You have issues
more specifically
you have trust issues.
And I completely understand
you've been through a lot,
people have betrayed you, let you down
and they've given you reason
to be very skeptical,
but we can't continue like that,
it needs to be fixed.
So, I want you to stay tuned
as we break down
three ways for you to overcome
your trust issues.
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Hey, what's up everybody,
this is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
your certified life and relationship coach
here to provide you with
relationship advice, dating advice,
marriage advice, life advice,
all kinds of help and guidance and insight
to help you experience better
in your life.
Now, before we get into this main topic
of three ways
to overcome your trust issues,
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do you genuinely have trust issues?
Let's be honest,
let's be open with each other.
This is a safe place
I want you to tell me in the comments
yes, I have issues and maybe tell me why,
give me some
insight on what you've experienced,
but give me some feedback
I want to hear from you guys.
Do you feel like you have trust issues?
Do you feel like
you struggle with trusting people?
And if you don't, let me know and let me
know maybe why you don't
because maybe in explaining why you don't
you can help someone else see how they can
overcome and be better in their life
in regards to this specific issue.
Let's get started with
three ways to overcome
trust issues, all right.
So, number one,
you need to heal from your past first.
Listen, if you follow me,
if you watch my videos,
then you know I'm all about healing.
And it's extremely important
and the reality is that
having trust issues
is a manifestation
of a lack of healing in your life.
As I mentioned, I understand
you've been through some things,
I understand people have hurt you.
But unfortunately you've internalized that hurt,
you've held onto it
and you haven't properly resolved it.
So, now, that creates
a high level of skepticism
for anyone in your life or
for people who seem similar
to the people who have betrayed
you in your past or
who have hurt you in your past.
So, taking time to focus
on the healing process
and flushing all of that negative energy
hurt and pain out of your system
is going to be extremely important
in getting on a better path.
And no longer walking around with all this negative
perceptions, negative mindset,
and negative energy that you've been holding on to.
Now, in order to heal,
I have my special book for you,
Finding Love After Heartbreak.
You need to check this out
it lays out the
specific steps to healing.
It's what I've been giving my coaching clients
for years.
Lack of healing is so prevalent
in our society
and people are always asking
well, how do I heal? How do I heal?
But I don't expect all you guys
to come to me for coaching
one-on-one. And I really couldn't even handle it
to be honest with you. So,
my solution was to put it in a book
for you guys to able to digest it
really process what's being said
understand the steps you need to take
and you're going to start to see amazing results.
Trust, if you do what's in the book
you're going to see a huge difference
you're going to set yourself free
once and for all
and it's going to be an amazing experience for you.
So, click the link in the comment section,
click the link in description,
get your copy of Love After Heartbreak.
It's extremely, extremely important.
Do not neglect the need to heal
and even if you don't think you need healing,
which chances are you do,
you just don't realize it,
I will still highly
encourage you to check the book out
because again, and the healing
isn't just for relationships.
It's for
improving any aspect of your life
and the healing includes,
healing from things from
past relationships,
your mother, your father,
your siblings, anyone who hurt you,
but I'm going to stop there.
Check out the book
focus on your healing make it happen.
So, number two key to
overcoming your trust issues
or you know, your lack of
trust in relationships
is start to be open and transparent
about your struggle.
So, here's the thing,
when we don't trust people, all right.
And we carry this high level of skepticism
and we keep it close to our chest.
Again, one it stresses us out, all right.
We're always on the lookout, we're always kind of on
edge with these situations
and these relationships.
And that almost projects
or not even almost, that does project
negativity on to the situation
and then creates more negativity.
However, by letting it out,
one, you start to release that burden
that you're carrying around with you.
Number two, you start to put
the other person on notice.
Like, once they know
you are acknowledging you
have trust issues
they're going to think twice
about breaking your trust.
They're going to think twice about doing
the exact things that you're afraid
or concerned about them doing.
No one likes to be called out.
Now, it doesn't guarantee
that they'll never do anything to hurt you.
Doesn't guarantee they won't
ever do anything to break your trust,
but they will think twice.
It does decrease
the chances of it happening.
So, you're able to start to now
overcome it because you're
creating a better environment
where everyone understands where we're at,
how we're feeling,
and what we need to do to make this better.
And again by letting it out,
letting, getting it out, getting it off your chest,
you're helping yourself be less
on edge about the issue.
So, be open and honest about it.
Now, again yes,
that isn't by itself
going to solve the problem.
You've got to do the healing too,
all right. So, the healing is going to always be
a part of this process,
but by being more open and
transparent you will
definitely, definitely
give yourself a big boost
in overcoming your trust issues.
And then the last key
to overcome or to you know,
to get past this trust issue that you have
is
learning to trust God not people.
So, here's the thing,
I don't care who you are
we're all capable of
being shady at some point.
We're all capable of letting someone down.
We're all capable of hurting someone
even when it's not intentional, all right.
We are human that is the human flaw
we all possess there's nothing wrong with that.
However, when we start to now
attempt to put full trust into
human beings
we're asking for disappointment.
We're asking to be let down
because again no one
can live up to that, not for ever.
At some point,
they're going to make a mistake.
So, my thing is
learn to put your trust in God instead.
God is the one who won't let you down.
God is the one you can rely on,
but people, we're not made to be perfect.
We just don't have that in us.
So, understanding to now shift
your attention or your focus
to God instead of people.
You really empower yourself in situations,
you also start to learn that
your dealings with people,
your willingness
to be in a relationship
is not contingent upon
them gaining your trust.
Is contingent upon finding out
does God even want you there?
Because again,
if God doesn't want you to deal with them,
whether they're trustworthy or not
you don't belong there, period.
And if God wants you there,
even if they are the most
shady person there is
a purpose for it.
And sometimes we can't see it,
but something amazing is going to come
out of that situation
and we've got to trust God in that.
So, really lean on God when it comes to
your trust issues and that's going to
really help set you free
and make things a lot easier
for you going forward.
Because again, people,
I don't even believe in a hundred percent trust
in anybody.
I think that's just naive,
I think it's silly to think
that anyone can live
up to that standard
because again, mistakes are going to be made
and it's not that people are out here
trying to hurt you and trying to betray you.
Sometimes people are so caught up in
their own feelings
and maybe their selfish desires
in that moment
that they do lose sight
of how they're now
hurting you, how they're now, you know,
coming against you in the wrong way
and creating this negative
impact in your life.
So, again, just, just trust God
not people. So, the quick recap,
we got heal from your past,
we got be more open and transparent
about your struggle,
and we got trust God
not people.
So, again, get your copy
Love After Heartbreak
you need to read it, trust me
it's going to be one of the best things you've ever read
as long as you actually do the steps in the book.
Click the link in the description,
click the link in the comment section,
be sure to like and subscribe to my channel.
And again,
let me know about your trust issues,
let me know if you have them, all right.
Let's talk to each other, let's
have conversation,
let's help each other out because again,
so many people feel like
they're walking alone in these struggles,
but when they start to see that other people are
experiencing the same things,
it starts to empower them.
And we start to create a community where we
all can grow
and become better.
So, thank you for watching the video,
I hope you're enjoying all of them,
and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.
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