oh this Robert Smith I'm at done drum
Castle the mountains are mourn behind me
and you can also see the sea and and I
just received an email from PJ and I
would want to share what she had said
and all I answer the question this
Saturday evening my state of despair I
hope to find something anything on
YouTube that can tell me how to develop
willpower instead my search landed me
onto your videos on weight and why we
are fat I don't know much about anything
but I do know this I'm done with the
disgust of my own self and this thing of
a body I carry around I watch one video
right after another I'm writing you
because you said something that I've
never heard before or thought of it's
not my body's fault that it's fat or the
cheesecake doesn't love you I've cried
and tapped and tapped and cried and I
don't know what I'm doing but I don't
know what else to do
it's not the food it's not the money or
the just disabling lack of it it's not
the ex-husband it's my imagination my
invit my identification with the oh woe
is me it's my story Who am I and who
will I be if I began to love myself more
than I love my story I really don't know
what love is
everyone says love yourself but what
does that mean mean it's just a clump of
two valves and two constant stuck
together l.o.v.e these four letters have
no more meaning than bir d are do are
theirs
is there somehow I can and I don't even
know what I'm asking can you help me
so what is love where does love come
from what does it mean to love yourself
one of the things I think when we begin
to discover how to love is first of all
starting with inside you loving yourself
is letting go of what you hold within
yourself about yourself that means
making peace with all the negative
memories and all the feelings of hurt
and pain the feelings of creating that
you create within you such as the
feeling of being all alone or the
feeling of being abandoned or just keep
repeating bad cycles creating disgust
when you look at yourself being angry at
yourself finding fault with yourself or
avoiding being within yourself how do
you love yourself loving yourself is
this being nice accepting yourself for
exactly who you are and forgiving what
you've done what you feel about yourself
and what others have also done to you
how do you love yourself loving yourself
is just being nice to yourself loving
your body just the way it is because it
is perfect the way it is and also
forgiving yourself for being so hard
about judging yourself and condemning
yourself and find it fault with yourself
but believe it or not even when you do
that there still is love back behind it
I know it sounds kind of strange loving
yourself is condemning yourself and
being hard on yourself
why would you do such a thing maybe it's
because someone who you've looked up to
who raised you who changed your diapers
and fed you treated you exactly the same
they too were hard on themselves and
they have used himself and they
neglected themselves and they taught you
how to be the same way because there is
a there is something here that keeps you
connected to them it's a belief system
it's an attitude it's unhealthy but it's
all of you known and when you begin to
step out of that scenario that way of
thinking that attitude that belief and
truly letting go of your pain
you're hurt your judgments your
condemnation and start making peace with
everything that you hold within you and
the toughest thing is is really going
inside you so what do you do a lot of
people ask me so well Robert what do I
do
where do I start there is so much places
so many things so many memories so many
emotions what do i do where do I go I
said just start right now where you are
now notice what you feel
notice what bother you and tap when you
wake up in the morning tap when the best
ways to heal you is to heal you as you
travel through your day and I know some
of you gonna be tapping a lot because
you're at the beginning stages start
there I recommend getting a journal a
happy journal a journal that you can
write down the things that are good in
your life the things that you appreciate
the memories that you felt good and the
moments recognize those moments when
somebody says something nice and receive
it I recommend doing nice things to
others and feel good about it and do it
where no one else can see it just you I
recommend good movies funny movies only
funny ones ones that make you feel good
I recommend doing things that gives you
pleasure go to the beach and just enjoy
the beach just you and the beach tapping
on yourself making peace with the
memories and always clean up what you
are to hold within you so how do you
love yourself you love yourself probably
even now even when you beat yourself up
you think that's a good thing to do but
it's not healthy and you can do
something better and doing something
better it's just stop doing the painful
part and start being nice look at your
body and love your body how do you love
your body just let go the judgement
against it let go of what people said
about it when you look at your life look
at yourself look at what you've done if
you made mistakes it's over now tap it
out let it go if you have memories of
people being mean to you realizing this
that parts over and when you play the
memory it's not them being mean to you
anymore
but it's you you tap on the memory you
change the memory you change the
emotions you forgive you you forgive
them and you put it in the past
completely changing the memory where it
doesn't even feel the same or look the
same that's how you love you being nice
to you brushing your teeth is nice you
look toilet paper is nice eating is nice
don't overeat eat just enough to satisfy
hunger but keep investing in you be nice
to you be nice to you be nice to you be
nice to you is loving you I hope this
helps and of course I know that some of
you are on a big journey lucky you at
least you have plenty of things to work
on work on you give yourself a treat
take a break make a plan go to the beach
and make sure you enjoy it and write
down every good experience use that as a
healing opportunity find things that are
nice about you find good memories and
rehearse them and play with them repeat
them and don't take so things so
personal you have to realize if you're
looking for your value outside you you
may not find it but if you go inside
you'll find your value if you don't like
the value you currently hold change it
by letting go of the pain the hurt the
memories the judgments and then find
your peace and so I hope this helps and
I do challenge you 30-day challenge
watch these videos every day tap along
with them do the homework do your happy
Journal tap on anything that ever
bothers you and as you do that you're
gonna heal I promise you that
just do it you don't have to believe
it'll work just do it if you find a
happy memory that leads you to a bad
memory tap out the bad memories stay in
the good memory this is Robert Smith I'm
in done drum Castle and behind me you
can see the mountains are mourn in the
sea and I hope this helps you if you
need any help you can always go to my
website I do have people who are trained
by me in different parts of the country
and keep on tapping on you we'll talk to
you later
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