Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com talking about texting women and the 5 rules that go
along with it.
I want you to pay attention.
I know I recently put out a video called why you shouldn't be texting girls.
And don't worry, this video completely complements that and goes along with everything that I
said in that video, nothing contradictory so texting is going to be used for very specific
ways.
And in terms of when you're texting, there's specific rules in terms of how you're going
to do that.
We're going to be going over all that on today's video.
Texting is really important to learn right now because you are probably doing it a lot
with women.
This is one of the major ways of communicating so if you learn how to do it properly, you
have a higher chance of being able to get women interested in you and get to the point
where you're meeting up with them and on a date, of course when that is possible.
You want to learn it and you want to make sure that it's something that you're good
at.
So you have chances of being able to meet up the woman that you like.
If you don't know what you're doing and a lot of my coaching clients don't when they
first sign up with me, then you have a high chance of scaring them away because a lot
of guys are very needy over text and they don't know what to text and how to use it.
So what happens is they have a chance with the girl and they completely screwed up, which
I don't want that for you.
Let's go into rule number one.
Do not wait for her to text you when you initially get her number.
I know this is something that a lot of my clients have struggled with.
They get girls numbers or maybe they get it off of a dating app or they get it in person,
wherever.
And they are waiting for the girl to text them first.
Here's the thing; 9.9 times out of 10, it's not going to happen.
If it does great, you know she's definitely interested and you can go from there and follow
the rest of the rules which I'll be going over.
But make sure that you're the one who's initiating it.
I call this dominance or leading the interaction which I go over in my Hooked program a bunch
which is you taking control of what's going on with the relationship so to speak and moving
it forward so you're the one who's in control.
You need to be the one to text her first, do not wait for her to do that, especially
when it's you getting her number and this is the initial text.
You have to be the one to do it first.
Next, number two which is really the number one rule but there's no specific order to
these 5 rules.
This is just one of the most important ones and I've been saying it for years and I can't
repeat myself enough with this.
You only use text messaging to ask her out.
Yes once in a while, you might be texting with a girl on a dating app.
But that's not what I'm talking about here.
We're not talking about texting on a dating app, that's different.
A dating app texting, that's you guys getting to know each other.
That's almost equivalent to the initial interaction as if you were going over and approaching
her somewhere.
What I'm talking about is texting her when you guys are actually texting each other because
you got her number.
You got to make sure that you're using texting to meet up.
So you're not sitting there having long conversations.
Instead you are asking them out, asking for a time to meet, asking them for a drink or
for coffee or to do something.
You cannot sit there all day texting them, which brings me to number three.
Don't sit there texting them trying to get to know them.
This is such a big mistake.
Guys will use texting to get to know them.
Again we're not talking about online dating texting.
We're talking about once you have her phone number and you guys are texting with each
other.
The thing is, when you're texting and you're trying to get to know them, there's so much
room for error.
This is why texting sucks.
Because there's so much room for error.
Yeah, people sometimes use emojis and things like that to offset joking or whatever they're
saying.
But when you're sitting there texting all day, you know what that says?
That says to the girl, I'm not busy, I have no life, I'm just gonna sit here and text
you all day.
You don't want to do that.
You only want to save texting for like I said in number two, asking them out.
A lot of guys try to build attraction over text and that just doesn't work because attraction
isn't built over text.
We are wired biologically to feel attracted to someone when we're in front of them.
When we are experiencing them in person and real life, IRL here.
This is not about trying to get to know her and do anything like teasing or any kind of
demonstrations of value or anything like that over text message.
Can it work?
Yes it can, but it's not the road you want to go down.
If anything, hopefully they've already been interested in you.
so asking them out shouldn't be a problem.
Again, rule number two, asking them that shouldn't be a problem.
so then you can meet up with them.
And then you can build attraction and investment when you're with them in person.
Here's another one and I recently told a coaching client this.
Do not, do not be sending too many emojis.
It's interesting, I heard a comment in a recent video that said what are these games?
I should be able to use emojis.
It shouldn't be a big deal.
Why are you teaching people to be things other than themselves?
Listen, we're trying to be our best selves.
We're always going to be changing, evolving, upgrading to be our best selves.
And I'm just gonna say this.
It's lame to be sitting there sending a bunch of emojis, it's just lame.
It's just not cool.
It's weird.
It's strange and of course I'm gonna give you all the tips I can to make you so you're
cooler and not lame and it's lame to be sending lots of emojis.
Maybe you'll send one once in a while.
It could be like a wink face or a smiley face.
Every once in a while is not the worst thing in the world.
But just don't overdo it.
It's kind of strange.
Like, why are you doing that when texting should be used to either talk normally or
have a very short conversation and why are you doing that anyways when you should be
more focused on getting them to meet up.
It's a waste of time, it's kind of lame to be doing that and if that's someone that is
you, I'm sorry.
I'm calling you out.
Don't be lame.
Don't be sending lots of emojis and every single time you ever, it's like too much.
It's overkill.
Like every text you're sending, you're sending another new emoji and also it's showing way
too much interest which you don't want to because that can come off needy.
So try to chill a little bit on the emojis.
Here's another one and this is from another lesson from a client I've been working with.
It's interesting because I realize wow, I have not been specific enough when I talk
about texting.
I'm assuming that when I'm ever talking about texting and helping you out that you understand
that we're talking about texting on a phone, like meaning phone to phone, SMS, number two
number.
Meaning not social media.
Every time I've ever talked about texting, I'm talking about texting their phone number.
Not texting through Facebook or WhatsApp or Skype or I don't know (Facebook, I already
said that I think) Instagram.
None of that stuff.
What's most important and this is the fifth rule in terms of texting is try to get their
number.
That's the most personal space that you can be in in terms of connecting with the girl
digitally.
It's in their actual text messages, not social media, not anywhere else.
You don't want to be one of the who knows how many other men who are messaging them
on Snapchat (that's the other one) on social media, Facebook, all that stuff.
Instead get to their actual texting.
I'm going to say I did say WhatsApp earlier.
I know that is more about texting and sometimes you have to WhatsApp because you have different
phone numbers from different countries, but it's still really rare.
Try as much as you can to get into their regular text messages so they see it so they're there.
It almost makes you more of a personal friend, at least for now because you guys are not
more than that at this point.
Make sure that whatever you're doing in terms of texting, always move it to phone numbers.
I talk about this in my Hooked program, dominance.
Always leading the interaction and moving it forward.
You want to make sure you're moving it forward from wherever you met them, online or maybe
social media or in person.
All that's gonna be funneled into their phone number and texting them on their phone.
If you want to learn more about dominance and how to lead the interaction, you can
check out my Hooked program at Get Her Hooked dot com.
I put a link in the description down below so you can you can check that out.
There you go, 5 rules of texting.
Follow those and you'll be on the right path.
Don't make any more mistakes like my clients have and like many guys have.
I hope that helps and check out the Hooked program for more and
I'll see you on the next video.