Hello there
The path to awakening
is not really a path of becoming something
more or better
The path of awakening is more of a process of uncovery
So lets say you can imagine yourself as a lotus
thats closed
Inside is your truth
your essence
the process of awakening is a process
of peeling these petals back
so that you can actually see your essence
What you actually are
All a spiritual teacher does
is to point out the things
that are blocking you
from discovering your true essence
They are the ones that point out what
these petals that are covering your
essence are and give
you strategies of how to peel them back
Something interesting to note is
In the human race there are
common themes for the types
of barriers that prevent a person
from discovering their true self
and their true essence
For example there are common themes
amongst races, religions, countries
towns, families, and genders
Today, I am going to expose the top things
preventing awakening for women
and the top thing that is preventing
awakening from men
Lets start with the Women
The single biggest preventative
for awakening as it applies
to women the single biggest barrier
for what we've been calling enlightenment
is manipulation
Manipulation is a form of inauthenticity
When we as women are in a space
of authenticity we can be ourselves
completely and as such
knowing what are selves really are
we can directly meet our needs
This process is derailed
for women of Earth
When we are not in a state of authenticity
Which is a state of empowerment
Our self esteem plummets
We cannot be ourselves
We cannot meet our needs
When we can't meet our needs directly
We begin to meet them subconsciously
and in indirect ways
This is what manipulation is
We portray ourselves in false ways
As to be accepted by others
then try to influence others to do
what we want them to do so our
needs are met.
For example
Somebody who needs to be
protected may not be able to ask
for that directly, so indirectly
What do they do?
They create scenerios
where they are the victim
where they need to be protected
In order to get that need met
I'm just going to give it to you straight
For thousands of years
Women have been shamed
for even being women
Led to believe we are evil
Led to believe we're basically
the root of sin
We've been oppressed
We have been dominated
As a result
We don't show up
As Women for Thousands of years
We've been expected to be the perfect
picture of righteous goodness
Otherwise we're evil
In fact this identification that is
imposed on us as being such
good girls has made it so that we
in order to be accepted by society
Have to disown all of our natural instincts
We have to disown our sexuality
Otherwise we're a seductress
We have to disown any of our
anger otherwise we're a bitch
So the disownment happens to a degree
that we no longer have access to the
truth of ourselves
`As an example let's say
I travel to the Bible Belt of the U.S.
Those girls are the perfect example
of women that have been indoctrinated
into the 'good girl' philosophy.
In fact, if I try to get them in touch
with any rage in them
or the fact that they feel
any carnal sexual instincts
They are not going to be able to hear me.
They are going to look at me and go
'I don't know what you're talking about'.
It's because literally they are that
disidentified with themselves
We disown natural instincts
Disown any emotions that we're seen as bad
Disown our power
Disown any truth about ourselves
That make us seem not good by society
This disowning process within women
has become very dangerous
because anything buried deep
enough will soon become unconscious
For example a Woman who is
forced to bury her jealousy will not
be aware she is jealous even
when she is actively trying to destroy
the success of someone she's jealous of by
slandering him or her
By doing this she gets to feel better than
the person she is jealous of
Her need in the scenerio
which is to feel good about
herself is now being met in highly
subconscious and destructive ways
She's manipulating other people
to see her as better to get
this need met through the slander
She cannot see any of this truth about
herself because it would make her
see herself as a bad person
She will maintain that she is a good
person and that the person who she feels
jealous of is in fact a bad person
This is the only form of empowerment that
women have been left with.
The empowerment is being able to
manipulate other men and women
and children
Here's where is get's very scary
Women have gotten so good with their
manipulation they fool themselves
not only that they fool
everyone else too
Where's what I mean by that
Let's say a woman want's to turn
you against someone else
They're not going to directly do that
The're going to wait until they have a
frustration with that person
and then they are going to
feed it, they are going to fuel it
They are going to encourage you towards it
They we're just capitalizing on your
emotions so it's not them, it's you
You're going to end up believing that
all those emotions are actually real
emotions you feel towards the person.
When they are not.
What was a tiny fire
is now fueled by gasoline
They were the ones that poured
the gasoline and you didn't even notice
It was manipulatively slighted
under the geize of them
validating you
I'm going to do an entire episode
of this in the future
I'm going to expose
one of the primary ways
we have subconsciously manipulated the
world in general
It is that for thousands of years we've
been dominated and oppressed
by men, tortured by men if you will
So, how do we exact revenge
when we have no personal
sense of empowerment
The only way we can
Through our children
The thing we do control
One of the most common
subconscious manipulation techniques
that women have is to castrate
our own sons
We teach them to be terrified of their
own masculinity and we're doing
it for their good and for the good
of their relationships in the future
Really, were just raising men who
we're safe around
Who have no access to masulinity
So they can never dominate us again
Another common theme is that
women will self sacrifice
to be seen as a good person
and get appreciation from others
but they'll make you believe
your selfish and cruel for making
them into your slave
They'll show you one face
Show another behind your back
They'll play the victim controll drama
to be seen as good and right
and gain control and the list
goes on and on...
This is the thing
When our attachment to being good
Is so strong meaning our ego
can't except anything outside the box
other than how we're good and rightious
We lose the capacity to own up to
how we really feel
What we're really thinking
and what we're actually doing
This is why it's so incredibly frustrating
often to deal with women
because of this pattern they have become
to start naturally gaslighting socially
For example let's say
a women hates a person
It's so obvious because she's angry
and is constantly trying to usurp them
and then snips at them in light
passive aggressive ways
but if you bring that up to her
she will say
I don't have any idea and I love them
The don't accept me
Even when the words, actions, and energies
scream the opposite
They will be seeing this
That is what gaslighting is
The problem with that is that is makes
it impossible to awaken
If you can't see reality then there
is nothing for the mind to do
If you can't admit to the fact
that you hate someone
You can't do anything with the hatred
That is why it is the largest barrier
to awakening
It's like living in a walking
state of denial
The other problem is
The sheer skill of minipulation
going around other women don't
see it
So how can they mirror to the person
that they are doing it?
