- We kind of knew that our new roommate was coming.
- I thought I knew it was going to be black.
- Not necessarily a gorgeous.
- Really attractive female.
- April playmate.
- Supermodel. (laughs)
- Hello.
- Is this 30?
- [John] Yeah.
- Oh yay.
- Hi, I'm John.
- John, I'm Beth.
- Beth?
- Yeah, hi.
- Another Beth, we got a ton of Beths.
- [Beth] Oh my gosh, there's another Beth here?
- Yep.
This is Glen.
- [Beth A.] Beth. - [Glen] Nice to meet you.
(upbeat techno music begins)
- [Beth] Is the laundry downstairs?
- You can use this and you could use all this.
If you want to use any of these shelves.
- Okay, cool.
Sorry, you singing here while you're here?
- Ah, not really.
- [Beth] So where are you from Beth?
- Oregon.
- Yeah?
- I do scenic painting?
- Oh do you?
- And craft service.
- Oh, I do craft service too.
- Do you?
How funny. - Yeah.
(hip hop music plays)
So what's all the rules, what am I not supposed to do?
- Rules? (laughs)
- [John] Let her get through what I went through.
Don't tell her anything.
(all laugh)
- So do you guys have your own cupboards or you make some?
- You know what, you can take, Erin's used to be down here.
- Actually, wherever you can find room.
- [Beth] So are you working while you're here?
- Nope.
- You're not working?
- Mm mm.
- [Beth] Glen, are you ready?
- I will be soon.
- Or right on, what do you do?
- Well, I'm in a band, but I also, I'm.
- [Beth] Oh, what kind of band.
- An alternative one.
- I'm in AA.
- [Glen] What's that?
- I don't drink, this is going out of my cupboard.
- [John] You don't drink either.
- [Beth] Nope. - What what.
- Me neither.
- You don't drink?
- I'm only 18.
- I like John, I really like John a lot.
I try not to judge a situation unless I've been in it.
It's hard not to, but I feel that's kind of the way John is.
- This is John.
(smooth R&B music plays)
Hey, Dom.
Hey, we got our new roommate.
Yeah, guess what her name is.
Beth.
- [Dom] Are you serious?
- Yeah, and I swear she has a cowboy hat
and the first thing she said was yee haw.
- [Dom] She has a cowboy hat on?
- Yeah.
- [Dom] And the first thing she said was yee haw.
- She's a country singer
and she likes to go to two-stepping.
- [Dom] Can I speak to her? - Here she comes.
I told him you were a country singer, just say yee haw.
- Howdy.
(John laughs)
- [Dom] Hey Beth.
- How's it going?
- [Dom] Well I'm on the phone.
Are you gonna live with us for awhile?
- Mm hm.
- Where are you from?
- Arkansas.
(all laugh)
- [Dom] You serious?
- No, I'm from Oregon, I'm not a country singer.
- She's not trying to act like somebody that she's not.
And that's very refreshing, that's very nice.
- I used to do crazy stuff when I was teenager.
- Like what?
- I mean, I never stole from people or robbed people
or robbed places or stole any, you know what I mean?
I didn't do stuff like that.
(gentle piano music continues)
You know?
- That's good.
- I was just real mischievous, you know,
like climbing buildings and hanging out
at cemeteries and you know?
Getting into trouble.
- What did you do in cemeteries?
- Going to the bars when I was a kid,
we'd get real drunk up there.
One time I got real drunk and I was hanging over the edge,
throwing up and I flipped off of it.
- So you don't drink now?
What made you decide to stop?
- I think the main reason that I stopped
is because, I drank real heavily.
Eventually I became like a real heavy drinker.
I went through a lot of things
that drinking helped me to numb out.
And we got to the point where it was a total basket case.
I didn't know if I was going to hurt myself or someone else
or have no faith for life, I didn't want to live.
That's when I quit. (laughs)
- [John] That's a good thing.
- That's when I got my hands and knees.
I said, if there's a Lord, help me now, and boom.
There it was, my life changed the next day, literally.
