- Hey guys!
I am in Thailand right now, Bangkok.
And I taught a memory seminar here
which is what I do, I travel around,
teach people how to memorize.
I got a question at my memory seminar yesterday:
how do you forget?
And it's a question I've gotten a lot
over the last 25 years, but I've
never done a video on how to do it.
Now what do I mean by how to forget?
A lot of people have experiences
that they just want to ... they don't
want to remember anymore because it's painful or whatever.
I have two strategies here for you on this.
First of all, let's say you're watching TV,
and some terrible news comes on
that it's just really disturbing.
Maybe a child has been hurt or injured
or killed or just something terrible.
For me that's a terrible story.
The worst thing I could do, if
I don't want to dwell on this and
be thinking about this to where
it's bothering me, if a bad news
story comes on TV, you don't want
to just turn off the TV.
Because if you turn off the TV, that was
the last thing you saw.
So what's your brain going to be doing?
Your brain's going to be replaying
and replaying the last thing you saw.
The best thing you can do is not
turn off the TV.
The best thing that you can do
is change the channel and start
watching something else.
Watch a different program for 10 or 15 minutes
and then turn off the TV because
that will be the last thing that you thought of.
I never want to end the night or end the day
or even if I hear a story that's just
really troubling to me, I will
change the channel to a different channel.
That doesn't mean I live in a bubble,
that doesn't mean that I don't
acknowledge reality and that there's
bad things out there, but sometimes
you just don't want something to stick
in your head.
So that's how you would forget it.
Number two, there's another strategy
for you.
Let's say that you've got a memory
that's just really painful and
really bothers you a lot.
We have the power, we have the power
to control how our memories see that memory.
And this is what I mean.
Try this.
Every time you think of that memory
change it.
In other words, if right now you can think of it,
that memory in the background,
if you made it brighter and bigger
and bigger and bigger in your memory,
you're probably going to experience
more pain and it's just going to
become more real and it's going to get bigger
and it's going to get bigger in your head.
And then every time you remember it,
it's just going to be worse and worse and worse.
But what if every time you remember that memory,
you can change the colors?
In other words, don't remember it
as bright and vivid, but darken the colors.
And then instead of making it big,
make it really small in your brain
and maybe put it way way way way way way
back in the background and take
that painful memory, make it smaller,
push it back and see yourself pushing it back.
And then every time you think of that memory,
change it this way.
Make it smaller.
Make it darker.
Push it away.
And over time, you can change the way
that memory affects how you feel,
how it changes your state.
And so those are really two tips
on how to forget.
Number one, change the channel.
And I don't just mean the television.
I mean if you have a bad thought
or if you have something coming up in your mind,
put something repositive in there.
Replace it with something positive.
So that's kind of the analogy of
changing the channel: replacing with something positive.
And then the second step is, actually
change that memory in your brains.
Did you know that our brains really
do that anyways?
If you take a memory, and then
somebody asks you about it two
or three years later, the same situation,
your memory is actually going to have
changed the reality of what happened.
So, your memory does that unconsciously
and on it's own, so let's do it purposefully
to our benefit so we can forget
the things that we no longer want to remember.
Those are my two strategies on
how to forget.
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