TERRY CREWS HAS FILED A POLICE REPORT ALLEGING ABUSE BY A
HIGH LEVEL EXECUTIVE.
SINCE CREWS ALLEGED INCIDENT OCCURRED LAST YEAR IT IS
WITHIN THE STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS FOR CALIFORNIA.
YOU MAY REMEMBER THAT HE DID TWEET ABOUT AN INCIDENT
THAT HAPPENED TO HIM.
HE SAID HIS WIFE SAW EVERYTHING AND THIS AGENT JUST LOOKED
AT HIM LIKE HE WAS CRAZY.
YOU THOUGHT ABOUT BEATING HIM UP BUT HE KNEW THE HEADLINE WOULD
BE 240 POUND BLACK MAN STOMPS OUT HOLLYWOOD HONCHO, SO HE
DECIDED OTHERWISE.
HE DIDN'T WANT TO TAKE IT
FURTHER AT THE TIME BECAUSE HE
DIDN'T WANT TO BE OSTRACIZED WHICH IS PAR FOR THE COURSE WHEN
THE PRINTER HAS POWER AND INFLUENCE.
THIS STORY IS PRETTY CRAZY BECAUSE WE DO NOT TALK ABOUT
SEXUAL ASSAULT WHEN IT COMES TO MEN.
UNFORTUNATELY THE POWER DYNAMIC IS SUCH THAT WOMEN ARE THE
VICTIMS IN MOST CASES SO IT IS VERY POWERFUL THAT TERRY
CREWS CAME FORWARD.
HE HOPES THAT HIS STORY WILL DETER PREDATORS AND HELP
SOMEONE THAT FEELS HOPELESS.
MEN UNDERREPORT SEXUAL ASSAULTS AND WE KNOW THESE NUMBERS
ARE HARD TO TRACK DOWN.
NOW THAT HE IS GOING TO THE LAPD THERE ARE CHARGES BEING FILED.
THIS IS SOMETHING THAT IS NEW AND DIFFERENT IN THIS
PLAYING FIELD.
>> IT HAS A LOT OF THE SAME ELEMENTS WE HAVE JUST BEEN
TALKING ABOUT.
POWERFUL DYNAMIC THAT IS IN FAVOR OF THE ASSAULTER.
THE PERSON WHO WAS ASSAULTED IS WORRIED ABOUT LOSING WHAT LITTLE
THEY HAVE.
WHAT HAS CHANGED IS THAT NOW HE HAS GROWN IN STATURE.
THE ATMOSPHERE HAS CHANGED.
HE EVEN NOTES THE FACT THAT WITH THE WEINSTEIN ALLEGATIONS COMING
OUT HE FELT LIKE HE WANTED TO STEP FORWARD BECAUSE HE'S
GETTING FLASHBACKS.
>> MAKING THIS AS UNSAFE A SPACE FOR PREDATORS IS ONE OF THE
REALLY OVERWHELMING POSITIVES THAT HAS COME OUT OF THIS
REALLY GROSS SITUATION.
I WANT TO ALSO ACKNOWLEDGE THE BRAVERY OF PEOPLE COMING OUT.
I MENTIONED BEFORE BUT THEY HAVE LITERALLY EVERYTHING TO LOSE
AND NOTHING TO GAIN FROM COMING OUT AND TALKING ABOUT THESE.
WE HAVE SEEN IN THE PAST PEOPLE NOT BELIEVING THE VICTIMS
THAT DO END UP COMING OUT.
I'M A BIG GUY AS WELL.
I'M 6 FOOT FOUR AND 240 POUNDS AND I HAVE BEEN GROPED BEFORE.
PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT WAY OF DEALING WITH IT.
FOR ME IT WAS A DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE.
I WAS CONFUSED BY IT OBVIOUSLY.
I DISCUSSED IT WITH YOU AND ANOTHER FRIEND OF OURS ñ
WILL WAS ALSO SOMEWHAT ASSAULTED IN A SIMILAR FASHION.
>>WHAT DID YOU DO?
IGNORE IT?
>> I TOLD THE PERSON MULTIPLE TIMES TO BACK OFF.
SO I JUST LEFT NOT REALIZING HE WOULD CONTINUE TO DO IT.
BUT WHAT I LEARNED FROM THAT STORY IS IN THAT INSTANCE IF YOU
DON'T DEAL WITH IT OR INFORM PEOPLE THEN HE CAN GO AND COMMIT
THE SAME THINGS ON OTHER PEOPLE AS WELL.
DOES HAPPEN TO MEN AS WELL.
>> THERE IS SUCH A STIGMA AROUND MEN TALKING ABOUT AND I THINK IT
IS BOLD AND BRAVE TO EVEN COME FORWARD AND SAY OKAY I WILL
BE THE FIRST PERSON TO SAY THIS HAPPENS TO MEN AS WELL.
IT DOES DISPROPORTIONATELY AFFECT WOMEN BUT MEN ARE
NOT EXCLUDED FROM THESE NUMBERS.
AGAIN WE CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH.
YOU HAVE EVERYTHING TO LOSE AND NOTHING TO GAIN FROM COMING
FORWARD.
