just when you thought you knew all about the enneagram i try something new at you
yes it's called counter types and today i am teaching on the enneagram eight counter type
it has everything to do with instinctual variants aka subtypes self-preservation social sexual all
of those things are involved with counter types and this is why some enneagram types just never
fully feel like they fit in with their own type and so that's what we're going to dive into today
okay so before we dive in i would love to introduce myself for those new here i'm hillary
your certified enneagram life coach and i love to teach the enneagram in the simplest and easiest
way possible okay so what does counter type mean within the enneagram all nine types have a counter
type and this is due to every type having subtypes it's the self-preservation subtype the social
subtype the sexual subtype also known as one to one those are the three subtypes within all nine
types also known as instinctual variants both of those are talking about the same thing all right
so we have self-preservation social and sexual for each type right and then within those three
is the counter type so it can be the social it could be the self preservation or it could be the
sexual it's different for all nine types i'll use myself as an example i'm a type nine social the
social nine just happens to be the counter type so while i really fit in with all the cores of the
nine and actually a lot of the nine i don't always look and act like a nine which is sometimes why
people even on this channel try and mistype me as a different type because what i'm portraying
here does always remind people of nines it's not the stereotypical nine right but i'm the counter
type and that explains a lot and so it just really has to do with the behaviors the outside behaviors
what you're seeing doesn't always align with what you think that type would be all right so let's
go ahead and dive into the type eight the whole reason why you're here is so that you can learn
about the counter types of the eight which happens to be the social instinct or subtype that's the
counter type eight and so let's dive into the social eight what do they look like and what
makes them look a little different than the other two subtypes this eight is more service-minded
nurturing protective um more loyal than the other two subtypes at times they're more friendly and
they seem more approachable this eight often does not look like an eight interesting enough
i'm married to a social eight which is the counter type and they say that male 8 a lot
of times resemble nines and women eights a lot of times resemble twos isn't that so interesting
and it's true there have been times where some of the things my husband is doing as a social counter
type eight i'm like you kind of are resembling a nine right now you're resembling me right now
which is so odd but it's true that's what they can look like sometimes this 8 is gonna constantly
find themselves very busy with projects i will be the first one to say every Saturday my husband
gets up and just makes a huge list of things to do projects that need to be done i feel like the
list is never ending with him if you're an eight can you relate to that where there is just a to-do
list all the time it's never ending and you're constantly on the go doing stuff but hot tip 8
watch out because you can run yourself into the ground try not to do that try not to constantly
be on the go make sure you're getting some rest in there too another big difference between the
social eight versus the self-preservation date and the sexual eight is this eight is a lot less
quick to anger even though they're in that anger triad you're not gonna see it as much as you are
in those other two subtypes this eight is just a lot more mellow making them resemble that nine
that social aid is very good at taking care of others but they do need to learn to make sure
they are taking care of themselves too it's just as important guys you need love you need
nurturing you need safety just as much and so make sure you're allowing for space for that
you're allowing that to happen you're receptive to that you're open to that because you need that too
and so that brings us to the end of what a social aid can look like what did you guys think did
you relate to it are you a social eight or do you feel like yeah i'm an ape but i definitely
didn't relate to any of that that's okay it might be because you're self-preservation or sexual
aid and i have good news for you because i have already covered both of those subtypes i'll link
that video right here go give that a watch if you want to learn about all three of the subtypes i've
already covered that in detail and so no worries there you'll get to learn about all three subtypes
if you'd like to learn a little bit more alright so that's all i have on that social eight but you
guys know i never like to close these without letting you know if you are still struggling to
even find your type or you want help figuring out your subtype or wing or anything like that
i do offer um typing sessions coaching sessions different things like that i'll link that info
right here and down below just go to my website www.enneagramcoaching.com you can find out all
the information on what i offer but i know a lot of you can get to the end of these videos and go
goodness i related to some of this but not all of it so i'm still struggling and so i have
that available to you guys but anyways that's all i have for today until next time bye guys
you