want you to really check in with the
role that you play with all of these things right like it's crazy cuz I know
so many people like to sit back and watch shows like Black Mirror but when I
actually watch what's happening like like we are the ones who are inspiring
Black Mirror and when you see like cancer culture and mob mentality and
everything like that you're like oh no wonder where Black Mirror got this idea
from like we are currently doing it and they just take it to an extreme and
black neuron what I mean by that is Thomas Thomas Halbert opens up and gets
really vulnerable about what he's been through and what he's going through like
one thing that I gotta say that I absolutely 1,000% respect Thomas Harbor
for is the accountability in his video he takes 1,000% accountability for what
happened all right he's not deflecting he's not dodging and he said I did this
I brought this on myself and this is something that I hope everybody can take
away from this like so many of us would play the victim and say oh my god why
did this happen why why why me why why is the whole world against me and
typically what I've learned from my experience is that when we retrace these
breadcrumbs we we find out that we were the source right we set off this chain
of events so what we also see with Thomas halbert's video is that there's a
balance that comes in with this right where we take personal responsibility we
take that accountability we realize that we screwed up but the problem is is that
that pendulum can swing so far this way that it turns into self-hatred and
beating up art on ourselves and something that I try to do with myself
and I try to teach other people is we need to learn how to treat ourselves the
same way we would treat a friend who is going through that situation right and
here's what I mean by that like for as much as other people might talk trash
about us for most of us we beat ourselves up way more than anybody else
can right but how would you talk to a friend like would you would you allow
anybody to talk to your friend the way that you're
talking to yourself saying that you're a horrible human being saying that you're
not worth anything saying that you're nothing you screwed
up you're always gonna be a screw-up you're never gonna bounce back from this
like what would you do if you watch somebody talking to your friend that way
like so I guess in essence we need to treat ourselves like we are one of our
friends so what we need to do is disconnect from that voice that's
talking all this trash to us and sit back and like calm down and show
ourselves some some love and some compassion and most of all most of all
above everything else we need to be able to show ourselves forgiveness like you
guys I cannot stress this to you enough as a recovering drug addict and
alcoholic I would not be where I am today living this life that is a billion
times better than it used to be if I did not learn how to forgive myself all
right all we can do is look at where we
screwed up and learn from it and grow from it but it is not benefiting us or
anybody else by continuing to beat ourselves up but something Thomas talks
about in his video is how they got to a place of ideation of taking his own life
and he talks about how he was driving recklessly and you know all of a sudden
a voice popped in his head to stop and like something I I just want to touch on
because I'm gonna make another video about this too because another youtuber
just talked about this and I if I can do nothing else on this channel but bring
awareness to what's actually happening in this community then I feel like I'm
doing my job correctly but it really worries me and it really scares me
seeing how many youtubers talk about the ideation of taking their own life based
on this this job or based on this career it's really scary I'm when I when I'm
talking about like the black mirror thing like I want you guys to think
about that I want you to think about the vitriol and hatred and just spewing like
how much you did like somebody another an awful person
like I hate to say it but how are you going to feel if that person ends up
taking their life like think about that for a second right like think about like
the the nasty comments the the tweets all these things like think about that
for a second like we haven't seen it happen but like I think it's a point to
discuss these things because I feel when it does happen when it when it does
happen in the future when we see youtubers starting to off themselves
based on a mistake they made riots or based on public backlash based on
canceled culture we're really gonna have to start rethinking this like right now
there's this huge like hashtag save social blame everybody's like oh let's
see the numbers and I like watching people like their numbers go down after
they get canceled and all this other nonsense like it's all fun and games
until someone takes their own life so anyways getting back to Thomas Halbert
I'm super proud of him for not only opening up about what he's been going
through and everything like that like it was such a raw video and I think there's
a lot that we can learn from it but how he talks about how this whole situation
affected him like most the time like what we don't realize when you see
canceled culture come in and just completely dogpile on somebody for
screwing up like Thomas admits that he's screwed up a lot of us screw up but what
happens is the dog pile comes in all of this awfulness comes in and then you all
go about your everyday life and then there's still somebody who has just left
beaten and broken at the bottom of that dog pile right there and then they have
to get up and figure out a way to put their life back together and it's
something that we don't have to think about because we are such selfish and
self-centered creatures we just like going on the attack and we don't we
don't think about everything that happened after that
but anyways like I said this story does have a happy ending
because fortunately fortunately Thomas has had such an amazing response to his
video I believe his video has over 300,000 views now and it's awesome it's
awesome and he's been so grateful for it on Twitter and everything like that and
he also just did an insanely long livestream and they were able to raise
over seventeen thousand dollars for Planned Parenthood and I believe one
other organization and that is awesome and something that I hope if Thomas
Halbert ever sees this video something that I hope for Thomas Halbert moving
forward in the future is because he touched on this in this video is we as
creators or we as people in general we need to quit attaching our self-worth to
these these things like our job our career in Thomas Halbert situation he
talks about the numbers the views the subscribers because when we attach who
we are and how we feel about ourselves to our job we are setting ourselves up
for failure something that I would recommend for somebody like Thomas
Halbert is base who you are not by these numbers not by the fame not by the
fortune but base it on who you are as a person base it on your character Mike
Thomas Humber just raised over seventeen thousand dollars for charity
alright and to me that greatly outweighs any amount of subscribers he's lost any
amount of views that he's lost like and if he keeps going in this trajectory of
trying to give and put out a positive message and help out you know people who
are less fortunate or to fund programs that are as important as Planned
Parenthood like I think we're going to see a
brand-new awesome Thomas Talbert because this dude is still young but when I see
things like this I get inspired cuz I'm like this dude is on the right track and
if you could stay on it that'll be awesome but if you're watching this and
you're struggling with anything check down in the description look below I
will leave some resources but we need to look at
like the ones Thomas Albert just released and get inspired by them and
realize if somebody like Thomas Albert can make it through that situation guess
what you can make it through your situation too
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