Nine psychological tricks to get a girl to chase you. So in this episode, I'm going to go through
nine different psychological tools that you can use to be more encapsulating to women. In
a nutshell, if you can introduce any of these into your dating interactions with women, what you'll
find is that the quality and texture of your conversations will improve. Also, women are likely
to message you more, and to become more invested and see you as a potential dating partner.
So let's just kick this off. The first way, or the first psychological trick, to get a girl
invested in you, is to slow down your voice at set periods to enter into a seductive frame.
Now, as you can imagine, when I'm speaking into this podcast, I'm just speaking at the
normal pace in which I speak at. However, if I suddenly wanted to introduce a seductive frame,
what I would do is just to slow down how I'm speaking.
Now, you'll notice when I've done that, I've now got more control over my words,
and I come across as way more relaxed, calm and dominant with my voice.
Now, ideally, you don't want to do this all the time. So you have a normal speaking place,
and then you can slow it down at set points just to show that you're able to control yourself
and your voice. This has a huge impact when you're speaking to women because most guys go higher
pitched and speak faster when they're talking to women. So if you can actually slow it down
as you're having a conversation, at set points, will make a big difference to your dating results.
Because what you're really [inaudible 00:01:52] communicating is that you're not scared of them,
and that you're completely in control. Women will pick up on that subtle psychological trick.
Now, if you struggle to slow down your words, the very basic and simple technique,
which is an actor's technique, and I teach this on my dating confidence courses, all you have to do,
you can do these in front of a mirror, so as you look in front of the mirror, hold eye contact
with yourself, but then practise putting 30% of your peripheral vision on the floor.
Now, I'll do that now. This is 100% in my own eyes. Now, this is 30% looking at the floor.
So you'll notice that I slowed down. Now I'm going to go 80% peripheral vision.
Now, what you can do, stand in front of the mirror and practise this, practise holding eye contact
with yourself. You can even put a picture of an attractive woman in front of the mirror and you
can practise holding her eye-contact as you go through the ritual of slowing down your voice.
That's one of the most impactful things that you can do as a man. And if you are a public speaker
or presenter or you speak at your work, that's also a very powerful tool to use.
Now, the second psychological trick to get a girl to chase you, is to use the triangle eye
contact. Now, this is a fundamental lesson about leading a girl up to kissing you,
but you don't actually have to use this to get a girl invested enough to kiss you. What you can do
is just use this during your conversations and it's very powerful. First of all, you slow down
your voice, as I articulated a few seconds ago. Then when you do that, what you do is you practise
an upside down triangle. So you look at her left eye, then her right eye, then her lips, back up to
her eye, back to the other eye, back to her lips. Again, you can practise that in front of a mirror,
but this is a very seductive eye contact. It shows confidence. You're not looking away,
you're not looking down, you're not looking up. You're gazing into her eyes
with a slower voice. Now, a lot of guys will do this while they're listening to a girl. It's way
more powerful if you learn to do it while you're speaking. It's very easy to hold eye contact if
you're not speaking. But if you are speaking and you're able to hold eye contact with the triangle
gaze, and slow down your voice, that's where the magic really happens. If you want help doing that,
then you'll find a link in this description where you can learn how to do that with me via Skype.
Now, the third psychological trick to get a girl to chase you. Now, this one is a bit cheeky
and I like cheeky because it's fun. You can either talk about another girl in the vicinity
about having something attractive about her. So you can be talking to a girl, you say, "Oh, that
girl over there, she's got really nice hair. I love the way she dresses. I like this about
her." Or you can talk about your friend. But the idea is that you take the attention away
from the girl that you're speaking to, and you put your focus and attention onto someone else.
Now, if you can imagine, if you like a girl and she does that with another guy, if she's like,
"Oh wow, look how big and muscly that guy over there is," you can see it's a little bit like,
"Ooh, ooh." And what it does, it just evens out or balances out the power a little bit. It's a bit
cheeky, but it's also a bit fun as well because you don't want to be paying compliments all the
time. It's a very subtle way of flirting, but it has the effect of making someone want to be around
you more. And as I say, you only need to imagine a woman doing it to you and you can imagine the
impact that it has. This is very subtle. You just need to say, "I like what that girl is wearing
over there. Or I like the way she's done her makeup." Something very simple, but very powerful.
Now, the fourth psychological trick to get a girl to chase you, is to friend zone her
for fun. Now, there's a lot of talk about friend zoning women online, and
to give this more depth than what you've heard before,
the reason why friend zoning an attractive woman is not only entertaining, but it's flirty,
and it gets her more invested in you, is because it creates uncertainty. You see, if most people
that you speak to are attracted to you, and then someone comes along and puts you in a friend zone,
automatically that's uncertain. It's like, "Well, why doesn't this guy like me? What is
it about me? Why is he not attracted to me?" So what you're really doing by friend zoning
her is creating uncertainty. So it's not just like you're putting her in a box. What you're
doing is just saying to her, "Okay, I'm just going to create a bit of uncertainty about
whether I like you or not." It's entertaining, first of all. And we've all felt the feeling of
this when a girl friend zones us. So don't be afraid to just try out and have fun with it.
