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A lot of us feel like we don't deserve
to have our dreams come true
or have good things happen to us,
and sometimes, no matter how far we've made it
or how much we've already accomplished,
we still don't feel content.
Why is that?
The answer isn't an easy one.
Most likely, it's when we grapple
with feelings of self-loathing.
Self-loathing is defined as hatred for oneself
that often manifests as anger, self-sabotage,
a negative view of oneself, and low self-esteem.
It's important for a person to be aware of their feelings
and attitudes towards themselves
so they can start to change for the better.
Here are seven signs you may be suffering from self-loathing
and just don't know it.
One, you tear yourself down.
Self-hate makes you your own worst critic.
Keeping an eye on your shortcomings is a good thing,
but not allowing yourself room to breathe stems
from an immense dislike for your current self.
You think extremely harsh things about yourself
and indulge in self-pity a lot.
So much that tearing yourself down
has become a daily habit for you.
Everyone makes mistakes, but you're so hard on yourself
that you can't forgive yourself when you mess up.
You're quick to blame yourself
whenever something goes wrong,
even if it's not your fault.
You never commend yourself for a job well done,
but rather, criticize yourself
for even the tiniest of mistakes.
You're plagued by feelings of guilt, worthlessness,
and inadequacy that manifest themselves
as frequent complaints about yourself and your life.
Two, you feel insecure around others.
If you find that other people make you feel insecure
about yourself a lot,
it might be time to ask yourself why?
Most likely, it's because
you're constantly comparing yourself to them
and feeling like you'll never be able to measure up
no matter what you do.
Subjecting yourself to this kind of harsh judgment
is a definite sign that you hate yourself.
When you look at someone else,
you always focus on all the things
that they have that you don't,
and it makes you ungrateful
for all the good things you do have.
You can't help it feel bad about yourself
whenever you're around someone who's happy,
confident, smart, attractive, or successful.
Three, you neglect your self-care.
Do you want your loved ones to be happy and taken care of?
Chances are, you probably answered yes right away.
Because when you love someone,
you want what's best for them.
So if you really loved yourself,
you'd want that for you too.
This is why neglecting your self-care
is a form of self-hatred.
You don't sleep well.
You're not eating right.
You don't exercise.
You don't try to look nice for yourself,
and you don't do things that make you happy.
It's not that you don't have the time
or can't be bothered enough.
It's more about refusing yourself the pampering
because of a deep seated grudge with yourself.
Since your insides are at war with you,
it only seems right to let yourself
show it outwardly as well.
So when you look in the mirror,
all you see is a haggard reflection,
unworthy of love, and that's how you like it.
Four, you don't let yourself be happy.
You're a pessimist who's quick at finding
the negative aspect in every situation.
You're wary of compliments or praise
because it seems mocking.
You don't see yourself in a positive light
and refuse to believe what others say.
However, you do take their criticism to heart
because it reinforces your view of yourself.
You're not comfortable letting other people help
as you believe your troubles are yours alone
and you deserve them.
You find it hard to feel good about yourself,
and this is what sucks all the joy out of your life.
You resent the way you are
and deprive yourself from anything,
even remotely akin to delight.
These are just a few of the ways
that you deny yourself happiness,
perhaps even unknowingly
as you fester in your own self-hatred.
Five, you isolate yourself from others.
You struggle to maintain relationships with others
because you feel like you don't deserve their love.
Often, you feel their attention
and love is a burden for you.
You don't consider yourself good enough
to remain in the circle.
Since you have a low concept of your own self,
you feel like they're judging you as well.
It may look like they're doing you a favor by including you,
so you stay back
because you think they're better off without you.
You feel guilty for hanging out with them
because you believe your presence is an intrusion upon them,
and you're holding them back.
Your inability to love yourself makes you unwilling
to accept love from others as well.
As a result, you isolate yourself to refrain
from inconveniencing others with your presence.
Six, you put on a facade for others.
You're one way when you're by yourself,
and then another when you're around other people.
You wear a mask and don't let other people see the real you
because you hate who you are.
You try so hard to fit in and be liked by everyone
and you constantly wish that you were someone else.
You feel ashamed of your true self
and you think that no one will ever be able to accept you
so you'd rather pretend to be someone you're not.
And seven, you're afraid to dream big.
Having ambition and dreaming something big for yourself
scares you.
You smother your own hopes and aspirations
because you think you'll never be able to achieve them.
So what's the point?
You look down on yourself and all that you can do
and refuse to leave your comfort zone.
The possibility of failure and rejection terrifies you.
You easily feel discouraged and worthless
the moment you encounter a setback.
You deny yourself opportunities to grow
and have no experiences
because you don't believe in yourself.
Your insecurities make it hard for you
to see your capabilities
and you can allow yourself to succeed.
We all have a lot of self-destructive behaviors
that are toxic for our mental health
and emotional wellbeing.
So many of us struggle with feelings of insecurity,
emptiness, and worthlessness
that it can sometimes lead us to hating ourselves.
Becoming more aware of your self-hatred
makes it easier for you to overcome it,
and with time, patience, support and dedication,
you can learn to love yourself
and live a happier, healthier life.
Did these points remind you of someone?
Maybe yourself?
Can you now see where such behavior stems from and why?
Did these points make it easier for you
to name your emotions and behaviors?
Please let us know in the comments below.
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