All people possess an internal guidance system.
sometimes people call this the inner voice,
sometimes people call it the inner compass,
sometimes they call it their emotional guidance system.
This internal guidance system
enables people to navigate life, make choices
and keep heading in the direction of what they want.
But there is a false assumption that people continue to make
about the internal guidance system,
and that is that it will always lead you
in the direction of pleasure, and never pain.
The Inner Compass Leads You To Both Pleasure And Pain!
This assumption is what causes so many people to misunderstand
their internal compass, or internal guidance system
even to the degree that they abandon it.
And this assumption is also
something that enables other people to take full advantage of it,
so that they can cause somebody else
to completely abandon their internal guidance system
in favor of what the other people tell them to do.
In order to illustrate both points,
I'll give you an example:
I saw a woman many years back, a client,
who grew up under very controlling parents.
Now, these parents had no interest in chasing around a toddler
or a young kid in grade school,
so they preferred it
when she was either watching tv,
or sitting down with her coloring book.
It caused less problems for them, right?
But, in order to reinforce this idea
they kept telling her that if she moved,
I mean got up, played, run, anything...
That she would get hurt.
So, what did this little girl do?
She was about six years old at this point,
she decided to ignore what they said
and instead listen to her own internal guidance system that said:
"I wanna go play with my new roller skates".
So she went she put her roller skates on, and went out
and within five minutes she fell on her butt so hard
she couldn't walk anymore,
I mean, this little girl had to drag herself back home.
Now, what do you think she made this mean?
"Oh my gosh, I can't trust my own internal guidance system,
because it led me in the direction of something painful.
And in fact, my parents were right.
And in fact, if I wanna stay safe in the world,
I have to let go
of what I feel in my being is right or good for me,
and replace it with what they say is right or good for me.
Of course, when she made it home,
her parents said: "We told you so."
When she learned that her inner voice would point her in the wrong direction
or towards what's painful for her,
she decided that there was something wrong with it.
Because, after all, this was her assumption:
"If my internal voice and internal compass was working,
it wouldn't tell me to go do something that caused me pain, right?"
Of course, all of this decision she made on a subconscious level
benefited her parents greatly,
because they loved having such a compliant daughter.
They were in love with the idea
that she was able or willing to replace
her estimation of what was right for her,
with their estimation of what was right for her.
After all, they did know better.
Consequently, this woman actually came to me
in order to deal with relationships.
Specifically, she was having such a hard time
with autonomy and freedom in relationships.
At face value, she would say:
"I really want a relationship where I feel like I have a sense of autonomy,
but I keep finding my way into these relationships with men
where I'm just literally at their mercy entirely,
they tell me what to do,
where to be, when...
And it's almost like I'm just looking to them for directions".
Well the reason for this is because
she completely got rid of her internal guidance system,
by virtue of thinking that
if your internal guidance system was working,
it would only lead you towards pleasurable things,
she kept finding her way into relationships
where she actually did look to that person,
partner in this case, romantically,
to do the same thing for her that her parents did.
To tell her what to think, say and do.
Now, obviously, that's going to lead to
a lack of sensation of autonomy or freedom.
And it did.
But what was interesting is that on a subconscious level,
there was definitely a part of her that didn't want that freedom.
In fact, that autonomy was terrifying.
Why? Because it brought back that original traumatic experience
or that belief that:
"I need someone to tell me what to think say and do,
because after all, my internal guidance system
is totally broken and only leads me in the direction of pain."
She didn't want to take responsibility
for any of the things that happened to her
that might be bad.
She also didn't wanna run the risk of something bad happening
in the first place.
This idea that people have that their internal compass
will always lead them towards pleasure,
instead of pain,
also comes with this added belief people usually have
that pain is somehow wrong
or that if you experience pain,
that equals, automatically, negative results.
Now, neither of these beliefs are actually accurate.
The inner compass is designed to lead you in the direction
of what is in your best interests.
What most people would call "right for you or good for you".
But just because something is in your best interest,
does not mean that it will necessarily be pleasurable.
After all, your internal guidance system
is not separate from the law of attraction
or synchronicity, or divine plans
within the universe at large.
And let me tell you,
not all elements of synchronicity are pleasurable,
not every element of a divine plan feels good.
For example, another client that I saw many years ago
was an extreme skier.
Now, one day she was super excited
because she was gonna get to go ski
in an area of terrain that she had never skied before
with a friend who knew it well.
Now, her internal guidance system on that morning was saying:
"Yes! This is a hell yes!"