My whole life changed.
- Wow.
- I still have issues with anger
that I would like to get over.
I've been told for years that I can't accomplish things
and also I feel like there's issues of success for me,
being able to start something and finish it.
(country music begins)
Doing menial labor on movie sets or PA production assistant,
where you're basically running errands for people.
I don't see anything demeaning about it at all.
I see it as being a part of making movies,
a very vital part.
It's a great experience to get a little taste of everything.
Every department 'cause you're helping everyone.
Right now, I'm working as special effects
and one of the effects that we did was this,
the evil nurses got a sphere in her head
and it saws its way out.
- [Director] Action, one, two, three, four, five,
six, seven, clear.
- It's kind of funny because you get all psyched up
to see it and you're like waiting and waiting and waiting
and then it happens and you're kind of like, yeah?
(smooth R&B music begins)
- [Beth] I like Beth, one night we were talking
about relationships
and it was a nice little bonding time for Beth and I.
- I almost got married in LA.
- Go on.
- I truly was in love for the first time in my life.
- [Beth] You still in love with him?
- No, I love him as a person, but it wasn't right.
I mean, I loved him so much, I mean, love and respect.
He went to Japan and he was supposed to come back
and he was supposed to come back and every time
he was supposed to come back, he wouldn't come back.
I was totally heartbroken.
And then I felt so much pain,
I just shut down and stop living.
He came back and it wasn't the same anymore.
- [Beth] Hm.
- And I dated another guy that I really liked a lot.
I just really connected to him, the rest of them were bozos.
Put that in the record book, no. (laughs)
I really like Beth, she's really fun and she's positive
and we have a good time, she's like me.
She's like, yeah, let's do something.
Let's have fun, let's go, let's go, let's go, let's go.
♪ You better work, Cover girl ♪
♪ Work it girl, give a twirl ♪
♪ Do your thing, on the runway ♪
I didn't want to do this with Beth.
The only reason I did it is because I like her.
(pool balls break)
What's your friend, the short hair?
- [All] Ivan
- He's so nice.
- Look at that.
- [John] Beth, what's with the shirt.
- It's a joke.
- [Tami] But it's a joke.
(John laughs)
- Well, I'm gay, but I mean, it's a joke shirt.
- Oh, you are okay.
- [Beth] Yeah.
- Okay.
- I'm a lesbian.
- Okay, all right.
- I love how it's just so casual.
- I know, it's just like and I'm like, okay, all right.
For me, I kind of felt uneasy and I don't really know why.
Do you mind.
- No.
- 'Cause I'm very nosy and it's a lot,
I'm like, so many questions. (laughs)
- No I was raised around gay people all my life.
It's so normal to me, it doesn't bother me, not a bit.
- Honestly, you're the first person that I've ever met
that came right up to me and said,
or was open and outright and said it.
Like where I'm from, I've never had someone to do that
and I mean, that's one of the reasons I want to come here
and do this is because I've never,
I don't meet people like Tami or like Lynn
or like yourself in Kentucky at all.
- It's just like any other lifestyle.
You fall in love, you buy a house together,
you live together, you do IRAs, you know?
I mean, I'm, it's very monogamous for me being
in a relationship with a woman.
I've had a few lovers who were so wonderful
and were great men, but it's nothing like what it is to be
with a woman, it's not familiar.
It's not comfortable for me anymore at all.
- It's safe to submit the majority of your friends
that will be coming over will be in fact, lesbians.
- Oh no, I've got a lot of diverse friends in my life.
Yeah, I mean I can tag 'em before they come
through the door, if it'll make you feel better.
(all laugh)
- No.
- [Beth] Well, you know what else we could do
that would be really great family project?
- [John] What?
- We could all like to spend a day and volunteer
at like AIDS Project, Los Angeles or something like that.
- We could do that.
- Like you and I could do an Earth Day project
for the house and we could set up an actual recycling center
rather than just having that barrel outside
that nobody knows about.
'Cause the city gives us. - You don't understand.
We don't even put our dishes in the sink.
