- How to control your boyfriend
to get anything that you want.
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Hello, my beautiful ladies.
My name is Greta Bereisaite.
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So in this video,
I will share with you a top secret
on how to control your boyfriend
to get anything that you want.
But before I share with you the secret,
please take my test,
Are You A Woman of High Value or Low Value,
which I will drop down in the video description box below.
So let me share with you first
four most common ways on how
controlling a guy makes you lose a guy
so you don't do his crucial mistakes.
My first most common way on how to lose a guy
by controlling him in the correct way
is asking him where are you,
who are you with,
what time you coming home.
So ladies, this turns guys off big time
because by asking him these questions,
you come across as you're really insecure
and that you do not trust him.
He's gonna be like,
you're not my mom,
you're not my dad,
I'm not a child,
why are you behaving with me this way.
The potential result of this will be
that he will want to break true the cage
that you are trying to set up for him.
This way of control never works
and it actually makes you lose a guy very fast.
The second way of how controlling a guy does not work
is victimizing yourself and guilt tripping.
For example, you never spend time with me,
we never hang out,
we never go over here,
we never go there.
Guilt tripping another person does not work
as the guy needs to give you
what he wants to give you freely.
Let's say you have that friend that is quite needy,
attention seeking,
and now your friend wants more attention from you
so they come to you guilt tripping you,
oh, Greta,
we never go out,
you never call me,
you never tell me how you are,
you never ask me how I am.
You're just focused on yourself,
I feel so lonely.
Ladies, would you go out with that friend?
No, you would be like,
hold on a minute,
make yourself happy,
you cannot make me go out with you
if I don't want to go out with you.
And if I will still go out with you
because you're victimizing yourself,
I will go out with you because I feel petty for you.
That's not love.
So ladies,
trying to control a man by victimizing yourself
or guilt tripping him
will never work because he's not gonna go out
with you because he feels petty for you.
A guy is not gonna be with a girl
that he feels sorry for.
Guy is gonna be with a girl that he admires,
that he values,
that he respects,
a girl who makes herself happy
and is a high value woman.
And ladies, how to be a woman of high value,
please check out my free video right here.
The third way of how controlling a man never works
is when he's trying to break up with you
and you're holding onto him.
You're saying,
please don't break up with me,
I love you so much,
don't leave me this way,
I have done this and this
and this for you,
how could you just break up with me like that.
Ladies, telling a guy not to dump you
is another form of trying to control
his behavior that does not work.
What's gonna happen instead,
he will start seeing you as low value,
as desperate, as sad,
as a girl who cannot live without him,
the opposite of a challenge,
the opposite of what a man finds attractive.
Ladies, how to be a woman who is a challenge piece,
check out my link right here.
If a guy is trying to break up with you
and you're going to try
and chase him in order to control him,
to stay with you,
this will backfire
and even if he gets back to you
because he feels sorry for you,
long-term, he will still break up with you
because again, no man will stay
with a woman that he sees as low value, desperate
and feels sorry for.
Fourth way on how controlling a guy
does not work is telling him what to do.
So for example, if you are dating a smoker,
but you don't like that guy smokes
and you want him to stop smoking
so telling him to stop smoking because you don't like that
or threatening to break up with him because he smokes.
Or if a guy has a hobby that you do not like
and you were aware of that hobby
when you were getting into a relationship with him,
now you're telling him
to leave that hobby behind
and not to do it anymore
because you do not like it.
Ladies, telling a guy what to do
or what not to do does not work.
First, he's gonna get rebellious
and he's gonna be like,
you're not my mom,
you're not my dad,
I'm a grown man who can do whatever I want to do.
I have the freedom to what I want to do.
And the second thing,
what often happens is when you tell a guy
that you don't like something about him,
he'll just started doing it behind your back.
So ladies, these were four ways on how controlling a guy
and trying to get him to please you
does not work.
Now, ladies,
let me share with you this top secret,
how to control your guy
to get anything that you want.
Now, the answer to this,
ladies, but don't get disappointed
because a good part is coming,
you cannot control the other person.
You can only control yourself.
However, this is the good part,
when you master self-control of yourself,
this is when you end up controlling others
and getting them to do anything that you want.
How?
Well, when you make yourself happy,
people want to spend time with you.
When you are independent,
you're not focused on him,
but you are focused on yourself
and do your own thing,
automatically, he will want to know
where are you and who are you with.
So by being happy,
independent and focused on yourself,
you will end up controlling him.
The more you take responsibility for your behavior,
the more independent you are of your life.
The more you make yourself happy,
the more people want to be with you,
the more people are curious about you,
the more people want to find out more.
So by controlling yourself,
you end up controlling others also.
And how to control your boyfriend
to get anything that you want?
Ladies, when you are an amazing woman
who is in control of her life,
who is focused on her life,
who is making herself happy,
he will be so smitten by you
that he'll do anything for you to give you what you want.
And ladies, if you would like to know
how to make a guy fall in love with you,
please watch my free video right here.
So now, ladies,
that you know how not to control
the other person in order not to lose him
and how you can control the other person
by controlling yourself first,
do not forget to take my self awareness free quiz,
Are You A Woman of High Value or Low Value,
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Thank you so much for watching, queens.
Kisses from Manchester.