What are you so afraid of?
I'm not afraid of anything.
If anything--
chill out with all that.
You just took it way too far. You don't talk to me
like that, Desi.
I don't put up with your crap and you know it.
I just did.
Would you like a cookie?
What are you so afraid of?
I didn't say I was afraid of anything.
What, I didn't--
But you're behaving in a very fearful way.
Of?
I'm asking you what you're afraid of
because your attitude, your behavior is,
I'm gonna get them before they get me.
Why are you so afraid that you're not gonna be accepted?
I'm not.
Then why are you behaving this way?
I don't know.
Because I am?
Because that's just how I handle things.
You have 1,000 choices that you could choose
and you choose this one consistently,
is to attack people verbally,
alienate them, push them away, call them names,
and distance yourself from them,
that's not an accident that that's a pattern.
So you're afraid of something.
I'm just curious if you have any insight at all
as to what it is.
No, I'm not afraid of anything.
People will tell me, "Take a deep breath.
"It's gonna be OK."
So then I take a deep breath.
No, 'cause then I'm even more mad
'cause that doesn't do anything.
Well I've said there were two questions
I wanted to ask and here's one of them.
Do you understand what hierarchy is?
No.
I don't know what that means.
OK and that's OK.
Hierarchy means pecking order,
that it's kinda like in the military,
there's a General and then there's a Colonel,
then there's a Captain, then there's Privates.
Ya know, there's an order.
There's a pecking order.
There's somebody in control
and then there's somebody that reports to that person,
then somebody that reports to that person,
then somebody that reports to that person.
That's a hierarchy.
That's what that means.
And somebody has to be in control
and that's true in a family.
Do you acknowledge that your mother
is the head of this family?
No.
OK, so if she's not the head of the family,
are you the head of the family?
No.
So you don't recognize her authority as a parent.
Nobody's head of what you just said.
The family.
No.
So you don't recognize her as a parent,
her authority to direct you as a child in
what you need to do and not do?
No, I do.
I'm sorry?
I do.
But you don't comply.
No.
OK and you understand,
and I said how you answer these questions
was gonna be outcome determinative.
You recognize that when you choose the behavior,
you choose the consequences.
Yeah.
Like if you choose to steal something and get caught,
you choose to go to jail.
You choose to speed and you get a ticket,
you choose to pay the fine.
You choose the behavior, you choose the consequences.
Mmhmm.
And you're choosing behaviors that put you in conflict
with authority on a regular basis.
Mmhmm.
You don't acknowledge that the teachers are
in charge of the class.
You go up and down the hallways yelling and screaming.
Ya know, teacher's got chlamydia,
disrupting class and all.
You don't recognize the hierarchy at school.
I mean, like--
I'm sorry?
I do but I don't
because I choose not to.
You choose not to.
Yeah.
OK so that tell me you're unsocialized
and so, you don't function in society.
Oh?
It does, it tells me that you're immature
and you don't recognize the mores and folkways of society,
the way the world works.
Is that so?
Yeah.
Oh, okay.