To quote a famous saying, "love is blind". When we are in love,
our feelings alter the way we perceive the person we love or are particularly attracted to.
This means that we tend to live with a blindfold that does not allow us to notice bad signs in the
other person that are actually quite obvious to others, and even if we do notice them, we probably
end up justifying them. And this is especially true during our first experience of love or in
the initial period of a new relationship In this video we will see 5 obvious signs
of a toxic relationship that we need to pay special attention to. Let’s start.
1. Your partner has recently come out of an important relationship
It is generally not a good idea to start a serious relationship with someone who has just gotten
out of another relationship. Of course, I am not saying that it is absolutely not possible because,
in fact, it is very much possible. However, if you find yourself in this situation,
be careful and try to understand what your new partner really feels
for you - you do not want to risk becoming a consolation prize; you deserve better.
2. Your partner often lies to you about little things
Okay, we all tell little lies from time to time, often white lies, but if you are in
a relationship with someone who is constantly lying shamelessly about even the little things,
you should start wondering how much you can truly trust this person in a long-term relationship.
3. Your partner smothers you with attention
This is a point that might seem controversial. There is absolutely nothing wrong with paying
attention to the person we care about, but at the same time there is a difference between giving
genuine attention and compliments, and flattering the other person with manipulative purposes.
In fact, it is often manipulative people who excessively flatter their partner
and puts them on a pedestal in order to make them feel important, but with ulterior motives in mind.
The risk of accepting this behavior is that it could result in a sense
of dependence on the attention that the other person gives you,
which in the long run would risk a toxic result for both.
4. Your partner checks on you all the time
A relationship must be based on trust. A little jealousy is natural,
but obsessively becoming controllers of your partner is very harmful to a relationship.
Privacy is important and each of us should have their own space while respect the other person’s.
There is a difference between being jealous and being obsessed and intrusive.
To give an example, wanting to continuously monitor the messages or phone calls of your
other half is not only a clear lack of trust, but also lack of respect.
The same goes for calling or texting your partner all day long to find out where they are, who they
are with, or what they are doing. This behavior denotes clear insecurity. Even when we are in a
relationship, each of us must have their own life outside of it and maintain their individuality.
5. Your partner is overly possessive As mentioned in the previous point,
each person must maintain their individuality even when they are in a relationship.
If you have to ask permission from your partner every time you want to do something you like,
cultivate a hobby, or meet a friend, something is wrong and over time it will most likely get worse.
Clearly, I'm not saying that it is normal to go out every night with friends leaving your partner
at home alone. It takes a little common sense to understand it, but I'm simply saying to carve out
your own space and cultivate your passions and friendships outside the relationship as well.
It is one thing to be protective, but it’s another to be possessive.
Selfish people in a relationship tend to want to isolate their partner from the rest
of the world in order to have full control over them. This also includes going to the
point of creating unnecessary friction between their partner and their family.
This behavior is nothing more than a power play to keep control over the other person.
Now that these signs have been explicitly pointed out, do you recognize some of these signs in your
current relationship or past relationships? If you can relate to these signs or have any
interesting experience you want to share with our community, leave a comment under this video.
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