Hi there, this is Clay with RelationshipInnerGame.com.
So the question that I'm going to be answering today and the topic of today's video is on
the topic of these Advanced Relational Skills that we teach over in our courses and over
on our website, ModernLove.life And there's a question that people have about whether
or not you need to like master, completely master, and dominate, and completely know
everything about one particular Relational Skill before you move on to the next one.
And uh, you know, like for example, do you need to be like a complete master of present
moment awareness before you move on to emotional acceptance or empathy or you know, so on and
so forth.
And the answer to that is no.
Truthfully, each one of these skills is something that you can always cultivate in a deeper
and deeper way.
Okay.
You know, just like, uh, with, with like sports players who, you know, maybe have, have a
certain array of, of skills or, or moves that they can do, right?
You know, it's, it's not like you ever completely master one of those and you just focus on
one of those moves until you completely master and then after that you go onto the second
one or anything like that, you know, there's always like little subtleties, deeper levels
of meaning and stuff like that that you can take when it comes to really perfecting your
technique and really honing it and really developing it and really making it even more
effective and better, you know, and it's exactly the same way when it comes to the Advanced
Relational Skills.
Um, you know, you're, you're always going to be on a path of learning, um, if, if you're
not, then you're either doing it wrong or you are some sort of incredibly advanced in
a lightened human being or something like that.
And so, uh, you know, like for me personally, I'm always still, even after you know, 10
plus years of, of knowing this stuff, I'm still learning myself too and I'm still learning
new things.
I'm still finding new subtleties in new distinctions when it comes to the Advanced Relational Skills.
When it comes to present moment awareness, when it comes to empathy and connection, when
it comes to composure, when it comes to communication and all of these things, um, you know, I'm
always finding new ways to communicate better and all is finding new ways to connect with
people better.
I'm always finding new ways to step more deeply into composure and, and self love for myself.
I'm finding new ways of, uh, you know, being more aware about the emotional dynamics that
are unfolding around me.
And so don't think that you need to be completely masterful at these things before you can ever
move on to the next thing or more importantly, before you can ever start interacting with,
uh, you know, another person, whether that's somebody you're attracted to, whether that's
somebody you're in a relationship with or anything like that.
Like the last thing I want you to do is to be constantly in a state of preparing or have
of anything like that.
Because I know that people can often use that as a diversion from actually doing what's
important to actually do and what counts, which of course is taking action.
And really applying what we learn in our, uh, you know, what it is that we're studying.
So I hope that helps you out.
And, uh, with that being said, I'm actually going to start doing a new thing on this channel,
which is at the end of these videos, I'm going to be answering some viewer questions.
So let me just pull up my handy dandy phone here where I have a question prepared from
a viewer.
This one is from Kazu Yamishima.
Sounds like a watcher from Japan.
Which case, welcome.
Kazu writes in and says Hello Clay.
How are you?
I'm very fine.
Thank you very much.
Um, I have a question.
Every morning I see a girl in front of a coffee shop where I go and she is smoking because
she works at a glasses store right next to it.
A while ago I started saying good morning to her and she replies, but I have a strong
feeling that she doesn't like being bothered or to talk to me.
She looks at me, but if I look at her, she looks away.
Should I keep saying good morning to her or should I forget about her best wishes?
Well, I would suggest you actually say more than just good morning.
Right?
You can either keep doing this dance where both of you are just trying to figure each
other out or you can actually take a step forward and advanced things and find out whether
or not she really is interested in you or not.
You know, you could, you can spend like months, years even stuck in this limbo of like, oh,
does she like me?
Do I like her?
Are we going to talk.
We're not going to talk.
Or You could just, you know, in a single day, just have a conversation and find out whether
or not there's anything there or whether or not she's even remotely interested in you
or whether or not she'd be open to going to get coffee or something like that.
Right.
So my suggestion is to take action and to find out specifically whether or not.
There's anything there or not.
So anyway, thank you again for writing in and if anybody else out there wants to ask
question, please go ahead and leave that in the comments below and if it's a good question,
we'll go ahead and read it.
One of these videos, and of course, as always, please like, subscribe and share this video
to help spread the word.
Thank you so much.
This has been Clay.
I'll talk to you again in the next video.