- Did you say that I sniff out loud?
- No. - Oh.
- But that's a good one. (both laughing)
(mellow jazzy music)
- Sorry.
(Alyssa laughs) (mellow jazzy music)
We're like quirky, unique, fun, and communicative.
- With a lot of love.
- With a lot of love. (Alyssa laughs)
- I'm gonna play "Africa" by Toto.
- Oh, God.
- I can't hear anything.
- [Producer] Say something that
he'd hate to hear you say right now.
- I'm tired of listening to "Africa" by Toto.
(laughs)
- What?
(mellow jazzy music)
- The very first time I saw AJ,
I thought he was really nice.
He looked friendly,
so that's why we went and just chatted. (laughs)
(mellow jazzy music)
- (laughs) I didn't make the bed this morning.
- What?
- Huh?
Well, I met her at an audition.
She recognized me and she's like, "Are you AJ Rafael?"
"I used to listen to you in middle school," she said.
I was really hoping that she would like tweet about me
so I could find her. (laughs)
Sounds kind of creepy.
- I said that he looked very friendly and (laughs).
I don't actually, I don't think I said approachable
but I meant to say he looked friendly and approachable.
So that's why we ended up chatting
in the corner of the audition at Disneyland.
- Yes.
- What did you say? (laughs)
- (laughs) Well, I said I was really hoping
that you would tweet about me.
- Oh my God. You told them that. (laughs)
(mellow jazzy music)
Our first date was when we went to see Jo Koy
at the improv show. (AJ laughs)
- I was reading your lips.
She literally said this.
"Our first date was at a Jo Koy concert."
(both laughing)
I think that's when I first made it clear that like,
let's make this a date.
I said, "Jo Koy concert."
Did you read that on my lips? - Yeah. I said that.
I said, "Jo Koy." - Yeah.
- He forgets a lot of his own schedule. (laughs)
Like I try to plan things,
but then we forget that he has like a shoot
or something like that.
So it's kind of just comes down to
like him being a little bit disorganized.
But that would be just one thing that bugs me a little bit.
(laughs)
- Sometimes I have to be like too clean. (laughs)
Just like, I like to just throw my shoes at the door
or not make the bed.
She kinda nags at me a little bit for that, but it's fine.
That's not even a big thing, really.
It doesn't really...
Okay, the other day it bothered me.
Did you say that
I sniff out loud?
- No. (laughs) - Oh.
- But that's a good one.
(both laughing)
- No, it's (laughs),
I said that you were a bit disorganized.
Yeah... (laughs)
You know that!
- I know, but it's just, I'm just so shocked,
because I said one thing that bothers me
is that you don't let me be like disorganized.
- Oh.
(mellow music)
I would just miss his presence.
I love when we're just hanging out.
We don't even have to be doing anything.
We could be working on two separate things at the same time.
Or just sitting at home watching TV.
A lot of the little things in his little,
the little quirks
and the little weird things we do together.
- A lot of like small things like,
like we make up a lot of songs.
Like every day. (laughs)
If she was gone right now, I would miss her voice a lot
because she already doesn't sing that much,
when she should.
- Wait, was the question if you went away forever
or like a week?
Because I think I answered it as if it was like-
- Oh, a week?
- As if you left for like a couple days.
I was like, "Oh, I'd miss his little things that he does."
- I said little things,
but also in the context where I thought you were dead.
(Alyssa gasps)
- Oh, I didn't answer it like that.
- Oh.
I'm gone a lot.
So like- - Yeah.
- You can handle a couple days.
- Yeah, that's why it was no big deal.
That's why I was like, "I mean I would miss his like-"
(laughs)
"His like being there."
(both laughing)
I think our biggest fight
has been about
something in AJ's past
that I have had
issues or I struggled to let go of.
It was a big fight that happened a while ago
but still comes up here and there.
- A recent big one
kind of stemmed from
my ex-girlfriend.
(laughs)
Yeah, I don't know how much detail to go into
but it just, you know,
like my past relationships
are just like a part of me growing to be this man
that I am for her now.
I think it's hard to explain that perspective sometimes.
Like she cuts off her exes completely
and doesn't talk to them.
A lot of people
like hate the people that they've been with
and it's hard to
say that
'cause I don't hate them.
I just wish she understood how much I love her
and how much I see her as the main person in my life,
you know?
And I think she's seen a lot of that
whoever was like a main person in my life
and she is trying to fill their shoes
but like, you know,
they're part of my past
and she's my present and my future.
- I said our biggest fight
has been about a person in your past.
(AJ laughs)
But I saw it. I could read your lips.
You said ex-girlfriends, so yeah, it's that.
- Oh, there it is.
(Alyssa laughs)
There it is.
- Yeah, I mean that's just the way you are
with everything though.
You're not a person to cut people off
and you continue to like maintain your relationships.
- At the end of the day, I love you.
I'm sorry. (Alyssa laughs)
(both laughing)
I'm sorry if it's a big thing.
I don't know.
- I'm gonna cry. (laughs)
Well, I mean,
I know I love you.
Like I know it's not like,
it's not something that I'm going to just let
define our relationship
and define why like we would end our relationship
because like what we have is way more than that.
And even though we have like bumps in the road
I still love you and I'm always gonna love you.
So yeah. (laughs)
I'm sorry I'm crying. (laughs)
But yeah, we struggle a lot. We do.
But we work on it and we get through every fight
or every struggle
and I know we get stronger from it.
- And I think maybe you don't hear it enough from me
but like I see a future with us.
- I know.
(mellow music)
Patience and learning that we're very different
in the way we think, obviously.
(laughs)
You can't just have one way of thinking.
You have to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
- Balance.
I think the importance of quality time,
not just with us but like quality time with myself too.
And to be a little more organized.
- We're not always gonna agree on things
but knowing that there's an end goal
and that we're still learning
how to be adaptable to one another.
- Yeah.
At the end of the day, I think we both see
like a future with a family and being married
and all the cool stuff- (Alyssa laughs)
- That comes with being together.
- Yeah.
(mellow music)
It feels like our relationship is kind of like an adventure.
Like I never really know what the next step is,
where I've always been the person
to always wanna know what the next step is
but with him it's been different.
- A lot of my friends
and people I haven't talked to in a long time,
they see that I've like posted about my girlfriend a lot
and stuff and they're like,
"Whoa, I've never seen you post this much
about your girlfriend,"
and things like that.
I think people see like how much love I have for her
and I think it's because she's made me want to
be loud and proud about who I am with her
and who we are together.
- I don't know.
I love how it feels so natural with you
and I've never had a relationship
where it felt this natural before
and it happened when we didn't even expect it.
- Even through all the ups and downs and stuff,
we still, you know, we still love each other through it,
you know, with every single thing we go through.
(mellow music)
- [Producer] Thank you so much.
- We did it.
- We did it. (laughs)
- Woo.
- Hey.
(AJ's head scrapes against mic)
- Oh shoot. (laughs) (producer laughs)
My bad.