As I say, dating should be entertaining, it should be fun. And if you're not having fun, then
you're being too serious and too pent-up anyway. So the fifth psychological trick to get a girl
to chase you, this is to stop chasing women by using your time to self-express instead.
So self-expression, for me, is one of the most important parts of my life.
Everyone that I coach, I articulate my thoughts towards them, self-expressing
somehow, whether it's writing, whether it's a podcast, whether it's a YouTube channel.
Ultimately, if you imagine that all the knowledge you've accrued in your life is like a balloon,
you just get more and more full of air until you have to eventually let some of that air out.
The way in which I like to do that is by self-expressing. I would go as far as to say
that that self-expression is innate within all of us because we all like to share information
about what we've learned. Now, the thing is, what you don't want to do, is be one of these people
that just gives unsolicited advice to everyone that you meet. Put it on a proper platform,
record it once, or write it once, when you've done it you feel cleansed. The more you self-express,
the more cleansed you'd feel. When I first launched my podcast, the first 30 episodes
just flew out of me. I was literally, literally emptying myself of information
and I felt amazing afterwards. I felt ready to learn again. So self-expression is huge.
And the other benefit of this with regards to getting a girl to chase you,
is that you can talk about what you're doing. You can talk about how you self-express.
Women will often ask you to see what you're doing or to ask more information about it,
and what this does, it stops you chasing her but it also gives you conversational topics.
You can be talking to a girl and you can say, "Oh yeah, I was recording a podcast episode
about that the other day." "Oh, you have a podcast?" Hugely attractive thing to do.
Now, the sixth psychological trick to get a girl to chase you, is to use intermittent texting. I'm
a big advocate of intermittent texting. If you're on YouTube, you've heard of intermittent fasting,
which is basically only eating during set hours of the day. Intermittent texting works exactly
the same. You only reply to women's messages during set hours. You can do 12:00 PM to 1:00 PM,
8:00 PM to 9:00 PM. During those two hours, you can text as much as you want,
but you're not allowed to have any contact outside of those zones. Fantastic way of managing your
life so you're not always on your phone. And also, it's a great way of not messaging too much all of
the time. When you are not messaging a woman, she will wonder why you're not messaging her, and she
will be more invested and she will chase you more. Now, the seventh psychological trick to get a girl
to chase you, is to use what I've regarded as the 10 gold coins strategy to create mystery.
Mystery is alluring, mystery's enigmatic, and mystery is intoxicating. Now, the way that you
become mysterious when you first meet a woman is to not answer her questions directly. So she has
a question like, "What's your name? Where are you from? What you do for a living?" You don't answer
it. You imagine that you have 10 gold coins, and every time you answer her question directly, you
lose one of your gold coins, which is her level of attraction towards you. Don't give away your gold
coins. Go into any social setting, try the 10 gold coins strategy, come back to my YouTube channel,
let me know how well it worked for you. That's one of the simplest, easiest and most effective
strategies I teach in my courses. You will get results instantaneously when you try it.
The eighth psychological trick to get a girl to chase you, is to always end the conversation
first. Now, this is powerful and it makes you feel great when you do it. Wear a watch. When you're
having a conversation, look at your watch, "Oh, is that the time? I've got to go." Or if you're
calling her up over the phone, "I've only got 15 minutes." But limit your time. When you limit your
time, it has the effect of building value because other guys that she meets are so pleased to talk
to her, that she's always the one that ends it. So you can end it abruptly. You can just say, "Okay,
anyway, it's been nice talking to you. I've got to go." So having that time constraint is extremely
attractive, and it will get women wondering what you're doing instead of talking to them.
Now, the ninth and final psychological trick to get a girl to chase you, is to never ask for
her details. Never try to kiss her, never try anything at all. Stay in your centre. This is
one of the highest ideals that I teach to my clients on advanced courses, is getting to be
in the centre of your life, where you are not chasing anything and you let everything flow
towards you. You live a value centred life. That starts by having value to give to the
world and then not chasing anything. So never asking for her details will have the effect of
her wanting to know why, especially if you're having fun together, and it will eventually lead
to her asking you. Very powerful tool. Now, let's round up this episode.
I'm just going to very quickly go through the nine psychological tricks to get a girl
to chase you. So number one was to slow down your voice to enter into a seductive frame.
Number two was to use the upside down triangle to create sexual tension. Number three
was to talk about other women in the vicinity. Number four was to friend zone her for fun and
to create uncertainty. Number five, spend your spare time self-expressing in some way.
Number six was to use intermittent texting. Number seven was to use my famous 10 gold coins strategy.
Really, it's that good. Number eight, always end the conversation first. And number nine,
stay in your centre. Never ask for her details, never tried to kiss her, never try to date her.
That will get her to chase you immensely. I hope you've enjoyed this episode. Do not
forget to subscribe to my channel, and I will catch you next time.