- You really jumped out of a plane?
- No.
- Oh, oh you said you thought I did?
- Yeah I thought you did.
- I thought you did.
- Yeah, we both flipped it.
When I close my eyes and think about my dream man,
I picture a man bun,
those are always great.
All jokes aside, I'm not so stuck on the way someone looks.
It's about the way they carry themselves,
that they don't take life too seriously,
that they're not always stressed out.
I feel like I have enough stress for the both of us.
- I don't know I kind of look at life though in a way
where it's like you know if you're not doing something
at least unusual, then you're not really living.
Sometimes it's like
I think you got to knock down the walls
and in order to do that,
you've got to put yourself out there.
Even though it's like you know you might get embarrassed
and this might be like wow, this could be painful,
you just go and do it anyways.
And the more you do it, I've realized,
the easier it gets.
- Hi.
Your name is Jessica
and this is your story.
You are 27 years old.
For work, you're a teacher.
You grew up in New Mexico.
Your background is hispanic.
- My name is Sabrina.
I'm 23 years old.
I'm a bartender.
I grew up in Bakersfield, California.
And I am Mexican.
Your name is David.
And this is your story.
You are 26 years old.
For work, you're a manager of some sort.
You grew up in Boise, Idaho
and your cultural or ethnic background
is that you're northern European.
- My name is Travis.
I'm 29 years old.
I'm an actor/producer.
I grew up in Las Vegas
and my background is pretty much American.
- [Sabrina] I got none right.
- Yeah, me neither.
- You got the Hispanic part right.
Maybe that one. - Oh yeah, that's right.
Why did you think I was from Idaho?
- I always just guess
when I can't figure out where someone's from,
I'm like the Midwest, that area ish.
Why did you think I was a teacher?
- Maybe just the top you're wearing.
That just reminded me of a teacher.
- Good to know.
- My mom was very, she was very strict okay?
She was like you got to go to bed at this time,
you can't go out,
you can't leave the front yard when you're a kid.
My dad was the complete opposite.
He could say go ahead and do whatever you want.
Between my mom and dad,
I think I'm a combination of both
but I start to realize as I get older,
I know if I ever had kids,
I'm gonna be like that overprotective dad.
And I could just see me being more like my mom.
- I think the best thing I learned from my parents
was to not judge other people
and to accept everything for who they are.
I think that's really what stuck with me growing up.
I remember when I was little,
I remember specifically one time that
someone had something about someone's race,
they had said something racist to a friend or something
and my mom had heard and she sat us down and she said,
"We never raised you to ever see color,
"to ever treat anyone like that.
"We are all human and we are all valid."
And that has stuck with me to this day.
Your life motto is work hard, play hard.
You are an introvert.
The most spontaneous thing you ever did
was jump out of a plane.
One thing you are working to improve about yourself
is your morning routine.
- My life motto is losers let it happen,
winners make it happen.
I am an introvert.
The most spontaneous thing I've ever done
is move to LA on a dime.
One thing that I want to improve upon myself
is putting myself out there more.
You're life motto is young, wild and free.
You are an introvert.
I think the most spontaneous thing you've ever done
was skydive.
One thing you're working on to improve about yourself
is putting yourself out there.
- My life motto is live a life of no regrets.
I am slightly more extroverted than introverted.
The most spontaneous thing I ever did
was move to LA all alone.
One thing I'm working to improve upon myself
is stress management.
I just get stressed out about life I guess.
And I think it's one of those internal things
and I'll be laid back and cool on the surface
but inside I'm like, whew, making mental lists and--
- Start to think about it too much maybe
and it just kind of turns into this stress and anxiety.
- Yeah, turns into this whole thing
that it's not even an issue.
I think it's just, it's life and social anxiety
and knowing I have to talk to all of these people
and email so many people about so many different things
and it's like how do I word this?
Okay, I'll just do it in a minute okay
and it just kind of builds up and it's not the best.
- I understand.
I can relate to that.
You really jumped out of a plane?
- No.
- Oh, you thought I did?
