If you want to change something in your life and you are what i call energy poor
low energy are you going to follow through yes or no
you love your husband or wife but you're exhausted love you lovely yeah
okay there is no passion there is no intimacy without energy am i right
you're not going to go to build a business without energy you see this
crazy man he's filled with energy day night night and day
it's richard branson how much energy does that man have he's insane in his
energy anybody i've ever met who is really has this compelling
ability to engage with people it's energy but are they born with it
some maybe most not because i've interviewed him
i've seen him and i also see some of them like richard
richard is a ball of fire of energy and then he's not
he's actually a very internal guy in many ways he's external when he wants to
go do something he's crazy and willing to risk his life
not in business in business he goes okay i'm going to take virgin and make virgin
airways so how can i lose oh i'm going to make a deal with boeing
that if they fail i get to give him the jets back
that's how he thinks in his life let me go in the middle of a balloon in the
middle of the sky and hope [ __ ] happens
the point is engaging people have that kind of energy doesn't matter who they
are where they are they have that kind of experience
so what you and i got to do is got to tap that out so how many of you have had
times when you were in the flow where energy was going through you like
you didn't have to think about it the right thing was said the right thing
came out of you who's been in this place before say i
oh come on say i who's ever had a time where you did something after you did it
you thought ah i can't believe i said that i can't
believe i did that that was so stupid who's done this before say i
who's done something right after you did it you went
that was me who's ever impressed yourself say i
now you're the same person how come one situation you're an idiot the other one
you're brilliant who's ever forgotten how to spell your
own how to remember let's say your own email
or your home phone number or how to spell a difficult word like the let me
use your hands here in fact phone numbers are crazy now for
most of us right because now we have this
outboard brain if we lose this brain we're screwed
i don't even know how to call my mom for god's sakes right you don't know what to
do or you don't have this thing so the point of the matter is if we
increase the energy it'll work so now here's the thing where does energy come
from does energy come from sleep
yes or no really who here has ever slept eight hours and still been tired as [ __ ]
let me see your hands right here okay so that wasn't it right is it
food that gives you energy really really thanksgiving's coming
i know what you're going to do right you're going to get to thanksgiving it's
about giving thanks you're going to take care of this
nurtured body of yours you're going to say no
you know give me the vegetables a little this little that right
now what do people do at thanksgiving what do they do eat
everything within reach and when you're totally stuffed and you can't have
another bite and you say i'll never what i'll never
eat again and somebody goes pumpkin pie you're okay
come on who's knows i'm talking about here and by the way what happens after
you feel like going for a run what do you want to do at the end of
that meal tell me what who here has ever fasted for five six
seven days or more going on a fast does your energy increase or decrease as
you no longer eat which one increases massively so
if it's not food and it's not sleep don't get me wrong those are useful then
what is it the answer is it's psychology it's a mindset
it's a decision inside yourself where you say i will no longer tolerate
low energy in my life because low energy equals [ __ ] relationship
that's a technical term low energy means low lousy business low poor energy means
i no longer have the impact on my children
someone else with greater energy is going to and if we can find a way to
increase our energy and here's the good news about it
it's psychology and it's movement the way you move will create it so i'd like
to start out right now with no more passiveness
and let's get active who's willing to do this say i stand up you've been sitting
way too long stand up shake your body out
shake it out come on we've been sitting way too long shake it out shake it out
check it out and then before we do anything else just
to get you going a little bit stretch up a little bit here
go over to one side give it a nice deep moan like a little kid go moan
oh come on louder mow the other side back high pitch moan forward deep moan
shake your body out a little bit now here's like to do just get started
let's set a new standard and a way to do that with people like yourself
who are completely non-competitive is simple
i want you to turn to someone next to you i want you to point them and go i
own you go ahead try i own you that means i am challenging you
lazy tired person and here's what we're gonna do emotion
listen to me now how many like to have more joy in your
life more excitement more passion more aliveness who wants more of this stuff
say ah can you have everything in your life
work out and still be in a lousy state can you achieve your goals and go
in fact in our society it's almost encouraged because if you do really well
who's ever lowered your enthusiasm about something you achieved because you
didn't want to upset somebody else who's done this before
but by the way it teaches your brain never to go for it never to feel great
so the first thing with you is really simple i just want you to try not using
your head but just your body and i just want you to turn the person
point and go i own you go ahead i own you some of you have to
join a group of three we're into that go ahead
when i say now i want you to literally try to outdo
their body with energy i want you to shake the building like you're
celebrating the greatest sports victory of your life like you had
the greatest orgasm you've ever had and you were like a little kid
celebrating a lot like a boring adult ready face the person you're gonna outdo
them for 30 seconds one two three go go go now high five
your partner and say you rock baby
now does that feel better yes or no a question for you when you feel better
do you treat other people better or worse
when you feel better you perform at a higher level or lower level
when you feel better you're a better lover or a lesser lover
good now here's what i want to understand if you and i can train
ourselves to make our nervous system play at a
higher level and that becomes our standard
then all of a sudden it'll feel effortless but in the beginning it's
like lifting away it feels stupid feels like what is this weird crap
but i'm not into that i'm not into positive thinking i'm into results who's
with me on that say i and every great athlete knows how to put
themselves in state every great musician know that puts themself in a state
we need to be able to do it and if you try to do with your mind you'll succeed
sometimes you'll fail others because your brain is always circulating
you can always rationalize something right
but the body used effectively can change it all
so i'd like you to try something real quick if you're a leader in this room
how many consider yourself a leader in what you do for a living when you see
your hands i figured almost everybody so if you're
a leader that doesn't mean other people follow you by the way it just means you
live life on your terms you don't settle for less than you can
do or be or share or give so that's your mindset you've got to say
okay if i'm really going to be a leader in my life
then i need to own my energy my certainty i can't just
wait till i feel good to do things i got to be able to get myself to feel good
and not phony and not fake so i'd like to show you as a leader your skill as a
leader your number one skill that makes you a leader is your ability
to influence is it true and who do you have to influence first
that's right you can't influence you you're giving somebody else but your
ability influence the thoughts the feelings the emotions the behaviors
other people if you do that then you will be able to engage the
world and yourself so how do we do that well to influence other people hear me
now to influence other people you have to know what already influences
them if you try to get your kid to clean the room the way it would work for you i
promise you it probably doesn't work that way for them
everyone's different but there are some universals and one thing that influences
all of us is our state if you're in a pissed off state have you
ever had a friend do something nice and you're in a pissed off state and you
snap at them and you feel bad later on it was just the state you're in who
knows what i'm talking about here say i so we need to train ourselves to be in a
better state and the second thing it affects what we do long term
besides our state that's what affects things moment the moment is we all have
a set of beliefs or expectations or we might call it a
blueprint for how life's supposed to be