How to get a guy to commit before sex. This is a question that a lot of women ask me and
answering for you today. Hey, it's Mark here, Australian dating coach from Make Him Yours,
and you know I'm big for sexual empowerment. If you've seen my other videos, you know that
I'm a huge advocate for you enjoying sex on your terms when you want to. Now, that may
also mean delaying sex until commitment has been established and you still want to be
able to get the guy to commit in the meantime, if that's the case, when other women might
be willing to sleep with him. So without any games or manipulation, today, I'm going to
show you how to do that. I'm going to show you how to take the boyfriend benefits, the
full boyfriend benefits that I talk about in the academy and move them into getting
a guy to commit.
All right, so how to do this. Boyfriend benefit number one from the Academy, sex on tap. One
of the key reasons men commit is for a high quality, reliable source of exciting sex.
So you're not having sex with him, the question you then want to ask yourself is, how do I
get him excited for the future sexual experiences with me without using it as bait, and how
do I show my sexual confidence and femininity to him? So there's a number of ways you can
do this and they're all gonna get the guy excited to commit. The first one, for example,
simply showing how comfortable you are with your sexuality. Conversations around sex,
even silly innuendos like, that's what she said, show you're comfortable with that side
of yourself. In your own time, things like regular self-pleasure, understanding your
body, engaging with your sexual nature are all going to make you more sexual and more
connected to that side.
All of these things are going to come out when you're with him. He's gonna feel it.
It'll be in the way you walk, the way you look at him, the way you touch him, the way
you interact with him, your sexual and feminine confidence will all come across. The second
way is sexting. So sexting is a great way to tease him a little and get him excited
for the future sexual experiences with you. So there's a guide in the link, in the link
below. I'll put the card here as well, How to Sext A Guy, The Guide to Erotic, Classy
Sexting without sending a single photo. Make sure you download it. Mastering the art of
erotic sexting is a great way to get a guy excited for those future sexy experiences
with you. Just make sure you have a good text up your sleeve, if things go too far, something
like, "ha ha, nice try, mister. as much as I'd love that, you know my rules, you'll have
to be content with the fantasies for now. Mwah!"
And the third way to apply this is to display good control over your desires. So my first
partner believed in this. She believed in no sex before commitment and it didn't mean
though that she held back on intimacy. She would come over, she'd spend a lot of time
in my bed. We were very touchy, very intimate. She just kept her rule. She just kept her
rule. And it made me respect her standards and Jeez because a beautiful woman is in my
bed every night, I'm starting to go, Oh, this is, this is a pretty good cat, good character
to commit, right? So sex is not bait. However, it doesn't mean that you need to hold back
on intimacy as long as you're good at controlling your desires.
Boyfriend benefit number two is excitement. It's literally the fact that he can become
involved in your exciting life and it makes his life more exciting as a result. The question
you want to ask yourself is, how do I enjoy the most exciting, nonsexual experiences with
him? So one way to do this is to simply embrace a passion. It's not so much about what you
do, but the energy you show for it. When you have that energy and you bring that man into
that life, he's going to become more excited and his life will be lit up as a result. Another
way to do it is healthy priorities. Making sure you still do your yoga nights, all your
business seminars or whatever you're doing, he gets to to wonder what you're doing. Wonder
who you're meeting a little bit. He gets that excitement of, of wondering about your life
and then sometimes he gets invites as well and gets to be involved in it.
And a great third way is to take on my spontaneity challenge, check out my video on how to be
more spontaneous within six weeks. It's a great video and it's going to give you a structured
plan to add that excitement and spontaneity to your life, make you a more exciting person
to be around in the most authentic way possible. All right. The third boyfriend benefit is
loyalty. So this is the man's knowledge to know that you're not giving yourself over
to other men, that you are committed to him. This is a really important boyfriend benefit
and as I talk about in the Academy, it's one that women give away a lot and don't think
about. The questions you want to be asking yourself is how do I stand out from other
women, and do I want to commit to him? It's amazing how many women get into this commitment-focused
mindset and forget to ask themselves is the gift of being single even worth giving up
for this guy.
