Hey, it's Marie and you're watching MarieTV- business and life advice that works.
We are here in the east village of New York City and I'm bringing you something different.
Not a normal Q&A Tuesday.
We've got a very special interview so come on.
Marie: Are you only getting a fraction of what you want in your business and life?
Are the things that you're looking to achieve taking way too long to come your way?
If so, Gabby Bernstein may have your answer.
In fact, she says that to manifest anything you want in your business whether it's career
goals, maybe it's relationships, your health, your happiness, the real work is an inside
job.
I am so thrilled today to bring you my dear friend and best selling author Miss Gabby
Bernstein.
Yay!
Can you believe you're on MarieTV?
Gabby: I know.
I was like, it's like I'm on Oprah today!
Marie: Yay!
Gabby: It's just like being on Oprah.
Marie: This is awesome.
So manifesting is such a cool topic.
It's something that a lot of people may have some resistance to.
If they think it's like a little too woo-woo and it's a little too passive and I know for
me and my life, I am such a go-getting kind of driven girl that in the past I used to
have my own resistance to it but as I've become older and a little more mature, I've opened
my mind and I actually do consider myself quite a good manifester.
So for our audience, can you define what exactly is manifesting?
Gabby: Manifesting is acquiring the experience of what it is that you want to feel, and being,
and living and believing in that experience and then allowing that experience to come
into form.
Marie: So not only the experience like say wanting to go on a vacation but even if you
want something like a new MacBook Air, you can manifest a new computer [Gabby: Absolutely]
or being a published author or having your business reach a certain level.
So everything falls into that.
Gabby: Everything falls into that category.
Sometimes we manifest things far beyond our wildest dreams so sometimes if we have a vision
of something it happens in a far greater way, so we want to stay open so we can say I want
that MacBook Air but maybe we can get that MacBook Air that's a little bit bigger than
we thought.
Or maybe it comes with an extra little gift.
But allowing ourselves to be open, "this or something more."
Marie: Cool!
So the way that I think about manifesting too, it's also involved in the process of
creation or creating.
You know I consider myself an artist and a creator.
Do you see like a distinction between manifesting and creating?
Gabby: Manifesting is very creative.
It is the process of using your power energy and being in that presence of your high-powered
energy and allowing that energy to co-create with the energy that's around you.
So you're vibrating at a high-frequency, I'm vibrating at a high-frequency [Marie: Ooh,
girl!], we've done a lot of work, we cleaned up a lot of our own crap, we believe in ourselves
today and that act that energy of believing in ourselves has attracted us together today
and brought us into this space where we together are co-creating a teaching.
If I hadn't cleaned up my side of street, if I hadn't believed in myself the way I do,
I would never have manifested being on MarieTV.
Marie: That's very true!
So I know I like to always believe that I am co-creating with the universe 'cuz I really
believe there are no such things as coincidences and I've had too many experiences in my life
where I'm like, “Oh my God!
That's what I wanted!”
and it all seemed to line up and it was incredible so that's really part of what we are talking
about here right is our ability to play an active role but almost paradoxically a passive
role in helping things that we want come into our life.
Gabby: Yeah, there's a really nice line from a Course in Miracles which is the metaphysical
text I teach and it is “Miracles occur naturally and when they are not occurring, something
has gone wrong.”
Marie: That's interesting!
Gabby: It's a good one right?
So what happens is that synchronicity, that flow, that effortless action that just sort
of allowing, “Oh I was thinking about that and it just showed up.”
That is how life is supposed to be.
We get in the way.
Our negative belief systems, our fears, our anxieties, our anger towards the past, that
future tripping and projecting – all of that energy gets in the way of allowing all
of the miracles to occur naturally.
Marie: So, this is awesome.
So what I like to do on MarieTV which you know cause I know you watch us every week
is to take this idea or concept and really break it down and make it super actionable.
So if someone's never heard of manifesting or maybe they have been quite a skeptic and
are like this is BS or this stuff doesn't work.
Can you break it down like how to manifest?
Like what's the first thing that we should be doing?
