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What is it that makes you say I like that person so much?
Is it their compassion towards others,
their impeccable character
or their outrageously good looking smile?
It's not always so obvious,
but it's the little things that endear others to us.
You may have someone you yourself admire.
And perhaps you wonder if you too, in turn are as likable.
Well, don't be too hard on yourself
because you may just be more admirable than you presume.
Here are five signs to cue you in
if you are as likable as you think.
Number one, you emit positive energy.
Did you know, how you feel in a setting or situation
can impact how others feel around you?
So if you are a little ray of sunshine
most of the time, chances are,
others will feed off that positive energy from you.
liking you for making their day as well.
A research paper from the University of Hawaii
and Ohio State University suggests
that many individuals can unconsciously tell
what mood you're in just by being around you.
Seems fair, right?
So if you display positive emotions, others are likely
to mimic your happy facial expressions and gestures.
Therefore they're likely
to feel positive emotions around you
and want to be with you more,
meaning they like your company.
And ultimately, you.
Two, you listen, and let others talk about themselves.
Are you a good listener?
Do others find it easy to share their thoughts with you?
If others look towards you
to share what's been on their mind,
it's a sign they're comfortable with you,
knowing you won't judge or interrupt them.
Humans love to talk about themselves,
which means if you let them do so,
they may just like you a bit more.
Harvard researchers discovered that taking the time
to talk about yourself, triggers reward areas in the brain.
And when it's associated with your presence,
they ultimately begin to like your company.
In another study conducted by Harvard researchers,
some subjects even declined money
to talk about themselves more.
So if you go ahead
and let others talk about themselves for awhile,
they'll enjoy their time around you more
and increased dopamine too,
as long as you make sure to listen and not doze off.
Three you're human and have imperfections.
Do you strive for perfection?
You wear your mistakes with pride,
or do you cover them up to present a perfect facade?
Contrary to popular belief, it's one's imperfections
that endear you to others and not your perfection.
Does the thought of making mistake terrify you?
Well, it shouldn't.
Others may be intimidated if you come across as perfect.
Mistakes show your human side.
When you show you're capable, and yet still relatable
as a human being who makes mistakes,
people tend to like you more.
In a study, researcher,
Elliot Aronson had people
rate fake test takers based on their attractiveness.
Some test takers would act clumsy and spill coffee
at the end of the interview.
After, their scores were revealed.
Poor test takers, mediocre test takers
and even great test takers were still rated lower
than the superior test taker who scored great
and spilled coffee at the end.
Meaning, people want to see you are intelligent and capable,
but that you aren't perfect.
Number four, you make great first impressions.
You believe in that saying
that the first impression is the last impression?
Are you extra vigilant
regarding your attire and behavior during first meetings?
If you succeed in making a good first impression on someone,
your chances of being liked increases even further.
That's because first impressions leave a lasting mark.
In a study published in the Journal of Social,
Psychological, and Personality Science,
people were to evaluate others based on their photograph,
and then to meet them.
The first impression through the photograph
influenced the individual's judgment of the person
even after they met formally.
So when you're on time on a first meeting,
dress to present yourself accordingly
and show your personality through a great first impression,
it emits a vibe that others take an instant liking to.
Number five, you have a lot in common.
Did you know, having something in common
with the person you're talking to
can also increase the chances they'll like you?
In a study by Theodore Newcomb,
subjects were made to live together
after taking their opinions on certain topics.
Those who had more common and shared beliefs
on the topics recorded, liked each other better
compared to the subjects with opposing beliefs.
When there's more to talk about, you find yourself
wanting to listen to their thoughts on the subject as well,
and you share your opinions in a positive light.
Hence, when your like-mindedness surfaces,
so does your liking for the other.
Everyone likes to have someone who shares their beliefs
and when you find them, well, what's not to like about it?
The most important thing is to be true to yourself
and show others your real self and personality.
Don't try to be someone you're not
just to make someone like you.
Start your encounters off right
by laying the groundwork for a great relationship.
Make a great first impression, share your interests,
listen to the other person's opinion.
But hey, if things just aren't working out,
whatever you do, maybe don't spill a coffee on yourself.
So do you think these are sufficient
to measure someone's likeableness?
Will you integrate
some of these signs or tips into your life?
Let us know in the comments below.
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