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All right, how to show loyalty. So how do you display this boyfriend benefit before
sex. Well, the first and most important way is to apply the 10% rule. Now, I spoke about
this in another video. I'll put the link in the description and the card up the top. Basically
you judge a man on the last 10% of the time you've known him. So if you've known him two
months, you're judging him on his efforts in about the last six to seven days. When
you do that, you know that you're going to be keeping him on his toes, not because you're
manipulating him or because you're trying to, trying to keep him moving and doing stuff,
you're just making sure that he's adding value to your life on a regular basis. And if he
stops adding value, if he's doesn't text for a week or two, you know that you're willing
to walk away from that guy. That keeps him wanting to invest in you and to qualify himself
to you. The second is to keep seeing other men, or at least having one that if you are,
until he's actually told you that he's not seeing other women, he can wonder if you're
seeing other men. And the third way is to know how you stand out from other women. You
know, I've never had an issue with the woman I'm casually dating seeing other men because
I know I stand out in my own way. You know, there might be other great guys, there might
even be guys that that steal them away, but I know that those guys were better suited
to them if that's the case.
And I always know that I stand out in my special way. So you've got to know the ways that you
stand out as well. And the final most important boyfriend benefit is love. Your love in the
form of support and companionship is ultimately the greatest gift that a man gets by committing.
Thus, the question you want to ask yourself is, have I shown him, have I given him a window
into what it's going to be like to have me to have my love at his back while also keeping
good boundaries around it? So the ways to do this, the the actions that you want to
take, ask yourself, have I shown him what he can expect? Have I shown him the energy
that I bring to his life? That companion, the friend, the supporter when I'm around
him? Have I given him the full girlfriend experience?
When he gets to see you, does he get a window into that? Do you, does your love light up
his life in the way no other woman can? The second thing to check on is are your boundaries
good around it? So he gets this beautiful window into your love and then it gets healthily
managed with the other priorities in your life because you know that true commitment,
beck and call love where you're there for him all the time, that is a special benefit
saved for boyfriends and partners. And you know, just to add to that with love, it's
not just about showing him what it is and the light that that brings and then having
healthy boundaries around it. It's also about you knowing the value of it. You know, I have
a friend and things started so well with this guy. She was, you know, she was giving him
love.
He was, he was appreciating that in his life. He was inviting it in and then he went to
hospital and, and got quite sick and he got himself through it. And then he came out and
he needed some care at home and she was providing that care. She was bringing her love. She'd,
she'd go over there, she'd, you know, take time off work. She'd bring him food, just
all these loving girlfriend things. And he started to get rude to her. And you know,
I think I told the long version of the story in another video, but bottom line is she kept
bringing this love to his life. She kept throwing at someone, throwing it at someone who wasn't
appreciating it, and it made it look like it was worthless. The guy treated it like
it was worthless and pretty soon he'd lost attraction and lost value for that love.
So you've got to remember the gift that that is and you know, judge a man on the last 10%
if he starts not appreciating that, if he starts fucking it up, you still maintain that
ability to walk away. Okay, so there you are. There's the full boyfriend benefits and how
to get a guy to commit with zero games before sex. Five questions to ask yourself. Number
one, am I coming from the right place? Is my intent here coming from an empowered place
with wanting this guy to commit before sex. Number two, how do I get him excited for the
sexual experiences with me, and how do I showcase my sexual confidence and femininity? Number
three, what are the exciting experiences, non-sexual experiences that we're going to
enjoy together, and how do I become the most exciting person in my own life? Number four,
how do I stand out from other women and do I even want to commit to him?
And number five, how do I showcase my light, my love, my support, and companionship in
his life while maintaining healthy boundaries around it? Those are the five questions to
ask yourself to get a guy to commit before sex. It's simple, not necessarily easy, but
simple. Keep these in mind and I promise you, you have absolutely no trouble getting a guy
to commit before sex has happened. Well, that's the video. Thank you for watching. Let me
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