Self-hatred, self-loathing, low self esteem,
no self confidence.
I know this sounds dark and dreary,
but we're gonna talk about it,
and we're gonna figure out what to do.
So stay tuned.
So like I said, today we're gonna talk a little bit about
self-hatred, lacking confidence, and having
really, really low self esteem.
Cause I hear from a lot of you that it's really difficult
and we're kind of trapped in it, and
there are many things that we can do to get out of it.
So if you find yourself ruminating and having bad day
after bad day, or find yourself in the middle of your day
and all of a sudden you have these horrible,
nasty, negative thoughts, and they just spin and spin
and spin until we just wanna go home and cry, cause
it's just been such a bad day.
There are so many things that we can do to help ourselves.
And the first thing that I want you to do, and I want you to
recognize, is where do we find the triggers coming from?
Are these triggers that are internal,
or are these triggers that are external?
Meaning, is it that I watched a video about someone who
has everything together and has a great life?
Like, sometimes I feel like I follow people on
instagram because I'm jealous of their life, right?
We watch and they're like
"taking trips to Paris, and buying such nice things,
"and going on all these fancy trips, and blah blah blah."
Does that trigger you and make you feel worse about
who you are, where you are in your life?
Or is it something internal?
Is it the story that we tell ourselves?
This rumination we just can't seem to get out of our heads?
Which is it?
Because then, I have things that we can do
for both of those things.
So if it's an external, if it's something that you find yourself
watching, seeing, doing, then obviously,
the best thing we can do, is make sure that we're putting in
positive information.
We're seeking out positive people.
We're not making plans with friends that always put us
down, or what I call give "complisults,"
where they like compliment you but they insult you
at the same time and you're like
"why do I feel bad about myself all of a sudden?"
Sneaky, sneaky. Not very fun.
So let's make sure if it's an external thing,
that we're surrounding ourselves with people
who brighten us, who build better self esteem for us,
who make us feel happy and good about who we are,
and where we are in our lives.
Or if it's something we're reading or looking at,
don't do that anymore.
I don't subscribe to any magazines that promote anything
like diets, exercise, or anything like that.
Actually, I don't even subscribe to any magazines,
except for Real Simple, cause I love to organize.
But, just make sure you're putting good things in.
We can't put bad things in and expect to get good out,
right? So, let's clean that up.
And the second part, if you find that it's an internal
thing, it's something that you keep telling yourself,
it's this story, it's this horrible feeling you have.
I want you to start noticing those moments,
those seconds, those days, whatever it is,
when you don't have that.
When "bad self esteem" or when "self hatred"
doesn't come into your day, it doesn't even come into your
mind. Notice that, and I want you to write about it.
I want you to journal about it, I want you to write a story
about your day.
"I got up today and I felt good, and here's what I did."
I want you to change the story you're telling yourself.
So we're gonna start focusing on those times when that
self hatred, that disgust, that low confidence,
that whatever it is, comes in,
I want you to notice the times when it's not there.
Let's start focusing on that, because something
interesting that happens in our minds; the more that
we focus on those positive stories, those positive
experiences that we have, the less fequent we have those
bad ones. And I would encourage you, if you find that
your days are getting really, really bad,
then let's make up a day.
Let's start writing about a day when it didn't happen.
It doesn't have to have happened.
We're just telling a story, about ourselves, our perfect day.
And I want to start thinking in the positive,
and I know it's slow at the start, and it's hard,
and it's almost like we're a cartoon character, where
we're like "I'm going, I'm going," but then, we take off.
And it's so much easier, and we'll find that the more we
try to focus on the positive, and the less on the negative,
we'll start to feel better, we'll start to be more confident.
Things will be brighter, clouds will be puffier, skies will be
bluer. It'll be really exciting, and I promise you,
it will help, and for any of you who've gone through this,
or have tips and tricks, or things that help
brighten your day, maybe--
I know you guys get texts sent to you of positive quotes
and things like that--share your tips below.
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Help people know that they're not alone in how they're
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and let's work together towards a healthy mind,
and a healthy body.
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