so when it comes to dating and attraction there is a little fundamental difference
about how people approach it and one makes you come across potentially as needy and basically
gives you frustration quite frequently and the other actually makes you more desirable to women
so that women actually chase you more so which of these two positions would you like to be in
i have an inkling you're going to say the second one so let's explain how that works so the first
approach to dating and attraction which is the one that can make you come across as needy and
somewhat obsessive and sometimes even a little bit stalkery is the hunter approach where you
see yourself basically as the hunter and she's sort of the prey that you are trying to hunt down
and if you think of it like that actually it's an approach that a lot of guys have just to play with
the metaphor what does a hunter do? a hunter goes out with the rifle or whatever identifies a prey
and then starts stalking it to get the best shot right and then either he he kills it or he misses
say you're at a social event right here at a party and you identify one girl that you're interested
in right and then you focus all your attention on how you can get to talk to that one person
not anybody else just this one person that you're interested in right and then
you make your approach and in that process she doesn't really get a chance to
well get intrigued by you because you're already there you clearly are hunting her yeah
so that's one approach and it can often leave guys really frustrated
rejected hard because girls don't really like to be hunted they would love to develop their own
ideas about who they want to get involved with or who they want to invest a bit of time in and
that's really where the fishermen approach comes in what does a fisherman do in the old school way
well you have a fishing rod and you put some bait on it and you throw it into the lake or
into the sea since we're here by the sea you throw that into the sea and you
wait for different fish to get interested in it right transpose that into dating and attraction
now we already established that women need some way of judging who they're going to be interested
in they prefer to choose themselves yeah rather than just taking the guy that comes at them
so how do they choose pre-selection and looking at what other girls are doing taking social cues
and observing men like you so let's transpose this fisherman approach to a social environment
like a party you go to a party and let's say you're a fisherman and you throw out your bait
and with that i mean you basically have some small and social interactions with people so you have a
little bit of an interaction with a bartender then you have a little bit of an interaction with that
cute girl that's standing at the bar but you don't go all in and you don't try to convince her that
you want to date her or whatever no you just have a bit of fun with her and you move on to chat to
somebody else or maybe your friends have arrived and you have a bit of a good time with them
the key is you're throwing out bait in the social environment to different people it's like you
have a lot of different rods basically and a lot of bits of bait and the bait basically is your
interaction the way you interact with people the the personality you show
and the good vibes you're giving people so what happens to all the other women
observing you in that situation well they see you making people feel good
and they see other people being interested in you and smiling with you and having a good time with
you other women as well what does that mean well they start to see you as more desirable because
basically social proof sets in there we are all of a sudden you
have become a more desirable male in their eyes and they have a feeling they can choose you now
and they can get intrigued before you put all your cards on the table and say yo i want to date you
or whatever so you're not hunting anymore but you become somewhat the hunted in a way because
more than one woman could become attracted to you at this point or interested in you
and you can literally see how things crystallize and start to get more interested by one of the
other girls in the place if you want a great video series about how to make conversations work
in a perfect way for this approach the fishermen approach then click here and you'll find out more
it's a free video series you'll enjoy it i'll speak to you next time