WHAT I THINK IS GOING TO BE REALLY INTERESTING TO SEE IS NOW
THAT THERE ARE CHARGES TO BE FILED ñ THE LAPD HAS NOT
RESPONDED TO A REQUEST FROM HIS INSIDER ON THE SPECIFICS OF
WHAT WILL BE INVESTIGATED.
BUT I THINK IT IS AN IMPORTANT STEP IN DISSUADING PREDATORS
FROM FURTHERING WHAT WAS A VERY TOXIC CULTURE IN THIS INDUSTRY.
>> BY THE WAY, IN THESE INSTANCES IT IS HARD TO
HAVE A DIALOGUE ABOUT WHAT MEN MIGHT BE FEELING.
I HAVE LISTENED TO MANY DIFFERENT COMEDIANS AND OTHER
PERFORMERS TRIED TO UNPACK A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE IN THIS.
AND THE THING IS THERE NEEDS TO BE MORE COMMUNICATION ABOUT
WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT TO DO.
THIS IS A PIECE I AM WORKING ON CURRENTLY AND TALKING TO A BUNCH
OF FEMALE JOURNALISTS RIGHT NOW ñ TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE
BOUNDARIES ARE AND EXPLAINING TO THEM ñ BECAUSE WE COME FROM SUCH
PURITANICAL ROOTS ESPECIALLY IN TERMS OF THE WAY WE UNDERSTAND
SEXUALITY AND SEX ñ WE DON'T HAVE GREAT SEXUAL EDUCATION.
I DON'T JUST MEAN THAT IN A REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH SENSE, I
MEAN THAT IN A SEXUAL ETIQUETTE ñ BOUNDARIES.
WE NEED TO HAVE A SERIOUS, OPEN AND HONEST DIALOGUE ABOUT
CONSENT AND ESTABLISH MAY BE NEW BOUNDARIES WITH POTENTIAL
LEGAL IMPLICATIONS AROUND CONSENT.
AND I AM NOT EXCUSING VIOLENT PREDATORS BUT SEX IS A CONFUSING
THING ESPECIALLY AMONGST THE OPPOSITE GENDERS.
IT IS COMPLICATED.
THERE IS A LOT OF MYSTERY INVOLVED IN IT.
BECAUSE OF THAT AND BECAUSE OF THE MYSTERIOUS NATURE IT IS
DIFFICULT TO ASSESS WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND HOW IT MIGHT BE
PERCEIVED FROM THE OTHER SIDE.
ONE THING YOU DO TO SOMEONE MIGHT BE TOTALLY ACCEPTABLE TO
ANOTHER PERSON AND WORK IN YOUR FAVOR.
THE REASON WHY I AM MENTIONING THIS IS JUST TO SAY IF YOU ARE
FEARFUL THAT YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU FEEL AS
THOUGH YOU HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG, UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE
DOING ñ AND HOW YOUR ACTIONS MIGHT BE RECEIVED.
>> IN THE MALE-MALE SITUATION I CAN SEE THE WATER BEING MUDDIED.
BUT IN THE MALE-FEMALE SITUATION WHICH IS THE MAJORITY OF THESE
SITUATIONS, I DON'T SEE THE WATER AS MUDDY AT ALL.
IF
SOMEBODY GRABS AND GROPES YOU THAT IS CLEARLY OUT OF BALANCE
OR IF SOMEONE GRABS YOUR PENIS, YOU CAN STOP RIGHT THERE,
THAT WATER IS CLEAR.
>>THOSE ARE VERY OBVIOUS INSTANCES BUT WHAT I AM
REFERRING TO IS ñ THIS IS ALL WHAT I GOT FROM TALKING TO
FEMALE JOURNALISTS ñ WHAT PEOPLE PERCEIVE AS SEXUAL HARASSMENT
IS VERY PERSONAL TO THEM AND DIFFERS FROM CASE TO CASE.
AND A LOT OF THE FEEDBACK I GOT ñ VERY EASY ONE THAT ALMOST ALL
MEN AND WOMEN COMMIT BECAUSE I USED TO GIVE ADVICE TO ALL MY
FRIENDS ñ CONSTANTLY PURSUING SOMEONE COULD BE HARASSMENT.
YOU MIGHT BE DOING THAT RIGHT NOW AND YOU HAVE NO IDEA.
PART OF IT IS BECAUSE HOLLYWOOD IS KIND OF TRAINED US TO LOOK AT
CERTAIN THINGS AS "ROMANTIC" AND PEOPLE DON'T REALLY UNDERSTAND
THAT THEY GIVE INTO THEIR LIZARD BRAINS AND YOU CONSTANTLY TEXT A
GIRL THINKING EVENTUALLY THIS WILL CHANGE.
THOSE BEHAVIORS THAT YOU THINK MIGHT BE CREEPY COULD
POTENTIALLY BE HARASSING THE OTHER PERSON.
THAT IS WHAT I WAS REFERRING TO NOT OBVIOUS INSTANCES OF
GROPING OR DOING SOMETHING THAT IS BAD.
>> WHEN IT COMES TO THE SEXUALITY OF A SITUATION,
THE MALE-FEMALE STUFF IS CLEAR.
BUT I THINK THE MALE MAILE STUFF ñ WHAT DO YOU DO IN THAT
SITUATION?
TERRY CREWS COULD'VE JUST MOVED ON AND SAID THAT WAS SO FUCKED
UP.