One of the biggest common myths about success, is that it's a matter of luck.
Look, life has luck and bad luck that happens along the way.
Don't get into the idea that success is a matter of luck, because what happens when
you think things are due to chance is you withdraw effort.
There's so much research about people quitting when they think their results are due to luck.
It's when you withdraw effort, you don't keep going at something.
Persistence depends on you knowing and deciding and staying with the idea that it's my efforts
that count.
Number two, success is due to connections, it's who you know not what you know.
Look this is a lot of nonsense, it doesn't hurt to get to know people, in fact it helps.
But it's not a matter of who you know, not what you know.
What you know is incredibly important.
Or when you meet the people you think are the people you should know, they're going
to go hey, he doesn't know anything.
You've got to know something.
You've got to know your craft.
Dump the myth about connections.
Get all the connections that you can get but it's not a matter of connections, it a matter
of you having competency.
You've got to have competency.
Third myth, if you become successful you lose all your friends.
Come on.
If you have friends who turn against you because you are a success, you've got to scratch your
head hard and ask yourself, were these really my friends?
I don't think if somebody abandons you because you are successful, because they attribute
to you that now you are too holy or wonderful or whatever, to deem to talk to them, that's
their invention.
Your true friends are going to love you and they're going to celebrate your success.
They're not going to abandon you.
And if they do abandon you, I really think they probably weren't that much your friend.
Now if you come off like you're some kind of prima donna, hey, you're going to lose
friends, but that's new friends and old friends.
Because people are going to tolerate because they get money from you or they get something
from you, but you're not going to have friends.
You need friends.
Treasure your friends, hang on to your friends.
But you have no reason to lose them though because you are successful.
That's just really an excuse that expresses your hesitancy about taking the risks involved
with being a success.
Here's another myth.
There's a myth that success is due to some special gift.
People who become a success are gifted in some unique way that sets them apart like
they have the success gene.
Come on.
There isn't a success gene.
Some people are more voted to following through on their ideas and persisting and staying
with them.
And persistency and consistency are the things that get you towards your goals.
Don't buy into that other stuff, it's bogus.Here's a related myth, that success requires you
growing up in a particular kind of family.
A family that has a history of success because otherwise how would you know what success
is and how would you seek it?
And if you're bereft of having had the kind of nurturing parents and people who were connected
to the country club and this and that and the other thing, then you're just not going
to make it.
Like there's the them and you're not part of the club.
This is bogus.
Again, I hate to tell you this, but it's actually a place to hang out and avoid taking the risk
of really moving forward.
That's a myth that's serving the worst kind of part of anything that will lead to success
on your part.
Don't go for that.
Here's another one about success, that to be a success, you have to be like a money
hungry, back stabbing, scurrilous, nasty villain.
And you have to be after people and you have to be driven and you have to be hard and you
have to be greedy.
There may be people like that, but in a way, that level is almost like something in a movie.
It's a Grade B movie too.
Don't go for that kind of stuff.
Don't tell yourself that kind of stuff.
There is no reason that you can't be the most warm, deep, devoted person in the world to
all the things that matter to you and you can still be a success.
It is not an either or.
Do not hide behind some sanctimonious idea that I would be a success except I don't want
to be one of those driven hard guys.
It's just not an either or.
And it doesn't have to be a both either.
You do not have to be that kind of person.
And finally, and this a myth also.
Success is more trouble than it's worth.
Look, you've got problems now.
Here's what's going to happen if you're a success.
You're going to have problems then too but they are more interesting problems.
Way more interesting problems.
In fact any pursuit that takes you farther always involves trading out problems that
were crummy and boring and devastating and useless for much more interesting problems
that involve fantastic ideas that you need to develop and yes, now you run into a problem,
of course there's always something to overcome.
But how groovy to be overcoming problems that you are excited about the outcome.
Solving problems is one of the most interesting things you can do in life, so ask yourself
this, what are the myths that you keep in place that block your progress and keep you
from actually taking the risk of stepping out and going for something closer to your
ideal life, to your dream, the thing you want to leave behind.
Since you're a high achiever you may know about this.
High achievers often hit a wall.
They're going along, they're having one success after another and then suddenly, something
happens and they grind to a halt.
And it's confusing because they're not sure what it is they've done wrong if anything.
They just know that they're not moving anymore the way they're used to moving.
The way they have moved in the past.
If you've run into like what seems like a ceiling over you and you're kind of in a fog
and you're mystified by what's getting in your way, you can even kind of slide into
a swirl of doubts and wonder if you ever really achieved anything significant at all and whether
any of your amazing achievements you have done were anything but kind of fronting or
a little bit of a fraud.
That is really negative and pernicious and it doesn't have to be that way.
I want you to go get a free report from me.
Go to DrKenChristian.com/Breakthrough and receive from me this free report with action
steps that are going to tell you exactly what to do now to get you going.