- Yeah, I thought you did.
- But I thought you did.
- Yeah, we both flipped it.
- Yeah we both thought the same thing.
No plane jumping, huh?
- Nope, not yet.
- So you are an extrovert then?
- Technically yes, technically yes.
- Why, what's technical about it?
- Because I'm an ambivert.
I'm extroverted in social situations
but I also get very, very introverted a lot.
- Sometimes introverted you can get comfortable being alone
but you've got to push yourself to go do more.
Quiet and introvert are pretty hand in hand.
I'm an introvert and I'm quiet.
I'm definitely not shy.
So I kind of have that thing where it's like
just because I'm not saying anything
doesn't mean I'm shy,
just because I don't have something to say,
I'm not gonna say anything.
I think there's a big misconception about introverts.
People don't really know you
and they look at you like oh, he doesn't seem sociable,
he's standoffish,
oh maybe he's really conceited or this or that
but they just don't realize
not everybody's a big talker.
- I've dated extroverts,
very, very extroverted extroverts
and I've dated very introverted introverts
and I feel like because I'm right in the middle
I need someone who's also somewhere in the middle
because there are slower moments that are very introverted
and alone and be happy in that solitude
and then there are moments where you want to have fun
and be with your friends and be out.
And someone who's in the middle understands that better
and is able to kind of be a chameleon in social situations.
- You should not have secrets and privacy
from your significant other.
I'm gonna say you do need frequent reassurance
from your partner.
You were raised with religion
and it is important that your partner shares the same views.
- I believe you should not have secrets and privacy
from your significant other.
As much as I don't want to say this
I do at the end of the day
need frequent reassurance from a partner.
I was raised with religion
but it is not important
that they share those specific views.
You should not have secrets and privacy
from your significant other.
You do need frequent reassurance from your partner.
You were not raised with religion
and it is not important that your partner
shares your religious views.
- You should not have secrets and privacy
from your significant other.
I do not need frequent reassurance from my partner.
And I was raised with religion.
And it is important to me
that the partner shares similar views.
- May I ask what your religion is?
- I was raised Catholic.
- Oh my gosh, look at that.
- You were too, huh?
- Yeah.
- Cool and you're still Catholic?
- Yeah.
I like to say that I'm a Catholic Buddhist
'cause I feel like any religion
or I think in anything in life
a sign of intelligence is being able to think for yourself
and any religion or any philosophy that you follow
has been passed on by humans
and humans are known to make errors.
So I think that you can't really follow anything blindly.
But I like the blend of a religion with a philosophy.
- Mmhmm.
No I agree.
You've got to be open to new ideas.
You can't be so close minded
and I don't like it when people are,
especially people like to push things on people too
and it's like I don't buy that, you know?
- [Sabrina] Exactly.
- [Travis] So you do need frequent reassurance,
I was right huh?
- I'm kind of in the middle
but I felt like I was more reassurance than not.
I would like to say that I don't need reassurance
but I think at the end of the day it's like
you question a lot about yourself and who you are
and you're like ahh.
- Well it's good your honest about it.
- Painfully.
Travis, when I first saw you,
I decided that I would date you
and now that I've gotten to know you a little bit
I decided that I would still date you.
- Cool.
Alright.
Alright Sabrina so when I first saw you
I decided that I would date you.
And now that I've gotten to know you
I've decided um
I still would date you.
Yeah.
It was funny I was walking up,
I didn't see you
but I was looking down
but I seen these red shoes and I was like--
- Uh oh.
- It's kind of, it's kind of I don't know
it's just like it's kind of like almost like this dream
right now, you know what I mean?
It's like unreal, it's weird.
- It's crazy.
- It was a little bit weird at times.
There's this uncomfortable,
you're not sure what's gonna happen next,
oh boy, you know what I mean,
it puts you on the edge of your seat for sure.
- Feeling of are you gonna be accepted and that fear.
- It's scary to be honest.
- Yeah.
- But I did it, so...
- We did it.
- And you did it too.
- We did it.