Happiness is not something that someone else can gift you
happiness is not something your wife can give you happiness is something your wife can celebrate and elevate with you your children can celebrate and
Elevate with you happiness is something that you sit and you look at you touch you breathe
Happiness is something you take a step away from and you look over there and say what makes me happy when you can love
The perceiving the unlovable when you can love the perceiving unlovable and you can forgive the perceiving
Unforgivable that that society will give you permission to not forgive you forgive it
Any way that that Society will tell you you don't have to love that you love it anyway
And you don't just love and forgive you love and forgive out loud
that's
When you have an elevated sense of freedom, and that's when you become a change agent in your life
your life has a timeline, but your legacy doesn't
In my opinion the first thing to do is to become whole and complete with every decision you've ever made
Because we're holding ourselves
hostage to our past decisions actions
Behaviors the things we did that we felt we shouldn't do and the things that we felt we should have taken a leap on that
We didn't take a leap on so one become whole and complete with all of your past decisions
because when you know more you do more and you made all your decisions based on what you knew at the time and you can't
measure the man or woman you are based on the decision you made back then based on what you know now you
didn't know then what you know now so one become whole and complete with all your decisions two
Recognize that forgiveness is not about pardoning
Anyone else in your life decision is about opening up more internal real estate for love and possibility in yourself
So I think forgiveness of yourself and forgiveness of others
So if you ask me the two things one is to become whole and complete with your decisions and your actions from 20 years ago
Become whole and complete with those because you knew what you knew. That's why you did what you did and two
recognize that forgiveness
It's not about partnering a behavior. It's not about giving it's not about giving acceptance to what occurred
it's about opening up more real estate in your body in your
Heart and in your soul for what's possible in the future? Because two things can't occupy the same space
So where there's hate anger, shame blame there cannot be love possibility
Those two things if you just focus on those two things
Yeah, I can give you a list of 12 things, but those two can keep you busy, right?
so laser focus
We often operate like a floodlight trying to cover a whole lot of ground when we should operate like a laser
Let me penetrate this. Let me master this let me heal this people want to be convenient. They want growth and
convenience they want expansion and
Convenience and the moment it becomes challenging. They want to quit. My grandmother says baby. She starts every sentence with baby
I'm sure it's because she can't remember our names
because there is a lot of us she says baby your conviction and your convenience don't live on the same block
She said you have to be willing to be mildly to moderately to significantly
inconvenience, for that thing that you have a conviction for that thing that you're passionate about or at least tell the truth and
Say you really didn't want it in the first place
But don't sit here and complain and then quit when it gets hard because everything on the other side are your possible is
Everything on the other side of what you thought was possible is the impossible waiting to happen in your life
But you will never find your next best version of you sitting inside your comfort zone
So I'm amazed at how many people come to me and they tell me the list of what they want then when I give them
The what to do they go. Well that's hard and then I look at and you know me I'm edgy
I just give him a look I said
Did you think I was gonna give you the easy route and I don't know for myself
There's no easy in transformation, but you can decide what you want to call difficult
see I
Welcome
challenging cuz I know when I do that thing I don't want to do and I say that thing I don't want to say I
Access the woman. I've always known myself to be
when it comes to possibility healing hope
And getting up I want to be the standard by which other people measure possibility
And no one has ever asked me that question
but I never forgot my answer when she asked me because
everything I wanted to do was living into that intention of I want what I do the company the
conversation to be the standard by which what possibility and healing is measured by
Determination and resiliency see I'm not the fastest kid on the team. I'm not the smartest cookie in the cookie jar
I'm not I'm not the cutest girl in line. I'm not
But what I do have is more resiliency and determination than most
I'm not the one that's been able to dodge the bullet
I've been hit by the bullet, but I'm the one who was willing to love the shooter
That's the distinction
I'm not the one who got the hook-up. I'm the one who's willing to keep getting up
and if you're willing to keep getting up
You won't ever be afraid of being knocked down and if you're not afraid of not being
Knocked down, then you will give yourself permission to fly
Failure is my friend
Failure is my friend because I've learned how to fail forward
Darkness
Keeps me company because I've learned how to walk through it
I never take out real estate in my darkness. So I'm not afraid of darkness. So when you get to that place then
Everything is free game you wake up and say? Okay what next bring it on because I failed I failed today
I'm okay with that. I failed forward. I'll go through darkness again
Okay, cuz there's light on the other side now you taking out real estate?
I didn't even taking out lease option to buy. I ain't even doing a rent to own in my darkness
I'm gonna keep going. So now you welcome it all
And in 1992 I said I want to be the standard by what that possibility represents this is it just for some of us that
Abundance is our birthright
It's our birthright
regardless of our culture our religious background or economic status our geographical origin our physical appearance that abundance is
Our birthright it's not just for some people it is in fact for everyone. It's not a myth
It's a possibility
And it won't ever come to your door delivered by UPS or FedEx. You got to get up
You got to flex your muscles build the muscles that are in atrophy
Whether it's you're your quads your triceps your abs or your financial muscle your forgiveness
Muscle your emotional muscle your faith muscle
You got to build your muscles that aren't atrophy so you can have the life that you deserve and no one's
Going to do your setups for you, but you you are and have always been your own rescue