David Jaffee with BestStockStrategy.com and DavidJaffee.com and today we're
going to discuss an exercise that you can do to decrease the levels of fear,
anxiety and depression. A lot of the thoughts that we have carry over from
day to day probably around 90 percent that's a statistic that I heard of your
thoughts repeat on a daily basis and a lot of those thoughts they end up
impacting your motivation your feelings your behavior your habits and in essence
they impact your future unfortunately a lot of those thoughts that we have were
formed as children we were ill-equipped to negate or to counteract a negative
thought from a supervisor a parent or a teacher as adults you are much less
impressionable because a lot of your ideology has been formed so if someone
walks up to you and tells you that you're a jerk or that you're worthless
it's not gonna have the same impact on you as it will if like your father or
your mother tells you when you're like 7 or 8 years old
that's why we can keep those repetitive and negative thoughts with us throughout
our adulthood even though it happened like 25 30 40 years ago one way that I
have found to decrease negative thoughts is to actually make yourself completely
vulnerable so if you're walking let's say you're walking on the street a lot
of people are I'm just gonna talk about myself I tend to be even I tend to have
like a heightened sense of awareness right so I'll look at the people I will
just feel a little bit anxious at times other times I'll be completely calm but
other times I won't be or a good example is what I'm in the ocean I will be aware
of the people who are around me because I live in Miami we'll go into the ocean
and then if they're like five or six people around me I will just be aware of
their presence or even when I'm at home I will be aware that someone is right
next to me they don't have to be talking to me I don't even have to know that
they're there or anything like that or another example is if I'm in the Sun and
there's someone right next to me from me it's a less world
experience to have that person there than this for me to be alone for some
reason I am just recharged when I'm alone and I feel better than if I have
someone next to me during in time when I want to be relaxing now I think that
that makes me an introvert as opposed to an extrovert because extroverts tend to
gain energy when they have other people around them but the reality is that for
me personally I just seem to be a little bit more anxious and a little bit more
stressed when I am around people during situations when I want to relax one way
in one exercise that I've used to mitigate these feelings of anxiety and
stress are you go into the ocean and you almost like create a float tank for
yourself so absolute vulnerability is freedom and what I've done in the ocean
is I would just go there and I'm gonna put my head down and I would hold my
breath and I don't care how many people are around me and I just put my face
completely down in the ocean I hold my breath and I try to just give in and
relax fully I don't think about anyone else in the water I don't think about
being able to breathe or hold my breath or I don't think about bumping into
anyone or whether if someone's gonna bump into me I don't think about
anything I just really tried to focus on my breath and just not really focus on
anything not engage in any thoughts that come into my mind and if I'm able to do
this for about five or ten minutes that has been the best meditative practice
for me where it actually helps them surrounded by other people because I go
into the ocean and there's usually a lot of people there and I just put my head
down I hold my breath and I just try not to react to anything and I try to take
in and show gratitude for being able to live in an amazing place and be in that
situation where I'm able to be in the ocean so again to reiterate I think that
this works because when your lane went when you're facedown
in the ocean not breathing you can't see anyone around you
you're absolutely multiple you really are you're completely vulnerable and I
do believe that absolute vulnerability is freedom its freedom from negativity
freedom from being judged freedom from negative thoughts and when you're in
such a vulnerable state and then you realize that nothing bad happens to you
you're completely vulnerable you're holding your breath you're facedown in
the water and you're not feeling any fear or anxiety or for any negativity
and then after 5 or 10 minutes when you do this you're able to get back to
normal life and you're no worse for wear nothing bad has happened to you so I
think that what typically happens is people think that the anxiety that they
have protects them they think that the negative thoughts that they have protect
them from a danger that's out there but I don't think that that danger actually
exists or if that danger does exist I believe that the cumulative negativity
and the cumulative harm that come from those negative thoughts and from that
fear and from the anxiety significantly outweigh the danger that is actually out
there meaning that if you walked around with no fear with no anxiety with no
negativity that you would be way better off in just dealing with the negative
and the negative situations that come up as they come up
then you would be to actually be on alert and be anxious and be fearful and
be negative in trying to avoid that negative outcome so like I said before
absolute vulnerability is freedom and this is something that works for me
every single time where I go into the ocean I welcome having a
lot of people around me I just put my face down I'm completely vulnerable
I don't engage my thoughts I do it for five or ten minutes and I think what it
does is it resets the natural anxiety and fear and negativity that I have them
when I walk around I just feel much more calm I don't have to like look at other
people and like pass judgment or try to assess his if like this person is a good
person or this person is a bad person it just brings it it brings it down and
it's something that I have to do much more often and I believe that in the
future with continued practice just like anything else there's a possibility that
I'll be able to significantly mitigate those feelings of anxiety or those
feelings of fear and I think that those feelings are something that a lot of
people do have or maybe they don't maybe it's just me in which case that's
completely cool but I'm just telling you that this specific exercise has worked
for me where you go in the ocean you make yourself completely vulnerable you
put your face down and you just allow yourself to be open to whatever happens
and then by not reacting to the thoughts and when you make and when you're done
with the exercise you realize that those thoughts those anxiety that negativity
that judgment does not actually protect you from reality because if you're free
from that negativity and those thoughts and those judgments you're going to have
the same exact outcome as you would with those thoughts so why do you have those
thoughts to begin with and I think that by repetition every time you do it it
just mitigates it it brings down the level of anxiety of here etc and if you
just do it continuously then you will eventually get to a point where maybe if
you're feeling if you're walking around and you're feeling likes like a 70 out
of a hundred feelings of anxiety fear negativity perhaps by doing this
exercise you can bring down those feelings to about like the 20 or maybe
continuously do it you can bring down to a 10
who knows everyone's different and unique but I'm just telling you this
exercise because it works for me and if you have any questions let
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