Look, you know how many days this cups been sitting here.
- My point being is I would like to do something
for Earth Day and I think I'd like to feed the homeless.
- Yeah, it's easy to live in this house
and wake up every day and take a shower
and get your clean clothes and not even think
about what other people going through.
It's too easy.
- So you want to do it with me, feed the homeless?
- Sure, sounds good.
(groovy funk music begins)
- I think if everybody in the house pitched in like,
$2.50 we could buy some cheese and peanut butter and jelly
and we could get some loafs of bread.
Okay, production line.
- I'll be cheese man.
- Excuse me Beth, stop with all the mustard.
You're putting it on every piece.
- I was really surprised how everybody kind of joined in
and helped, it was really, really good.
Somebody grab the apples.
(all laugh)
- Come on.
- Have fun.
- Sir, you hungry?
- Starving to death, sir.
- I think that was the greatest thing
that they could have ever done.
I have been homeless before
and I know what it's like to be hungry.
- I think we benefited a lot more by it
than the homeless people did
and I think that was my whole idea.
- Here you go.
Finally, we did something together and without
a lot of bickering so it was a good thing.
- Beth is so cool and she's just like a really nice,
caring person and that's what I'm judging her on.
- What makes me happy is to be with women and what makes me
whole just to be with women.
It wasn't just coming out about my sexuality.
It was coming out about me.
My ideals and my beliefs were okay and acceptable
and that I can be independent and that I don't need
to be taken care of, I am taking care of me.
(upbeat harmonica music continues)
- [MC] Give yourselves a hand.
(crowd cheers)
- The person who I was dating, we're not dating anymore.
So it's affected my sex life in a great way
and then in the same sense,
it hasn't at all and I'm still perfectly satisfied.
- Well then, just get off me.
- (laughs) I'm not letting you.
Why don't you give yourself a little hug.
(rock music begins)
- Beth Anthony makes me feel comfortable.
You can talk to her in depth and she actually gives you
an answer from the heart.
- You're going to sleep, you're gonna try to sleep?
What are you doing, sleeping?
- Glen and I have a very childlike relationship.
He's a good friend of mine, who I can kid around with
and punch him, goof-off with him, burp in his face.
- Eh.
♪ Is it okay that I can't get it ♪
♪ It's strange and wonderful ♪
(Beth screams)
- They've found some common ground.
I don't know, I mean, they're way different.
You explain it.
- [Tami] They are under the table.
- They're going to roll around on the table,
let them roll around under the table.
- [Beth A] We're affectionate, we're playful, we're friends
and so it makes them a little more comfortable
with me as a woman because he has a lot of insecurities
and hangups about sex.
- I'm usually very shy and I don't say anything,
but by being around Beth Anthony,
she's been showing me there's no sexual side
to meeting her friends because they're not interested.
So you get to actually meet girls without worrying
about the whole sex thing.
♪ Need to get back in the arms of a good friend ♪
- Beth, to me, is someone who is growing,
as far as her individual strength goes.
She needs to be able to have more experiences
of standing up for herself, separating herself
from her mother and from her family, from her past
relationships and begin a new path of strength.
(upbeat rock music begins)
So I was telling Beth today, I was telling her,
I think I'm actually going to kind of miss you,
even though you drive me nuts.
I said, you're the only person who drags my butt out
to do these dumb things that I wouldn't ever do
and I always end up enjoying them
and having a good time, you know?
- You could like kick each other and hop on the roof.
I'll be knocking Glen's block off.
- [Beth A] Come on Beth, get out the old pad.
- Yeah, you want to see what a bitch I can be?
(Beth grunts)
It's pretty sad if we're going to be
at each other's throats, especially with this Glen thing,
I can't even believe how petty he's being.
- With Glen, I told Beth, stand up for yourself.
Don't take this bull from anybody.
You do not deserve this as a human being, as a woman.
when he starts turn your back, don't say a word to him.
Don't egg him on, don't provoke him.
Don't let him insult you in that way,
do not let him put you down.
(dramatic strings play)