I'm having issues playing the game quote/unquote at work I'm quiet and
friendly but I prefer to work hard rather rather than stand out and talk I
found I have trouble forming more personal connections with my boss and
coworkers what are your tips so look when I talk
about playing the game I'm not talking about the fact that you have to change
your entire personality profile to start to connect with people that's not what
I'm saying don't have to go from being someone that's what they say quiet and
friendly you don't have to become some chatty
extrovert running around making small talk with anybody and on top of that
there's a little bit of a statement here that says you know I'd rather work hard
as if there's these are mutually exclusive things which they are
certainly not so this being forming relationships with people and playing
the game does not interfere with your work at all I'm not saying that you sit
around and talk when there's work to be done but there's gonna be natural breaks
in whatever you're doing there's gonna be moments where skip the action pauses
and you get a chance to connect with somebody so that's fine so so what are
some tips that how would you do this so I thought about this of you wanna start
with something small right but you want to engage this is the key point I don't
just want to throw something at you I want to talk at you and besides when
it's much easier just to let someone talk about themselves so the one I'm
what my advice in this particular question is is to tell them something
about yourself like something minor about yourself but then that kind of
ties into something that you can ask them mm-hmm and then they can talk to
you because most people like to talk about themselves so you ask them a
question about themselves and then you go so you know something something maybe
something slightly related to work so it's not just some random statement that
you're making you know you'd say you know what we did it yesterday at
work you're reminded me of something right reminded me of something else and
then maybe it reminded me of a movie ma you know what we were doing yesterday
reminded me of this movie every scene that movie mm-hmm and at least you're
gonna get well no cuz I don't watch a lot of movies or no I haven't seen that
movie or oh I've seen that we leave it's a popular movie but chances are they're
seeing it you know what I mean and all of a sudden you've got a little bit of a
conversation going and that's all we're looking for we're not looking to turn
into like chatty catty mm-hm we're just trying to build build
relationships with people so you know who they are so that they know who you
are that's what we're talking about nothing crazy
start small build from there mm-hmm yeah pretty straightforward yeah in and
through that building process what I kind of found is one and I guess maybe
this is a little tactical thing you can kind of throw out whenever but you know
and you know when people give you advice or they tell you something about
themselves that's something I don't know whatever whatever the story is right and
maybe some strategy they used to do X Y Z it can be super small if you let them
know that you remembered like in the future later on when you zoom again you
say I remembered what you said last week you know tie-in this yeah and just say
oh it can be the smallest a purple belt jujitsu mental jujitsu I like it it give
me the smallest thing and it just makes you feel good so that of that person
will just essentially feel more open with you they're like oh my gosh this
guy really pays attention to me oh yeah makes him feel valuable all that stuff
just on that small level you know so as far as building little patience
I'd say that's a cool thing to kind of remember to do if you can't
that's it that's a cool kind of thing to remember too