Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we will learn about twelve subtle
ways to attract anyone. Now, let’s begin.
What does attraction look like? You probably have an image in your head of an attractive person.
Someone beautiful inside and out. Someone who effortlessly attracts attention wherever they go,
hitting it off with anyone and everyone. Attractive people have an almost supernatural
power over others. They’re like bright stars at the center of our social solar system,
and we’re just planets caught in their gravitational pull. So, what is it
that makes these people so irresistible? A wide range of qualities influence who we
find attractive and who find unattractive. Those qualities can be physical, romantic, emotional,
social, and intellectual. You might be attracted to one person because of their hot physical beauty
and social status, and attracted to another because of their more classical good looks
and charismatic personality. And while people can be attractive for subtly different reasons,
there’s something that every attractive person has in common. No matter what their attractive
qualities are — physical, social, or emotional — attractive people are able to maximize their
potential in subtle but powerful ways. Think of it this way. Let’s say you want to
be a world-class painter. You imagine incredible, vibrant works of art that you dream of creating,
but no one will know how talented you are unless you know how to translate your ideas
onto the canvas. They’ll exist only inside your head, where no one can see them. In
other words, it’s unrealized potential. Attractiveness works in much the same
way. At the very moment, you might have all kinds of attractive qualities hidden beneath
the surface— some physical, some emotional — but you may not even realize it. Do you really want
to spend the rest of your life missing out on how attractive you could have been? I didn’t think so.
To fully take advantage of your secretly attractive traits,
you have to equip yourself with the tools and strategies to leverage those qualities. Then,
you will truly be able to attract almost anyone. That one person you’ve had your eye on for a
while. Or that other person who never notices you. With these twelve subtle tricks and habits, you
can finally become a highly attractive person, and use your new powers to attract anyone you like.
1. Move in Slow Motion Many people have a bad habit of rushing
through social situations. They talk too quickly and get ahead of themselves, sometimes to the
point of discomfort. When someone is rushing, we assume it’s because they’re nervous or desperate.
We may not think they’re confident in themselves, and that makes them less desirable as a whole.
On the other hand, if someone slows down and takes their time,
we perceive them as powerful and self-assured. So, to make yourself more attractive, don’t be
afraid to move at your own pace. Intentional, controlled movements show power and confidence,
which gives you an irresistible appeal. 2. The 3-Second Look
What do you do when you lock eyes with someone you find attractive? You may be one of the many
people who gets nervous and looks away, but it’s okay for others to catch you looking. In fact,
calm and confident eye contact shows people a more attractive side of you.
Let your eyes linger for up to three seconds, then look away. You’ll be surprised how big of
an impression this subtle gesture can make. 3. The Popularity Effect
Popularity has a significant impact on who we find attractive. Even if we barely know anything
about someone, we assume they’re attractive if other people think so. This psychological
bias is known as the popularity effect, and you can easily use it to your advantage.
All you have to do is surround yourself with friends or people you already know. Others will
see your friends enjoying your company and assume you’re a more likable and attractive person.
This is especially effective if you have a friend of the opposite gender. People interpret this
person as proof that you have something to offer, making them more interested in you.
4. The Psychological Effect of Recency Bias A great last impression completely changes
how somebody sees you. In psychology, this is known as a recency bias. Our last memories of
someone are often the most prominent and heavily influence how we perceive them.
So, if you want to be more attractive, end every conversation on a high note. Don’t wait for the
conversation to fizzle or the moment to become awkward. Instead, leave unforgettable impressions
by walking away early. When the conversation gets exciting, and you’re finding your rhythm,
that’s the perfect time to make your exit. By leaving on a high note, the other person
instinctively wants to talk to you more. For the rest of the day, they’ll have a hard time getting
you out of their heads. Once someone starts thinking about you, attraction is bound to follow.
5. The Power Walk Truly attractive people walk as if they
belong everywhere. It doesn’t matter if they’re strolling through a crowded party or in the quiet
halls of a museum. Their walk always communicates comfort, confidence, and a sense of belonging.
