hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 things confident people
never do now let's begin number one discount they're worth just think about the world's most
successful people billionaire CEOs celebrated artists people who have cemented themselves
into the analogues of history what do you have in common with all these incredibly successful
individuals well most people would say that you've got nothing in common that these successful people
have separated themselves from the rest of the herd that they're somehow better suited for
success than everyone else but every time you put these people on a pedestal you're doing something
that confident people never ever do you're discounting your own worth you're assuming
that you aren't capable of achieving the same success or accomplishing your own lofty ambitions
the truth is that most of these world-renowned people started out in the same exact same position
as you are right now they looked up to other successful people and they dreamt of following in
their footsteps but instead of assuming that they weren't good enough these people found the courage
to chase their dreams and make them a reality that's why confident people never discount their
own worth when you genuinely believe in yourself you can achieve just about anything number two
demand attention confident people have no problem stepping into the spotlight but they never demand
attention from anyone why well because they don't really need it truly confident people never
derived their confidence from the world around them you see there are two types of confident
people the first type gathers confidence directly from their environment when they feel admired and
popular then they get a sudden burst of courage and self-worth they flourish under the spotlights
but this kind of confidence is only temporary as soon as people stop paying attention to them their
confidence fades and they start to feel just as insecure as they did before ah but the second type
of confident person doesn't need the spotlight to feel confident their confidence comes from their
values their goals and achievements they're proud of the individual that they are so they don't
really care what people think about them now while type 1 is constantly searching for attention type
2 focuses on their own progress they concentrate on what's important to them instead of catering
to the crowd so don't rely on other people's approval to be yourself if you want to build real
confidence then you have to find that validation from within number 3 undeserved titles confident
people never overestimate their own expertise or claim titles that they haven't earned insecure
people make this mistake all the time they're scared that other people are going to look down on
them or that someone else is going to overshadow their accomplishments so they start claiming
titles that they don't deserve in their mind more titles means more respect they think by saying
that they're an artist a writer or an entrepreneur that people will like them more and that makes
them feel better about themselves but confident people never use titles that they haven't worked
for because they don't need to convince anyone but themselves and they already know whether they've
earned the right to hold that title many confident people avoid titles altogether for example a
confident person might have published all kinds of stories and novels over the years but they might
rarely ever identify themselves as a writer but it's not because they aren't proud of their hard
work it's just because they don't need to rely on titles or categories to establish their value they
know exactly what they've accomplished and that's all that matters to them number 4 lie to yourself
confidence doesn't mean you need to constantly build yourself up you don't have to believe
that you're always making the right decision or doing the right thing many people fall into this
trap where their confidence depends entirely on their success their ego becomes so fragile that
they have to lie to themselves to keep moving forward they have to distort their self-image
and ignore their mistakes because admitting that they failed huh that would be too much to handle
truly confident people never lied to themselves or pretend that there's something there not because
confident people have the courage to honestly reflect on both their successes and their failures
they already know what kind of person they are and they know that they have weaknesses just like
everyone else so when a confident person makes a mistake they don't need to bend the truth they can
take a good hard look at themselves figure out what went wrong and makes sure they do better
the next time number five running from self-doubt fear isn't always your enemy confident people know
that better than anyone they don't let fear stop them from accomplishing their goals or taking on
new challenges but that doesn't mean confident people ignore their doubts in fact confident
people rarely let their fears go unnoticed the trick is to understand why your fear is useful
just imagine you're visiting a new city and your friend recommends a good place to have dinner do
you have to eat at that restaurant or could you go somewhere else instead obviously you can eat
wherever you want right well your fears are a lot like a recommendation they give you advice
about where to be careful or what risks to avoid taking but you can choose to take that risk anyway
you shouldn't let your fears hold you back but you should never pretend that they don't exist
number six require permission many people have wasted years waiting for permission to take action
but it's not anyone else's job to kick-start your life it's your responsibility to make progress
and it's your responsibility to accomplish your goals by asking for someone else's permission
you're not owning your own happiness that's why confident people don't ask permission to act on
their ambitions they don't sit around wondering if they can or if they should when a confident person
wants something they go out and do it because they know that your own permission is all you
need number seven make social comparisons there's nothing wrong with being active on social media in
fact many people use their strong online presence to make connections find new opportunities and
strengthen their brand but confident people never use social media as a way to make comparisons they
don't browse through other people's profiles wishing that their life were different or
more exciting they never let other people's accomplishments belittle their own and in the
same way they don't use social media as a chance to brag about their own success many people try to
capture this idealized version of their lifestyle they want to show off or make other people jealous
but confident people don't let social media make or break their self-esteem number eight resort to
narcissism if you're a confident person you know that there's a huge difference between confidence
and narcissism but many people struggle to separate one from the other especially when
you're trying to cover up deeper insecurities one of the differences between confidence and
narcissism depends on your self-image someone who's narcissistic thinks the world revolves
around them and they're terrified of looking like a failure so they're constantly searching
for ways to direct attention toward themselves and rub their success in other people's spaces
that's because showing off proves to the world that they're strong and successful not weak and
helpless over time this self absorption evolves into this assumption that you're better than
everyone else narcissists think they automatically deserve more that their time is more valuable and
that they shouldn't have to work as hard to get what they want but confident people never let that
misguided superiority infect their work they know that real self esteem is built on a foundation of
values and achievements having a strong foundation means you don't need to constantly reinforce your
own ego you're never scared of looking weak because you're already proud of the person
that you are number nine stop making progress a confident person never stops making progress
they're always looking for new ways to grow new passions to pursue and new opportunities
to succeed the secret is that confident people are setting new goals every step of the way most
people set a few goals at the beginning of their journey and when they finally reach them well then
they stop pushing they feel like they've already crossed the finish line so they think I guess I
should just quit while I'm ahead but confident people know that progress never stops if you're
passionate and ambitious there will always be new things to get excited about so don't ever
ever stop yourself from moving forward number ten ignore constructive criticism not all criticism is
helpful in fact most of the criticism that you'll receive throughout your life will be completely
useless there will always be people who just want to bring you down and attack you just to make
themselves feel better if you listened to every single one of those negative reviews you'd never
get anywhere but some feedback is worth taking to heart that's why confident people never let
constructive criticism go unnoticed if it's coming from someone you love respect or admire listening
to their advice is crucial for your happiness and your success because those people aren't looking
for personal gain they're not tearing you down for no reason they're trying to help you they want to
show you something that you may not have noticed on your own confident people know exactly how
valuable a second opinion can be so they never turn away constructive criticism hey thank you
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