Hey guys it's me Veralyn.
So, I have a confession to make I have been dipping into my past and seeing my ex.
You know, the one I told you about and my very first vlog. Don't worry though, I already
got the speech from my girls
and with January first right around the corner I know I need to end things.
In 2012 my resolution is to only move forward
where dating relationships and sex is involved
and so now that you know mine, what's yours?
Do you have any resolutions for 2012?
Not to date anymore Aries.
I don't go out a lot, but I decided that
I'm gonna take some time and socialize
like get out of the box, out of my comfort zone and meet new people
every kind of people.
Just to be happy I guess. I think that's the biggest goal
for anybody who wants to be dating.
Not to like have some kind of fling just to be happy.
2011 I met someone and
um, I mean we're talking and getting to know each other and everything and
I just wanna, you know, continue that into 2012 also
cause you know past relationships haven't been that great and everything.
So, just wanna change it.
I'm gonna, you know, not
do no one-night stands and things like that, you know, because its
really dangerous. (chuckle) So yeah
I'll be getting tested. Right now I'm currently HIV negative, you know,
just for you to know, but yeah I'm going to get- continue to get tested
take care of myself.
And what about when it comes to sex? Is there anything you're gonna be doing
differently in 2012 than you did in 2011?
I wasn't dating so I had no sex. (laughs) I'm gonna be having sex.
(laughing) And what about birth control? So now that you are going to be having sex,
what are your thoughts on birth control? What are you going to be doing?
Definitely getting birth control because you never know.
-The pill?
I'm not sure yet. I have to talk to my doctor
and see which one is better
for me and condoms. 24/7 in my bag.
Resolutions are basically goals and what I love about goals is as we change
they change too. For example, Arielle has not wanted a serious relationship
since breaking up with the father for two boys ten years ago
but she's ready to commit now.
What do you think has
made you reach to this point. Like, what is the switch for next year?
Um, I finally trust myself.
I didn't trust myself. I've never blamed
my son's father for how the relationship went. I was right there with him
and I made it just as codependent or you know or just as clingy.
I was just as immature. And so it wasn't all him and I was the victim.
You know, I made that relationship my life and now having spent
It's literally been 10 years. I think I figured out how to balance and
I think I figured out how to respect someone else's passion and drive
and I think because I can do it now I'll be attracted to someone else who could
do it too.
And I've probably met people like that these past 10 years. I just didn't pay attention to them or
I was afraid of them and being single is definitely a safe place.
Arielle's story made me realize your resolution doesn't have to be just for next
year.
It could be something you wanna achieve five years from now
and why not have the vision for that. Okay. Now
let's see what some folks really think about new years resolutions.
Everybody who makes a resolution always breaks them so there's no need for anyone to make them.
All people say, imma lose weight, no you not. You're still the same, you're even heavier
next year then you were the year before. I usually don't make them.
I think that I usually keep to my own stride.
I think they're good, you know. Uh just as long as
you stay the course. Yeah exactly. Coming from a natural born planner
I say make them. Not to be corny, but a new year is a chance for a new start.
But you should never drive yourself crazy over them.
Especially when it involves your love life.