has this ever happened to you
no don't lie
maybe you're at a party
have you been to a party
or maybe you're having a conversation
with someone that you've bumped into
which means met by chance on the street
hello
and
they don't stop talking
now
i have friends like this
and
sometimes i'm like oh do you know i have
an extra hour and a half i would love to
listen to them talk because they're fun
amazing wonderful people
then there's other people that when you
talk to them you wish you had not
started the conversation
because maybe they're super boring
or what they're talking about makes you
angry or whatever maybe they're just
creepy maybe you're in a bar and
someone is bothering you trying to hit
on you trying to pick you up
and you just want them to go away
but maybe you're too polite to say
anything well here's where ronnie's
gonna help you um
how to get outta and
outta
is how
we say out of so when i'm speaking
naturally i'm not gonna say get out of
how to get out of i would say how to get
out of and
this is a new word and you think oh
ronnie you've spelled situations wrong
but actually i haven't
it's
situations
so
situations are bad situations because
means like a bad thing obviously
unless you're into that that's fine but
um so
how to get out of situations or bad
situations or you know how to end the
conversation
um
people think it's rude
to end the conversation i disagree
if someone is yapping at you for ages
which means a long time
and what they're talking about is boring
hey i you know what i just can't be
bothered to stand here or sit here and
listen to you anymore
i'm leaving okay
but
there are polite ways to do it and there
are more shall we say rude ways to do it
people
are
people are worried that they would
offend the other people by leaving the
conversation i disagree
um it's your time it's your energy it's
your day
um so i don't think it's rude
you can do it in a rude fashion cartman
thank you you can go
screw you guys i'm out of here so
basically he's just saying like
i'm leaving
i've done that
i've done that i have a party and some
guys
or some girls i'm like bye and i just
leave because i don't want to talk to
them do they care no
do they get offended
no do they notice
i don't know i'm gone
i just don't care so
please don't think that you have to
stand or sit and listen to someone yeah
yabber on about something if you're not
enjoying it it's cool to to excuse
yourself from a conversation it's cool
to end the conversation um
one really good technique
is you can use this on the phone on the
internet
uh what you can do with people is make
future plans so let's say you're talking
to your mom you're like oh your mom's
talking to you like well mom okay so
i'll see you like uh tomorrow at seven
and that
automatically it cues the person i don't
know some magic to know
oh this person wants to end the
conversation
but it's never that
i don't know obvious we just
automatically in our brain think oh yeah
okay yeah tomorrow oh let's do it and
then the conversation ends it's perfect
so you're talking to him say oh you're
oh do you know what i'll see you at work
tomorrow like yeah okay tomorrow and
then they forget about what they're
talking about and you're out of there
just like mirror bye-bye see you later
um
this is fun at parties
do you have like
uncomfortable
uh staff parties or i don't know
cocktail parties where are all the
um
and
what happens is maybe there's a group of
people talking that you oh those are the
fun people over there i want to talk to
them and you're
stuck talking to chatty kathy and
here's a great technique you can grab
another victim or person so
if there's another person walking by in
the conversation you physically grab
them
careful okay don't even get
assaulted or anything but you can say oh
hey kevin come here i think i was like
no i don't want to go over there no come
on kevin have you met kathy
and then kevin's like oh god so then you
can put kevin there
to speak to kathy and you could again
you can leave so grabbing another victim
or two it's always good to have a group
of people come up oh guys come here we
met kathy and they all have but that's
fine still
oh yeah yeah come here queer so then you
exit exit enter exit you exit the
conversation and kathy has another
person too and i talk to
so it's a great technique i like this
one
this one i'm not too fond of because
then it's like
you actually might have to see the
person again so be careful how you use
that one okay um
i i use this a lot i just like this so
and my mom taught me this thanks mom um
favorite phrase on the phone
i'll let you go
go where i don't have any place to go
but you're you're basically giving the
person permission to hang out like okay
well i'll let you go now
because you know we have nothing else to
talk about and it kind of puts the
pressure on them like oh yes yes i'm
busy now i have to go
probably don't have a plan after but
