Hey everyone, how you all doing? Well I'm Niharika and you are watching me on Skillopedia, the
place to learn skills for the real world. So today we are gonna look at words. Well
words can shape our thoughts and they help to determine our actions. It’s been said
that you know, you can tell how much money someone makes from the first three minutes
of speaking with them. Really? How’s that possible? Well it's all in the language and
words they use. This means that there are words that you should eliminate from your
vocabulary, so that you can remain upbeat and positive. Well taking these words out
of your vocabulary can really change on how you feel and it change your outlook as well.
So if you want to improve yourself, since most of the words that you use on regular
basis can really have a big impact on your ability to motivate. So here are few words
that you should erase from your vocabulary so that they won't make you feel smaller or
weaker.
So what's the first word that you need to eliminate? Well it's the word can't. In my
opinion this should be the first word that you should just erase from your vocabulary.
If you want to feel stronger, empowered and more inspired, then yes just delete this word.
Well the best way to replace this word is by saying, I wanna learn how to do that, rather
than saying I can't and that's absolutely the right thing to do. You can do whatever
you want if you work hard enough and if you're willing to at least try to accomplish your
dreams. So just eliminate this word from your vocabulary and see how much difference it
would make to your life.
So what's the other word that you need to get rid of? Well it's problem. Just replace
it with opportunity and see how much your perspective on things will change. This word
is just so heavy that it only makes us think about stress, difficulties and all the other
things that come to our minds. Problems can always be solved and things only become problems
because we choose to see them that way. So in fact we don't have problems, we have challenges
and we have obstacles. Sometimes you would change your problem into a situation, right?
So we don't have problems, we have challenges that can be overcomed. So I highly encourage
you to get rid of this word problem because there are no problems. A problem is simply
an interpretation of a neutral event. it's a story to tell ourselves that we live in.
actual problems don't exist when you see that you have a challenge, well you must overcome
it, instead of a problem, you should just realize that this is juts temporary and you
need to get rid of it, right?
Well let's have a look at another word that you need to get rid of, which is hate. Well
it isn't only a strong word but a word that promotes negativity. So why focus on the wrong
things when you can focus on the right ones? We all use this word too much these days.
Whether we hate that our car broke down or that you are not able to find that perfect
dress or the cookies are awful, so you hate them. Well just remove it from your vocabulary.
It’s such a strong word associated only with negative emotions. Try using words like
you know I don't prefer that or I dislike that, rather than saying, that Oh my God,
I hate this. Yes, just avoid that strong word.
So which is the next word that you need to erase from your vocabulary? But....well when
you use the word but, it becomes a connector word that just uses negativity. Well if you
say something like, I really like Jenny but... she's such a problem in my life. I can't deal
with her. Oh... well it is a positive statement? No it just leaves an impression in the mind
that you don't like Jenny at all. Well it has the exact opposite effect. So change the
way you would say, you could say that I really like jenny, dealing is with her is quite challenging.
Yes, so just avoid using the word but....because the word but gives a very negative impact.
Let’s have a look at another word, a negative word that you need to erase which is loser.
Well people have their own paths in their journey of life. Most of the time, there isn't
a winner or a loser because all of something to learn and earn. If someone has decided
to live life the way they want to, which might be bizarre for you or for others, you aren’t
here to judge. Well have enough respect and consideration for people and let them just
live their life the way they want to without them being so fearful of you know labels and
restrictions. So just get rid of that big L.
Well here's the next word that you need to get rid of. Ahh someday, well this is such
an indefinite word that it only suggests a lack of commitment. Yes, well there was someone
who said, that a goal without a date is just a dream and trust me he couldn't have said
it better. Don’t save things for that special occasion or for when you think that you'll
be ready. Every day is special, so take that advantage of it and you know cherish that
every single moment.
Another word that you can get rid of is, try. I know I also tend to use this really often.
I need to delete this as well and I advise you to do that as well. Well just replace
it with I will and you'll surely get a new perspective on things. You'll be more stronger,
more determined. The word try just you know shows that you haven't planned things well.
so avoid it as much as possible like even if you don't have goals or even if you have
goals, don't end up saying, that I’m gonna try or I'm gonna work hard, I will definitely
do it. Just try to give a positive look to it, rather than saying that I’m gonna try.
Well here's another one, which is may be. When you say, may be you give the impression
of being unable to make a decision. No one wants to be seen as you know wishy -washy
right. If you haven't decided, it's fine to say that, you know you're still thinking over
your decision. But saying may be, makes you know look like you just can't decide for yourself.
It’s quite a put off when you are having a conversation with someone. So just say that
I will be doing this eventually. But do not end up saying, may be.
Well here's the next one, which is umm.... yes that's the sound that I'm talking about.
People use the word umm... when they are thinking or they can't come up with an answer. As a
result, they look really confused and definitely don’t look smart. So you should never say,
umm. Well try saying something that would you know help you to just continue the conversation
that would help you to look smarter and well educated. Even if you don't have the answer
right off the bat. So avoid doing this or avoid making this sound umm...okay.
Let’s have a look at another word that you need to erase from your vocabulary which is,
never. Well as the old saying goes never say never. It’s a bottom-line word that doesn't
give any, any leeway for sudden changes or unexpected occurrences. If you tell someone,
you'll never get ahead or you'll never get a promotion. Guess what? You’re entire mind
set changes and you actually trick yourself into believing such a horrible lie. So use
less absolute word for better chances of success. So just get rid of that word, never.
Another word is impossible. Yes, you're not gonna motivate yourself if you end up using
the word impossible. Yes, where does the motivation go? Well sure things are hard and things do
take a lot of time and effort. But the best thing to do is, the right way. Erase that
nasty word and replace it with by saying that everything is possible or anything is possible.
Here’s the next word, well which is oh whenever. Well whether it's at work or at home, giving
the people the whenever option is just giving them the chance to let you down. If you need
something, just say so. Don’t give that people that opportunity to do it when they
want to or when you know, they have the time. That’s just gonna disappoint you and make
you angry. So just avoid the word, whenever.
And here's the last word that you need to avoid, which is probably. Now this word makes
you sound very indecisive. Much like saying that, Uhh... I guess.so use different words
and you are more likely to come across as a more confident person. Using this word gives
people doubts and that's not always a good thing. Especially when you are at your workplace.
Try saying that, oh I haven't decided yet. I just need some more time to think. So I
will come back with an answer, right? And even if you are sure the answer is yes, saying
probably just opens the door to letting someone else down. So when you are answer turns into
a no for whatever reason, that's not gonna be good for you, right? So just avoid using
the word probably.
So this brings me to the end of this session today. Well there are a lot of words that
I am guilty of using them as well. So I have also learned through this session of course
and try avoid using these words. Well you know you have to choose your words and your
thoughts correctly. Every single word is a reflection of how we perceive the world around
us. So choose your words correctly and now it's time for me to leave, we'll be back soon
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