two of my bosses have told me I don't like Jocko interesting without giving
any value valid reasons their ego is in the way how do I flank them to help them
see the path my belief is that they're afraid of the truth and they say they're
afraid of the truth they see in extreme ownership okay so yeah I mean clearly
ego could be a problem here as a leader you know who wants to constantly be
compared to some other leader right you know if you were teaching to jiu-jitsu
well the way that do the way that Dean teaches this you know that that would
make you mad afterwards so that could be part of the problem that's death that's
definitely that's way up there on the list of possible things could be the
military flavor right some people don't like the military flavor thing so that's
that's okay it's it's can turn some people off that I want to hear about it
that's fine the reality is here's the a but here's the reality of the situation
okay what is there to not like about the things that I talked about right so
let's say you know what I don't like people taking ownership I want everyone
to make excuses and blame each other right it doesn't even make sense you
know instead of yeah we I don't want to hear about this cover move I want
everyone to ignore each other and worry about themselves right like that makes
no sense whatsoever you know if key keeping things simple I
don't wanna hey look I don't want to keep things simple I want everything to
be so complicated but no one knows what's going on right like these things
they make no there's no human being no one in a leadership position that would
want everyone or that would that would go against what these simple principles
so how do you fix it then right what's the problem one here's a couple and
actually this was a Twitter thing and a bunch of people gave great responses on
Twitter after I kind of highlighted it one one of them and my actual responses
like hey just don't you know stop using my name you know stop saying well Drock
elicit because you imagine how annoying that was with
chocolates in you know when you're in a leadership position it's like that's
gonna really great on somebody so so so throw that out the window don't pit it
as me Jaakko against what your bosses are saying no don't do that you've set
up an adversarial relationship with them and you've set up for a never ever see
relationship with me and I've ever you met these people before know who they
are even know what business they're in but what you've done by constantly
harping on it is you've pissed them off and now they're saying dude quit talking
about jakka we don't care cuz also the way that he's in turn just the way he's
being offensive in approaching these things means that he has a little more
listening and growing to do because if you really want to approach your boss or
you know he asked about Frank and his boss well the way you flank someone
isn't going hey the way jocular says you should do this no that's not good so let
the principles work on another another person pointed out you know
hey don't hey stop trying to impose your things on them like take extreme
ownership how's that sound you step up and start leading you do your thing you
perform well quit talking quit trying to force these things down people's throats
and give them space give them room and then they'll recognize that you're doing
a good job if you label it with something that you know they don't like
well then they're gonna not gonna like it no matter what you do no matter what
you do that's gonna be problematic don't bludgeon them with with will you
know I this blah blah blah no don't do that
hmm take let put your ego in check how's that sound for your you go and check a
little bit make the ideas that you're talking about their ideas get them to
talk about ownership you know get them maybe they call it something else other
than extreme ownership maybe they call it you know personal
accountability okay awesome that's great yeah I really like that I really like
what you've come up with boss I mean with oh well now they're in the game and
they don't realize that you're talking about the same thing
that's fine don't they don't ever have to realize that they don't ever have to
realize that so maybe there's some people or some people that don't like
even do the team's just people that like they didn't
me didn't matter didn't matter where what the the principle was didn't make
no that's no it's like no like hey just just just don't don't attach my name to
it yeah and go and do be a good leader how's that so those are some things I
think if you live live the principles act on the principles no one's gonna be
mad at you for taking ownership and responsibility of what you're doing
unless you say oh you like how I took ownership of that well then you might
paint yourself into a corner with yeah stupid where they end up not accepting
what you're doing yeah and they'll get mad at you for stepping on their toes of
course and it is also as you do this as you take ownership don't rub their noses
in it mmm you give them credit how hard is that
you know you come up with a pro solution the problem say hey you know actually I
got this idea from something I saw you do it really right that's how you that's
how you flank them and took ownership for this problem
oh really oh here we go extreme I don't say that you know it's like a boss I I
wanted to make sure this got done correctly I was watching the way you did
bah bah bah bah and you go from there give them the idea
you make sense it yes I wonder how the boss got introduced to the concept of
Jocko for him to eventually hey not like in this situation it probably was like
you know multiple repetitions of what
and didn't pick up the vibe yeah which is like hey I'm dealing with someone
with a big ego and they're not gonna take well to me talking about this other
guy's leadership style do you you don't want to be compared to some other leader
if you're in a leadership position yeah and I know man also it's kind of the
same thing but a little bit different the that thinking about that type of
scenario man that's the worst that's like as a boss I would think that that'd
be really bad because okay so here here's a situation so I make videos
sometimes right and so let's say I'm and actually this is an actual thing that
actually happened where okay so I made this video for this will say client
and classic okay you know they look at it and it's typical you know they'll
have some input maybe some information they want to add or take or change or
whatever and then um this guy said oh yeah I'm not sure about this part I
showed it to my wife and she said you know X Y Z next I'm thinking okay I get
it like okay you showed it to people that I understand but I was like wait
wait so this is a video made for you in your deal you know kind of thing and you
went and showed your wife and then now she has some kind of input she's not
part of this deal you know now you're like citing your wife's critique and
like all this stuff and it doesn't make sense by the way as far as what we've
discussed and all the stuff right so look so the wife is good now I kind of
have this kind of disdain for the wife I don't know wife at all by the way so I'm
like I'm just not feeling the wife in it where ego got in the way and it's
natural is what I'm saying where it's kind of like I thought we were doing
this video kind of together and I'll do this for you and you gave me the input
right now you involved your wife in it who through the whole thing off but
she's not even part of this little thing right now really hard to put your ego in
check it's really hard to put your ego in check and actually listen to what the
critique points are it's easy it's hard for anyone to do that you know and so
when it happens you have to go okay that's my ego and you need to put it
aside yeah so consider this situation if the guy would have just said don't say I
showed it to my wife and she said this don't say if he would have said well I
was thinking about this which is what the wife said you know in there whatever
I was figure out this whether it would add it got delivered way better way
easier the same thing with your your situation if someone's saying I don't
know let's say for example it's a fireman it's a farm and you know the
boss is saying hey we should do this and do that and then this guy just horribly
says so we'll Jocko said the bosses like who the hell is John I don't remember
hiring Joe who's this guy and what's he talking about
cool but Jaco has no say in this department it's me it's you it's the
team you know the team that we've worked with kind of thing that's kind of the
feeling so yeah men don't say jock yeah I don't need to credit not all