Gabby: So the first step of manifestation is to get very very clear and you know if
we are not clear on what we desire we can call in some really funky stuff.
Marie: Yeah this is big and I want to interrupt you for a moment because one of the biggest
things that I say again and again when I'm working with clients, I can help you get anything
you want, but you have to tell me what that is.
Gabby: Yeah!
That's it!
Marie: You know clarity is really it's that secret key.
Gabby: Because you are like a manifestation can opener.
If somebody gets clear about what they want.
Marie: That's really funny!
Gabby: That's your new name.
Marie: That's my new title.
I'm a manifestation can opener.
Yes, go for it.
Gabby: It's true because if somebody is clear about what they want, your work is just releasing
all the blocks and all the disbelief and so you're clear.
First and foremost you must be clear.
Marie: Yup!
Gabby: And you must be clear because if you are unclear you'll start to call in some things
that are not really what you want, you'll be confused.
The other piece is that once you're clear, you can also then get clear about all the
ways that you don't believe.
All of the limiting beliefs, all of the negativity that might be blocking you.
Marie: Oh!
This is good.
Let's use an example.
Let's take it from the top.
So I know for both of us, this is something we share.
You're a published author, I’m a published author and I know many people in the world
it's one of their dreams to have their own book out on the shelf.
So I know you must have gotten clear at one point: I am gonna be a published author, right?
So clarity, step number one.
Number two, getting clear on everything that's preventing that, right?
Your limiting beliefs.
Tell us some of yours when you first had that clarity.
Gabby: Well, I often joke that I was a published author three years before I was actually a
published author because I believed so deeply but of course there was disbelief and there
was actually a period in my life where it was right when the recession hit, my stepfather
says to me, I'm telling him all about my book that I wanted to bring into the world, and
he said to me, “Well, you know it's a really a tough time, it's gonna be really hard because
we've got resistors you know people just having a hard time in the realities of the world.”
And saying, "Oh well you're gonna have a hard time getting your book published" and I looked
at him with so much conviction and so much faith and I said, "I believe in miracles.
I believe I am a published author."
One month later, my first book was published.
So that faithfulness, that belief system is what allows us to come into the reality that
we live but what we must understand is that I had done quite a significant amount of work
to release all of the limiting beliefs that I had been holding on to.
A limiting belief and I have 8th grade English, I have never written anything beyond 8th grade.
I had to teach myself how to write.
So the limiting belief which I am not a writer, I don't know how to write that was a major
one for me to overcome.
Marie: So this is great.
So we have step one and step two and it's getting clear on what you want and also having
the courage to really look inside and see all the limiting beliefs that can be holding
you back from that, ok good.
Gabby: And clean them up!
Marie: And then clean them up!
Ok, awesome!
Tell me, so is that can that be as simple as recognizing that it's a story you're telling
yourself, it just simply doesn't have to be the truth?
Gabby: Yes!
The healing process of anything can just be the witnessing of okay that's not working,
that limiting belief that's holding me back and when we wake up to that call of that's
not working, that's when teachers like you come into our life.
That's when books fall off the shelf, that's when we land on MarieTV because we're tooling
around Youtube.
Right?
So we are led to what we need to heal so the first point is to recognize how you are blocking
yourself and trust that the universe will give you exactly what you need to heal those
limiting beliefs.
Marie: Awesome!
Okay so we've got our two steps.
Is there a third step?
So now we are in the process of healing our limiting beliefs.
We're active, we're engaged, we're aware.
Gabby: We're getting into the know.
Marie: We're getting into the know.
Ok, so step three, step three is getting into the know.
Gabby: Know the universe has your back.
Marie: Love that!
Gabby: I think my mug says it.
"The universe knows."
Hehe.
Marie: Tell me more about what that means.
Gabby: Okay so ah..
What happens when we get into the know is that we have released, we're working on releasing
that disbelief and that's a daily process and the more we let go of that disbelief,
the more begin to acquire the presence of what it feels like to be in that manifestation.
So the same way I was saying I was a published author, I felt like a published author years
before I was a published author.
I felt abundant even when I was scrapping to get by.