To master this walking style, stand up straight, raise your chin, and sway your shoulders slightly
as you move. It may sound simple, but this small adjustment can make you the most
attractive person in the room. 6. Instant Facial Symmetry
Sometimes a simple change to your wardrobe can completely transform your appearance. For example,
wearing glasses can make your face significantly more attractive. Here’s how it works.
When you put on glasses, you’re covering up asymmetrical facial features.
Humans are naturally attracted to symmetrical faces. By covering up any mismatching features,
your face appears more attractive than ever. Shades or sunglasses have an especially
powerful effect, which is often why so many people look so good wearing them.
They not only increase facial symmetry but also add a sense of mystery to your appearance. The
eyes are the window to the soul, so when you cover them up, people become more curious about you.
7. The Secret of Standing Still
Movement is one common way that we express our emotions. When we lean toward people, we’re
often showing interest and curiosity. On the other hand, pulling away suggests a level of caution or
discomfort. Other movements, like tapping or fidgeting, show that we’re bored or nervous.
So, what kind of movements should you use to make yourself seem more attractive?
The secret is not to move at all. The most attractive people consistently stand their ground,
showing confidence and stability by rooting themselves in place. You shouldn’t appear frozen
like a statue. Instead, refrain from letting other peoples’ movements influence your own.
If they lean forward, stay exactly where you are. If they pull away,
don’t move after them. Standing your ground, regardless of how they react, tells the people
you meet that you’re comfortable and confident in your own skin. And that makes you irresistible.
8. Praise Everyone But Yourself If you want to subtly attract anyone, get
in the habit of praising everybody but yourself. This may sound counterintuitive, but telling
other people how great they are makes you seem even more desirable. Why? Because every genuine
compliment you give shows confidence and humility — two qualities we like, respect, and desire in
potential partners. Make people feel attractive, and they’ll recognize how great you really are.
9. Signal Amplification Think of attraction like sending a signal.
If you act cold and distant toward people, you’re sending a weak signal, so nobody will receive it.
On the other hand, if you’re open and available, your signal becomes strong,
and people will begin noticing you. If you want to appear more attractive,
get your signal out there. Show people that you are available and interested in new connections.
For example, you might subtly draw attention to your relationship status. Let people know
that you’re ready for a connection, and more people will take a liking to you.
10. Promotional Framing Many people don’t consider
how their words and ideas are interpreted by others, especially in romantic settings. You
may be so focused on saying the right things that you’re presenting yourself in an unattractive way.
For example, let’s say you recently left your job, but your crush wants to know what you do for work.
How you frame your answer can make you significantly more or less attractive
in their eyes. If you stammer and say, “I’m unemployed, but it’s not my fault,”
the other person may see you as unattractive or insecure. Instead, you might say something like,
“I’m working toward a better position.” By framing information, even negative information,
in an optimistic way, you demonstrate confidence and security, making you more
attractive to everyone you meet. 11. Dominate Your Space
Many people are afraid to take up space. We cross our arms and legs and make ourselves
look as small as possible. Shrinking body language is traditionally unattractive,
especially for men, because it makes you seem smaller and more submissive.
If you want to appear more attractive, take up as much space as you want. Don’t be afraid to
spread out. Spread your legs apart slightly. Hang your arm over the seat next to you. People will
unconsciously notice your large, confident posture and see you in a more attractive light. In their
eyes, you’ll appear more powerful and attractive because you dared to dominate your space.
12. Congruent Body Language You’ve probably heard advice like this before:
“If you want to be confident, pretend you actually are.” Here’s the problem. If someone is trying to
project confidence when they’re sweating and nervous, their body language may be sending
mixed messages. These incongruent signals make people uneasy and ultimately scare them away.
If you want to seem attractive to people, your exterior self should reflect your interior self.
Even if that means looking a little nervous, most people find your authenticity
both comforting and attractive. Thank you for watching TopThink
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