They cannot
So the opportunity for awakening is ruined
The transition out of this
state is all about authenticity
and meeting ones needs directly
as a result of discovering that
authenticity but the specific type of
authenticity which is the most critical
for the awakening of Women in general
Is the authenticity around things we've
labeled bad or unacceptable or not right
Those are the things
we have to start seeing about ourselves
Seeing the rage, the breakup wishes,
the need to be the center of attention,
the need to be taken care of completely
Those types of unsavory things
Are the things that we need to own
if we wan't to awaken
Once she admit's to the things within her
that are like this she
can see what is actually going on and
she can address those things directly
She can see what she is actually thinking
and address the thoughts directly
and even why she is doing those things
The next steps is to meet her needs
directly with they information she now
has at her disposal.
this is the step of
ultimate personal empowerment
When this occurs the manipulation
stops and the doors open for
the true power of the divine feminine
to flow into her embodyment
If you want a plethora of information
about this step watch my video titled
meet your needs
Now let's go for the men
The single biggest barrier to awakening
What prevents what we call
enlightenment for men
Is disconnection
Disconnection plays out in men's life
In multiple ways
It's a state of being
detached from something
They can be detached from their
emotions, each other, their partners
from their own essence,
from their children, from their hearts
from their true desires
from the impact they have on others
and of course the list continues
For thousands of years male children
have been put in traumatic situations
The hallmark of traumatic situations
Is that it causes stress and there
is no resolution
Distress puts us in touch
with our vulnerability
Society is not okay with vulnerability
They say you are weak if you are that way
You can't live a life as a male
and be vulnerable at the same time
If you decide to then you can't
make anything happen anymore
What do we do as children when we confront
these emotions and society tells
us our feelings don't exist
The only option is to detach
and play ignorance
First they detach from the emotions
Then the thoughts
Then they cope by finding ways to
minimize the thought of
being vulnerable occurring
Ways to find anything to do that wipe
themselves away from the shock
They cope with cruelty
by pretending to disappear
and normalizing what happened to them
as to not feel the pain of
being a victim
Eventually men disconnect
from their heart enough that the
fragmentation is bad enough
that the universe allows them to die
Many in the spiritual field have heard
the famous saying
that was a Cherokee proverb or something
Where a Woman's job was to lead a man
to his heart and a Man's job
was to protect her
That's why those types of things exist
Men's capacity to disappear makes
it hard to go in and out of disconnection
Here are some examples of how men
disconnect every day in life
A man has the capacity to stay
in a job he hates for decades because
he want's to disconnect from people
he truly loves
A man can cause immense cruelty
to another person and never even realize
He was heard in the first place
because he is disconnected from reality
A man can feel intense sadness
and say he's fine because
that's what he'd rather focus on
A man can say things that hurt
other's ongoingly because
he misses them in his inner
world but doesn't even know them
well enough to invite them in.
A man can neglect his wife becuase
he's disconnected from her world entirely
Perhaps she's just his dollie
A man can have amazing sex
with a random person and not even think
about it the next day because he's
reached a degree where he can masturbate
without needing help from anyone.
A man can be so focused on playing with
his kids that he temporarily forgets
their very name
When they feel neglected it was because
the project was more important
than them because he's completely
gone from his life on earth
A man can do things a certain way
and have no awareness about
why he's even doing the task in the
first place because he's
trying to avoid his own childhood
A man will believe anything because
he is so far gone from his own beliefs
A man can live in a world where he
doesn't have the ability to recognize
himself or his connection to the things
that surround him to the degree
that he can declare
war that kills millions
Men can be so disconnected that they can
declare war or have power over
tyranny on women
This process is how the cycle
feeds itself
The capacity that men have to disapear
fuels manipulation in women
because it creates a separate state where
no one has a sense of personal
empowerment and the only way
to meet their needs is to die
When women get into the manipulation state
that scares men because we are
always tuned in enough to sense
when there is a discrepancy
and when we do
The men go back to disconnecting
So the cycle fuels itself and
our own greatest barriers to connection
and awakening become others
greatest barriers as well
Some people think spiritual
men must be the exception to this rule
of disappearing and disconnection
but spirituality is the
greatest tool for disconnection
The spiritual teaching that pain
is an illusion is a way to
deny the reality of others pain
The believe that the higher self
is completely independant of others
and the identification with that believe
is the way to disconnect with needs
that others are being ignorant of
and the pain that causes
Positive focus can be a way to
completely disconnect from reality
and everything wrong in life
Multiple relationships can be a way
to disconnect from fear of abandonment
and fear of attachement
Disidentification can be a way to disconnect with life
Spiritual drugs can be a way
of disconnecting with ones
own physical enbodyment
The transition to making ourselves
feel better is very straightforward
It's connection
Learning how to get as much connection
as possible is the answer for men
on this planet at the moment
What does this mean?
Doing whatever it is you do with the goal
of getting the most connection
out of others
The most important thing to recognize
about both our barriers to awakening
is that they both have the same root
which is powerlessness
In other words we are both
coping with the sensation of being
powerless
Being aware that we are coping
with feeling this way is the door
to further advancement for
both men and women.
Thank you
Have a good week!
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