I still felt the presence of abundance which has allowed abundance to come into my life.
Marie: And I think that's probably the hardest part for all of us.
I can almost hear our audience members again, we are in 188 countries around the world so
some people are going like "okay that all sounds cool but if I don't have any money
right?
If I don't have any resources?
If people don't believe in me."
What can I do on a daily basis?
Is it just a matter of saying I really know this and just honestly, having that leap of
faith and saying I've got to stay in this state?
Gabby: You cannot let your outside world dictate your internal condition.
The outside world will reflect your internal condition so you are letting the outside stuff
tell you I'm not good enough then you are manifestation mishap.
You are not allowing yourself to co-create.
Marie: So I'm gonna pause there just for a second.
A manifestation mishap which you guys know I love cute phrases for things.
A manifestation mishap would be thinking like oh I'm having this clarity.
I want to be a published author but what would the mishap be there if there were?
Gabby: Well, but my outside experience is not reflecting that.
How am I gonna get published, I don't have enough.
All that is like really not supporting your desire.
So, the most important point here is to not let the outside world dictate your internal
condition.
Your internal condition will support your external experiences.
So your work is to focus on the internal and I've done that in many cases in my life.
You know picking up quarters to pay my gas money and in the presence of not having a
lot of money I still felt abundant.
I did all that work to release my disbelief and in that presence of believing in my abundance,
I've allowed a tremendous amount of abundance to come into my life so we gotta hold the
energy and let the outside world reflect that amazingness inside.
Marie: Okay, so another piece of resistance that could be coming towards us right now
from the audience, from someone saying, “Hey!
You know what?
I've manifested before or I'm in this process but you know, it's taking a long time.
I've been in the knowing, I'm affirming but it just ain’t here yet.”
What would you say to someone like that who is just going like when is it gonna come?
When is this really gonna happen?
Gabby: The most important step in the manifestation process is patience.
And there is another beautiful line from the Course in Miracles which is, "Those who are
certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety."
Marie: I freakin' love this and I'm gonna make her say it again because it was that
beautiful.
Gabs, say it one more time.
Gabby: Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.
Marie: Love that.
Gabby: So when we have that presence of being certain that certainty, I am a published author,
that man is on the way, I am abundant.
When we have that certainty, we can allow, we can be patient, we can be in the know.
And another manifestation mishap when you are not patient is that you are controlling,
you're grasping, you're manipulating, and you are therefore blocking the natural order.
You are blocking the positive energy to flow towards you because you are vibrating a frequency
of negative energy because you are in fear, you are controlling and manipulating.
Marie: Love that!
So this is all really good stuff.
Can you give us a quick recap?
Again our little manifesting how-to for anyone out there who this is all new to them.
Gabby: First is clarity.
Become very clear of what it is that you desire so you don't call in some crazy crap.
Marie: Love it!
Gabby: Then next piece is to be clear about all the limiting beliefs that are blocking
you from believing and knowing that you are worthy of what you desire.
Marie: And that takes some courage.
Gabby: It takes courage, it takes some time.
And that willingness, you just wake up and say, "I'm willing, I'm ready to have that
guidance come forward" and you'll be led to teachers like Marie.
And then the third step is to be in that presence, in that energy of knowing that you are ready
to receive.
That you are in that presence of believing and knowing I am a published author.
I am abundant, I am exactly what you want.
Marie: And having the patience.
Gabby: And then finally step is the patience.
To be really relaxed, released, and allow.
And stay in the know.
Letting the universe bring you exactly what it is that you desire.
Marie: It's awesome!
Really, really great stuff.
I absolutely love this.
And I actually want to hear from you guys.
Do you have a manifesting story that you want to share in the comments below?
Or perhaps you have a manifesting mishap that you want to tell us about, we would love to
hear from you.
If you want to hear more from Gabby, she's got so much great stuff.
You can go to Gabbyb.tv and check her out.
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So, thank you so much!
Thank you Gabby for being on marietv.
It was really, really great.
Hope to catch you next time.
Have an awesome day, and we"ll see you soon!
Thanks everybody.
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