It was leading her in the direction of doing that.
now on that fateful day that she went to that area
or that terrain,
she ended up completely rupturing her ACL.
And guess what?
It ended her entire sports career.
Do you think she felt good about this?
Oh, hell no!
She sunk into an incredible depression,
until one day she got a phone call from someone she knew
that said I need some help
with some kids that I am dealing with
at the Montessori School that I'm running.
With that phone call, all of a sudden, she felt:
"This is strange, this is like a sense of calling".
In her first three days helping out at that Montessori School
she felt more purpose in her being
than her entire life
that used to be dedicated towards sports.
Now, she says that that ACL injury
is the best thing that ever happened to her.
So, her internal guidance system in fact, led her towards pain.
Did you see that?
But was it wrong to do so?
Or was it right to do so?
In other words,
was her internal guidance system
leading her in the direction of something that would cause her pain,
in alignment with her best interests?
Another example,
is that if a person has learned a codependent style of relationships,
their internal guidance system is likely to lead them
into such painful relationships,
that they become aware of their own dysfunction
and then consciously change a pattern within themselves,
thereby bringing themselves closer to relationships that feel good
and also a stronger sense of self.
Another example is that an athlete's guidance system
may point them in the direction of a gold medal,
and thus in the direction of a really difficult training regimen
which causes them to bleed and cry and sweat and struggle.
I'm not saying that your internal guidance system
is always perfectly healthy.
In fact, your internal compass can be meddled with.
To understand more about this, I want you to watch my video titled:
Why "Follow Your Joy" Doesn't Always Work
The main reason that channels or spirit guides
often don't really care much
whether they're making you aware of
the health of your own internal guidance system,
or whether they're just telling you to follow it no matter what,
is because ultimately, they know
that if your guidance system internally, is off,
that you're going to be led in the direction
of somewhere you end up hating when you get to the end of that,
or even in the middle of it.
And that will cause you to amend your desire
back on track with something that is a more accurate reflection
of your authentic internal guidance system.
You should not distrust yourself
or distrust your internal guidance system based off of knowing this.
That's actually worse than just not knowing any of this,
and following your guidance system as if it's completely accurate all the time
to your authentic self
no matter where it leads you.
Rather, when you follow your internal compass
so that emotional guidance system
with the awareness that it could have been meddled with in some way,
then the most important question you end up with
and that you end up asking yourself relative to these desires
or the direction it's pointing you, is:
"Why?"
"Why is that a yes for me?"
"Why does it feel so good?"
So, all this being said,
I tend to talk a lot about this idea of the "faulty compass"
because it helps people in terms of conceptually understanding it,
but actually your internal guidance system can never be faulty.
In fact, it's always on point.
The problem is, it's a lot of times on point with your programming.
Here's what I mean:
If it was right for you to be an artist, but you were born to parents
who would not put up with that career choice,
and you adopted a deeper value of being close with family,
then personal purpose,
your internal guidance system would point you in the direction of:
then it's right to give up your art,
for the career that mom or dad want you to have.
It will make doing so feel better and more like relief,
than pursuing art, in fact.
So, perhaps a better way to say that
is that it's important to make sure
the reason that your compass is pointing the way it's pointing
is both conscious,
and something you can consciously align with
or say "yes" to.
What all this boils down to,
is that, pretend your internal compass or that internal guidance system
leads you into something that's painful.
You shouldn't automatically make that mean
that you need to distrust your internal guidance system,
or that somehow your internal self is against you, right?
With a more thorough understanding of the way the universe works
and the way that your internal guidance system or compass works
in conjunction with the universe,
you can let go of this meaning entirely.
This means your interpretation
of the painful situations you end up in
will actually change.
We are conditioned to believe that feeling pain
is both unnecessary and a bad thing.
We also, often make it mean that we've somehow failed.
But, pain serves a powerful purpose in the universe at large.
And as such, it isn't completely avoidable.
To understand more about this, watch my video titled:
The Meaning of Pain
Pain calls us to become conscious of ourselves and others.
It's a messenger.
Treat pain like a teacher and learn from your pain.
Next time you feel pain
as a result of your internal guidance system
leading you towards something that ended up being painful,
remind yourself that pain is the catalyst
for the true alchemy of life change.
And so consider that it may just be
your internal guidance system
working in perfect conjunction with the universe at large
for you and for your best interests,
instead of against you,
and against your best interests.
Have a good week.
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But I wanna personally thank you for taking the initiative
and having the bravery to step into the space of awareness
not only for yourself, but for the benefit of those around you.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte