- [Instructor] Every man wants to be an Alpha male.
There are so many people who use this word completely wrong
and their associations
with what being Alpha means is totally wrong.
Any man who goes around saying this person is Alpha
and this person is Beta, really does not understand
what being Alpha is and the very activity
of calling other men Alpha or Beta is actually very Beta.
If we want to understand how to be an Alpha male,
it's crucial for us to understand something
that I like to call frequencies.
If you type in on Google, Frequency,
you will see something that looks like this.
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There are three frequencies that we need to understand,
Beta frequency, Theta frequency, and Alpha frequency.
A Beta frequency has a lot of activity going on.
There are a ton of lines going up and down
as you can see from this picture.
Beta men generally have a very sporadic,
ungrounded frequency where they are overly loud.
They are moving too much.
They are doing everything too quickly,
and there's way too much going on in their brains.
It's an over aggression of their energy and consciousness.
We will call this state the aggressive state.
Theta frequency, however, is calm, relaxed.
There isn't much going on.
You are chilled out.
Just imagine someone who is meditating.
I like to call this state the tender state,
opposed to the Beta state which is overly aggressive.
The Alpha frequency is in-between these two states.
It's something that I like to call tender aggression.
I originally got this concept
from someone named Elliott Hulse.
Truly Alpha men are not overly aggressive contrary
to what some people think being Alpha is,
but it's also not overly laid back where you're half-asleep,
yawning, and not stimulated by the environment around you.
There is a sense of tenderness that goes along
with being an Alpha male,
which means being calm, relaxed, focused, grounded,
and having confidence in yourself are all attributes
of being an Alpha man.
But, they also have a highly stimulated nervous system
which allows them to speak aggressively
if the environment calls for it.
Believe it or not, there's actually a significant amount
of femininity in the Alpha men.
An Alpha man flows with the conversation.
He is smooth, gentle.
Women and children are not scared to be around him,
but they also feel protected when they are around him.
It's a yin and yang energy.
An Alpha man does not have to pretend to be overly masculine
to compensate for an insecurity
and he does not have to pretend to be overly chilled out.
By this point, you might be asking yourself,
am I an Alpha man?
Am I too masculine? Am I too feminine?
Am I too much yin and not enough yang?
If you think you're too feminine,
then you should put yourself in an environment
where you are forced to scream
and be very aggressive, like a football game,
or you can simply just hit a punching bag a few times.
Express yourself and unleash the beast within you.
You won't reach this state by thinking your way there.
You will only reach this state by feeling your way there.
If you're overly masculine, then I'd suggest learning
about meditation, deep breathing, having a calm presence,
be gentle and tender.
Again, feel your way into this gentle state.
Inward confidence is absolutely everything
when it comes to emitting Alpha or Beta frequencies.
You have to be confident enough and to trust everything
that is going on in your body.
You have to trust your heart.
Take action for self improvement
and you will become an Alpha male over time.
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