Alright, the reason why you clicked on this video is because he probably would
have it in a situation with your wife and you don't know what to do and she's
driving you crazy or you're driving her crazy. But let's talk. I want to share
with you what you could do to be different so you could work through this.
Let's, I mean just watch. Watch this video you'll see what it is that you need to
change.
Okay, I'm talking to the men right now. And sometimes your wife is going to
drive you crazy. What you do when your wife is driving you crazy? Okay, so I'm
reaching out to all my friends out there in the world that you got this... You got
the situation where your wife and it's finally reached a point, she's driving
you crazy and you don't know what to do. Alright, so let me let me just share with
you what has made a difference for me in understanding my wife. Been married now
for 28 years. And over 28 years, there's been a lot of situations happening. A lot
of experiences, a lot of struggles, a lot of difficulties. This is what I've
learned about women. Here's something I've learned about women. And men, I'm
sure you would agree with this that women are different and they think
differently. And they process differently. And they are not the same as we are. And
we need to be very, very, very, very clear that we don't assume that they
understand what we understand. Now, the reason why there's men and women is
because we're to help each other in those areas that we don't see things. So,
we can play a very big role in helping them with whatever their struggle is or
whatever's happening in this situation. But number 1, we as a man, we do not
back down. What happens is sometimes as a man, we think well the only way we're
going to be able to solve this is if I back down and let her be the way she's being
and I just need to back down. I don't back down. But I do change my approach.
Instead of trying to be you know, the man and I'm going to get my point across. Now,
what I need to do is I need to actually change the way I'm listening. Because if
we're not communicating, there's something going on and she's driving me
nuts. I need to listen a little bit better. So I don't back down. A man who
backs down actually scares his wife. Once you start to back down,
your wife will feel you become weak. And that'll actually
caused her to intensify. Because you're backing down. A wife wants to know that
her husband can face life and life will not beat him up. And some of the things
that happen is sometimes she is the one that you're facing. And if she sees you
back down to her, then she knows anything can smash you because she feels struggle
and weakness and you know, all the deficiencies about her life. And so when
she sees that she can cause you to back down, it scares her. So, we as men, we do
not back down. And we do not raise our voice. So, we don't back down and we don't
raise our voice. We don't go those directions. We stay neutral. The best
thing we can do as men is to stay neutral and the best way for us to be
able to solve what's going on is to stay neutral. So, if you get triggered and you
you go to loudness because you think you need to yell or yell back or be loud
like that, that's not going to work. Contention doesn't solve a problem. And
also backing down doesn't solve the problem either. So, you get to practice
being neutral. You get to practice being neutral. And you will most likely feel
intensity inside of your body and inside your voice. But it doesn't give you the
right to say it. Just because you feel it, doesn't mean it should come out of you.
We as men, we get to be the leaders in our relationships. We get to be the
leader, not the controller. 2 different ways. Controller wants to control other
people, to control the environment. A leader helps bring out the best in
everyone. So, you are a leader in your marriage. You're a leader in the family.
And you find this neutral place and why you can find this neutral place is
because you exercise every day, you eat vegetables every day and through
exercise and good eating, it helps purge a lot of those negative feelings you
have inside. And really great intense exercise purges
all that negativity inside of your body. That way, you can stay neutral. And you're
going to work through the problem. So, you got listening, you got be neutral. You're
not going to go loud, you're not going to back down. So, you got neutral, you got
listening and then you get out of pad of paper and you start to write down what's
happening. What's the problem, what's the challenge, who are we talking about, what
do we need to do to solve this. And you're just brainstorming. Remember,
remember, that a woman talks her thoughts. That's all she's doing, is when she's
expressing herself, that's how she sorts things out. She sorts them out through
having a conversation. We as guys, we go inward to solve our problem and women go
verbal to solve their problems. So as she's expressing all of the things that
are going on in her life, don't jump in there and fix stuff. It's it's a way for
you to listen to her. And she'll ask you things like well, "What am I supposed to
do? What am I supposed to say?" Okay, don't... Don't bite those hooks. Don't get
caught up in that. You don't answer those questions. What you do say is you go, "Oh,
wow. Yea,h what would you do?" And then she'll just carry on with the
conversation. So, during the conversation, you're not solving problems. You're
engaging in the conversation. And when she says, "What should we do?" And you go,
"That's a great idea. We should figure this out." She needs to talk it out to
sort it out. And women are brilliant. They're brilliant at solving problems.
They just want a sounding board. They want someone to listen to them. And one
of the reasons why your wife's probably driving you crazy is because you're
trying to fix her, you're trying to solve everything, you're you're thinking you
need to back down or get loud to solve what's going on to try to calm her down.
No, you just let her be. You protect this space so that she can express herself.
That's what we do as men. We protect the space.
And after she lets all of it out, she notices that you're still neutral. And
that is impressive to her. She was very impressed. She either could be really
upset or very super impressed. She could be upset that she couldn't shake you,
she couldn't rattle you. But it will turn into being impressed. Sooner or later.
Don't fight with your wife. Don't even waste the time. Don't even waste the time.
Most women are afraid, they're scared and hurt. And they have that in them. And the
reason why is because they have feminine energy. And feminine energy is super
sensitive to other people's feelings and other people's lives. And so, they easily
get hurt. They easily get upset and they easily get scared and frustrated and
worried. And that's just just them. But we're here to show them that we're a
safe place. So, if your wife's driving you crazy,
it's okay. Hang in there. Just exercise everyday, eat your vegetables everyday,
exercise every day. A good amount of exercise. 30 minutes at
least exercise every day to burn off your negative energy and negative
language so that you could be neutral. We're here to be here for them. Because
they're brilliant, they're intelligent. They can solve problems, that can solve
relationship, challenges and we we work with them. So, if you're having... If your
wife's driving you crazy, maybe it's you that needs to change. And it's something
to learn. Something to learn. And when they see that you can be neutral, it'll
help them realize they can learn to be neutral too. And they can solve life
problems together. Solve life challenges together. So, men and women are there to
do is to be together. You know, to be married and so that you can solve
problems together. Not fight. Don't fight. Talk. Talk it out. You'll do good. Okay, so
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