today's video is for all the women out there over 50 who feel invisible I'm
going to share with you a trick I use with my styling clients it works every
single time and it'll work for you too so if you'd like to know more please
keep watching hi I'm Schellea this is fabulous 50s a lifestyle channel that
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there's a new video today we're going to talk about why women feel invisible when
they hit 50 it's like there's a magic switch turns on and all of a sudden they
become irrelevant and it's actually so not true it's the opposite to true but
there is history for why we feel this way and it's conditioning and I'll tell
you why back in the day women our age group just died of natural causes
because there was really no need for us anymore
weird what the children are we taught them how to hunt and to sew and to
continue on our role in to parent and then women whose children had grown up
and now at our age had no use and they weren't strong enough to keep working
the fields and and doing all the hard manual work so it's kind of was Nature's
Way of just getting rid of them because what us were they anymore and men were
taking on younger wives and there we go we became irrelevant so we just died how
sad is that but come 2018 we've just arrived it's like we've done all that so
that's where that's what we were conditioned to do to do all those things
and now we have to reinvent what our meaning is and what our purpose is at
this age we don't have to finish up because we have no more use we have to
create a new use for ourselves we have to create a new meaning
new everything for ourselves now that we're getting older we get to reinvent
the role of a middle-aged woman and we can make it whatever we want so this
whole feeling of being invisible and being not worth anything anymore and
being of no use to anybody it's all conditioned its conditioned from our
lineage from data from past generations it's all just put in our head and we
think it's true and it's not true and what we put into our head is what we
put out there into the world so it's up to us to change it and with that in mind
I want to share with you a really great trick I learned from Tony Robbins and it
perfectly demonstrates what we're all doing and why we're all feeling so down
about us and a perfect solution of how to get out of that Tony says if we build
our self value in our mind and focus on another person on how you would like
them to react to us when we see them we can literally make anything happen
and Tony demonstrated this on stage with a young guy who was unable to pick up
girls and he just felt really unconfident and he just had zero luck
with picking up a girlfriend and he Tony got a girl from the audience who in this
guy's opinion was way above where he could normally go and Tony taught the
guy these techniques that I'm going to teach you and she was melting and this
is what I use with my ladies for me go shopping and it works every time so I'd
go shopping with my ladies and their mindset was something like this
nothing's going to fit me I'm gonna look too fat the shop assistants going to
judge me she's gonna think I'm too old if I spend my money I won't have any
more they're probably going to talk about me behind my back
I'm embarrassed they're gonna think I look silly this is just too hard and
then on the other hand they look at the shop assistant and they'd say oh she's
so young she wouldn't understand oh she wouldn't know what life's really like
she's so skinny what would she know anyone
this is what was happening these are the things that were going through people's
minds when they're walking into a shop and it happens to all of us we all go
there and we're walking into a shop into a workplace into a relationship into a
dinner party anywhere with these thoughts going into a head and it's
impossible for us to have a good experience because we're cluttered with
us not being good enough and people thinking that we won't be good enough so
of course when you go into this environment you're going to feel
invisible but it's not you're going to be invisible it's you're going to think
you're invisible all those thoughts are going to create what your reality is so
here's the kicker it's not them it's you and that's great cuz if it's you you can
fix it we can't fix them all the other people all we can do is work on what
we're thinking and what we're projecting so how great is that take a moment to
think back at the last time you did this think of the last time you felt like
nobody cared you're invisible I don't matter think about that time and think
about what you were thinking about yourself at that time okay it doesn't
matter don't beat up on yourself because that's like doing the most unkind thing
in the world to the person who you've got to love the most don't beat up on
yourself be kind to yourself always forgive yourself for doing things that
you've done and move on and do even better things but here is the remedy and
it will work 100% of the time I guarantee you before you enter that shop
or workplace or relationship or anything do this taking shopping for example
let's get our mindset right we'll start by saying I'm so excited that I'm going
shopping today I'm so excited that I'm going to find something that I love
wearing I love that I had the opportunity to go shopping today I love
that my body can walk through all their shops and look at all these beautiful
things today I'm literally at the best time of my life so I'm going to fully
live it and I'm going to buy beautiful things and I'm going to create outfits
for myself and I'm going to try on you may
and I'm just so excited because if I thought I couldn't do it before I know I
can do this now I know that I can have fun with all of this now I know that I'm
going to find something amazing today and I'm gonna look great in it and then
you look at that sales assistant before you look walk into the shop and you go
wow she looks beautiful today I love her outfit she's put a lot of effort into
how she looks today and I'm going to complement her when I go into the shop
and it's going to be from the heart it's going to be a real compliment and I hope
that I buy something so she gets a commission because if she gets a
commission and I get something nice we both win she may have had a really hard
day today and I'm gonna make sure that I make her feel good because that's gonna
make me feel good and she deserves my respect and my kindness everything about
my life is getting better every single day and I'm enjoying this experience so
much then walk into the shop walk into the dinner party walking to the lunch
with your girlfriends walk into any where and what results do you think
you're going to get do you think he's still not going to get noticed do you
think you're going to be invisible I guarantee that if you start doing this
in every aspect of your life that part of feeling invisible and feeling that
you don't matter anymore it'll disappear it has to it can't not if you're putting
those vibes out there to all those other people and to yourself which is most
important you can't feel less than you could you're building yourself up this
is just a really simple trick but it's so powerful and I would love for you all
to try this this week wherever you go give it a try and let me know if you get
some great results because I know that you will
you're only invisible because you say so everything about your life is what you
say to yourself and we've got to start changing that you are a product of your
collective thoughts and quite often we don't really know that we think that
it's other people's thoughts and other people's actions that create who we are
and it's not so now that you're in your 50s
you get to be the boss of you you get to decide if you want to be invisible if
you want to drift off into nothing well if you want to be there and be part of
everything you get to decide if you want to create you get to decide if you want
to travel you get to decide if you want to be happy so what do you want this
week to be like go out there give it a try and try this on somebody who you
normally have a problem with please give a thumbs up if this was any use to you
and please share it with your girlfriends if they're going through
something similar and feeling a little bit left out and a little bit invisible
thank you so much for watching and have a beautiful week