it puts the onus as we say or the
responsibility on them there's a couple
more phrases like this that you can use
um
if you make it
or you make the situation about them
um ah
wow we're sitting outside having a smoke
or whatever
oh do you know what steve you must be
cold
you know i i won't keep you out in the
cold too long that i'm gonna go inside
and the person's like oh i am cold thank
you or
you know they'd be canadian
and they could say oh no
you know
i'm canadian
i'm not cold oh you must be hot okay i
have to leave now that didn't work
what am i gonna do so you can always use
think about them you say um i won't keep
you
that's a perfect one because
you're not really giving them a chance
to say oh no it's fine i won't keep you
which
i'm going to keep you in my possession
it doesn't mean that it just means like
i'll let you go i won't keep you i won't
i won't keep talking to you
which is like you're saying it like oh
do you know what i'm not going to keep
talking to you
and people think that's polite they're
like oh cool okay well that's really
nice of her meanwhile you're like
dodge that bullet i'm outta here um
if you're talking in the phone it's a
little easier a little easier
oh my cell phone the reception's
terrible
sorry i gotta go
uh you can always blame it on your
battery oh yeah yeah sorry dad my
battery's just gonna die
make sure you hang up though die right
you gotta
be dramatic people love the drama um so
if you have a cell phone or a computer
if you're on skype or zoom or whatever
and you just want to leave that meeting
you know what i'm sorry mike
my laptop battery just died
yeah
the next day and you're just like
i lost the plug
seems yeah that's fine but yeah any
excuse like that any electronic
excuse like oh we lost connection
doesn't work
i do this one
and i do it because it's real and it's
true but
maybe if you
weren't
in the position that i am
make a make a mental time limit so
um for example you're at work and you
have a five minute break and you know
that
a person at your work is super talkative
and they're going to talk to you on your
five minute break
so you go okay well one minute i can
stand talking to that person so oh do
you know what i have one minute till my
break's over what did you want to talk
about
and they go oh a minute to talk perfect
so you actually set a time limit um the
way that that my life is my work is is
that i teach people online
www.englishwithroni.com
and i have
um how long is it 15 minutes in between
each lesson so
sometimes i you know i have to go pee
and i gotta get a drink and my friend
will call and go hey ronnie what's up
no i have 15
12 minutes
what's up and
i know it's not rude it's just life but
you could do that too say oh you know
what i'm in i'm i've got i've got i've
got 10 minutes
before my next meeting and
i say i got
which is grammatically wrong don't tell
my mom we should say i've got
i have got i should say i've got 10
minutes before my next meeting and then
i have to hang up sorry
but we say i've got you can say both but
please be aware that this is
grammatically incorrect
but that's how i speak so this gives a
person oh 10 minutes cool and
you can go over the 10 minutes if you
want
but
you've got a time limit ding ding ding
set your alarm
hey google set my alarm
um
you can also do physical things and this
i mean you could do it on on online as
well you could just like
oh instead of ending the conversation
just disappear it's off screen you know
where's ronnie gone i guess she doesn't
want to talk um if you're sitting down
at a party you could stand up
yeah
and oh i guess the person doesn't want
to talk anymore because they've
stood up
stand up pass tensioned it up you can
move just all of a sudden it's just oh
you know
start cracking some things that people
don't like that um
i do this often if i'm at a nightclub
because i go to nightclubs all the time
just a huge clubber
when i used to go to nightclubs or if
i'm at a band which i do
honestly um if somebody's talking to me
and i'm going to talk to them i'm just
like okay
just physically turn your back and start
dancing or just like do like a disco
boogie oh yeah bye
okay and just it happens you just leave
and they're just like
wow okay okay
eye contact is very important when
you're talking to people um
so if you start to like
look away
you can look down at your shoes go wow
do you know my shoes are really cool
today i'm glad i bought these um if you
start looking away the people
automatically know that you've lost
interest
and it's the fine art of letting the
person know that you've lost interest
without being rude
unless you want to be rude that's fine
just disappear but you can start you
know
well i've done this too just actually
just
go or you can you know start doing
something different you know just like
oh you know great talking to you guys
but i'm off to steam my clothes right
now so i'll be back soon