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So, you have a crush,
and maybe you've been texting them for some time now.
You have a hunch that they may just like you back,
but you can't decide if they have feelings for you,
or if they're, well, just being nice.
This can happen to all of us.
Texting isn't as clear as face-to-face contact.
Without the social cues of tone and body language
to back our observations up,
how are you supposed to tell
if someone does, indeed, have strong feeling for you?
Well, to help you out, here are some top tips
to help you know if someone likes you over text.
Number one, they text you first.
If you like someone,
wouldn't you jump at the chance to talk to them?
Actually, better yet,
our nerves can get in the way with that,
especially if we really like the person, feelings intensify.
But if they're generally the one
to initiate your conversations,
it means they likely like you.
Mm, that sounds like a tongue-twister.
Number two, they send long, detailed texts.
If they put the time into texting you consistently,
they must care to some degree.
But if they send long texts, sometimes even paragraphs,
then they may be really interested in you.
If you ask them a question
and they actually put thought into the answer,
as shown by their paragraph,
then they actually wanna keep the conversation going
and may even open up to you more in their texts.
Number three, they double text.
Wait, what?
What on earth is double texting?
This is what double texting looks like.
You receive a text from someone you like.
You're too busy to respond,
so you go about your business
with the idea you'll respond later.
They check their phone to find you haven't responded,
and felt the need to reach out again.
They send another text.
So, they cared enough to check their phone,
see you didn't respond,
but couldn't stop thinking about you,
so much so that they had to tell you something more
before you sent your response.
This is a pretty good sign
that shows that even if they don't like you romantically,
they're at least a friend who can't stop thinking of you.
Number four, they care and show concern for you.
If you find your crush wishing you a good morning
or asking how you are frequently,
you're in for a good surprise.
These are signs that they like you.
In relationships, there should be more
than just physical attraction and shared similarities.
Partners should also be emotionally invested in each other.
If the person you're texting
often wishes you a good night out of the blue
when you haven't been texting at a late hour,
they've been thinking of you.
If they're thinking about your wellbeing and show they care,
it's a sure sign they have feelings for you.
Number five, they send emojis, especially heart ones.
Hello?
Have they been sending you heart emojis?
What are you doing here?
They likely like you.
Oh, dang it with that phrase again.
We generally send emojis to lighten up the mood
and convey our emotions.
You know? Emoji?
I mean, you don't have to be emo to send one,
you just send one to convey emotion.
Now, mostly everyone uses emojis,
so don't quite jump at the idea
if they use one or two.
They could just be kind or friendly,
but it at least shows their interest enough
to keep the conversation lively.
However, if they only respond with a simple emoji,
they may not be trying
to keep the conversation going as much as you are.
This could mean one of two things:
they're putting a simple end to the conversation,
or simply don't know what else to say.
But if you make a move and they continue using emojis
with more than just a brief avoidant response,
it shows that they're open to getting to know you.
There is research that shows emojis
can not only be a fun way to express yourself,
but help build further intimacy.
According to a study from researchers
Amanda N. Gesselman, Vivian P. Ta, and Justin R. Garcia,
emojis can often be used as effective signals
in modern social communication.
Their research suggests that emoji use
may provide a reasonable proxy for expressing effect,
and may provide a useful aid in self-disclosure
and building intimacy.
As a result, using emojis with potential romantic
and sexual partners may, in turn,
lead to more face-to-face opportunities
to assess compatibility and attraction.
So, this may be a good sign that you're getting closer,
especially with the heart emojis.
Number six, they ask questions.
If you find someone keeping the conversation alive
with questions in their texts,
then they wanna talk to you.
While some people can throw in a few questions to be polite
and not come across as rude,
if they genuinely seem to keep up the conversation,
they may just like you.
It's never a good sign when you're always having
to ask questions to keep the conversation afloat.
Now, to the all important matter,
if these questions mean they like you
or want to be friends.
And hey, everybody could use a friend.
I mean, being friendzoned isn't the best,
but it's better than being completely rude.
If someone is asking you personal questions,
then they may be trying to get to know you
because they like you.
When we like someone,
we not only want to continue conversation with them,
but actually know them.
We find ourselves caring about the other person
and wanna know the many details about them and their lives.
Not in a creepy way, though.
Don't ask too many as if an interrogation,
just emotional investment.
Seven, they send selfies.
Do you find someone sending you photos
of themselves mid conversation,
or simply out of the blue?
This is a telltale sign that they're interested in you.
People send photos of their day
and funny memes all the time, but selfies?
They took the time to take a photo of themselves
to show just you what they were doing
and what they looked like for the day,
or to show you a face along with their hello.
And number eight, they text you throughout their day.
People can text for a morning or evening
and then check in tomorrow as a friend.
Usually, friends will text us with a reason,
but if someone likes you,
they'll likely find themselves
texting you for no reason at all,
but to simply get another chance to speak with you.
If they text you throughout the day,
that means even more.
You can show they've been thinking about you
as they go about their day.
You've been on their mind,
and they just can't help but text you
to see what you're up to.
And number nine, they send flirty texts.
Hmm, you can't tell if they like you, huh?
Well, do they send flirty texts
along with those heart emojis?
What are you waiting for?
Make a move, my friend.
When people flirt over text,
odds are, they like you and think you're cute.
It's important to note that they should
at least initiate the flirty texts once in a while
because what could be perceived
as a flirty response to your flirting
might just be, well, a response.
It's best to take a look at the thumbs up emoji again
and ask the inevitable question:
were they really flirting back,
or just, you know, giving me a thumbs up?
Ah, the flirtatious and irresistible thumbs up emoji.
Gets 'em every time.
So, based on these signs, does someone like you?
If so, what do you plan to do next?
Do you like them back?
Let us know in the comments.
Remember, a few of these signs
may just mean they're simply being a good friend,
but if your friend exhibits
more than just a few of these signals,
well, they may want to be more than friends.
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