Okay. Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakaatuhu.
My brothers and sisters, we have alhamdulillah, some interesting discussions.
Inshallah.
It's okay. I could hold this Inshallah. That's fine.
We have some discussion inshallah we're gonna have with-
there is a lady that she's asking about some question.
And you are interested to ask something what does Islam view about certain things, yes?
Can you please repeat your question?
Yeah. So I just wanted to know like why is it that-
What is the logic or reasoning behind men having the privilege of being able to do triple Talaq (Divorce),
but women don't? Like is there like a reason behind it?
I am not aware of it. So it would be nice if you could say.
Now she was asking about why the men, they have the privilege to do the triple divorce in Islam-
You are not a Muslim yourself?
No.
Okay.
And... What background do you come from?
So, Hinduism.
So you are a Hindu?
Yeah.
And you wanted to know Islam, why Islam give the privilege to men
to do triple divorce, where the women, they don't have the same concept?
Praise be to Allah and salutation and blessing be upon Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
First of all,
that we should understand that who legislate the legislation in Islam?
We believe as Muslims, that God has created us for a purpose.
And the purpose that God has created us for is to worship none but him alone with no partners.
Meaning we should worship him alone with no partners.
We should not associate with Allah any partners.
And the- when we say worship God in Islam, it's not just only,
It's more like a broad concept in Islam, rather than to be
something restricted to be in the mosque or just the act of worship in a mosque.
Whatever we do in the life, it should be an act of worship. As Allah (S.W.T) mentions in the Qur'an:
(Recites a verse from Qur'an)
"I have not created the mankind or the jinn kind except for my worship.
So God has created us for this concept.
Which is to worship the God.
And everything in our life, it has to be an act of worship.
That includes our relation with our fathers, our relation with our mothers,
our relation with our spouse, our relation with our children.
The things that we do, everything. That includes even what we do the environment around us.
It has to be an act of worship, which means we should take care of the environment,
we should take care of our families, etc.
Now, and to-
And God as well sent to us prophets and messengers,
one after another to convey the message of God to us.
And the final messenger was the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH),
came and conveyed the messenger of God.
And as well brought to us the legislations of God, that includes the marital relationship.
And to manage the relationship between husband and wife.
And there is a concept that they think that the man,
thinking that the man is entitled to do the divorce.
And they think the woman, she's not entitled to ask for divorce.
What in fact, that in Islam the woman is entitled to ask for divorce depending on the reasoning.
And she should have kind of a valid reason.
And if she doesn't have even a valid reason,
She is entitled to ask for something called Khul'
And the Khul' is a request by the wife,
asking the husband that to nullify the marriage.
Based on that, she could then continue to live with her husband.
And Islam established this in Islam.
And it is established something which is a concept established in Islam.
And she is entitled to ask for the Khul'
And the Khul' should have a condition.
Otherwise, she would be sinful for doing so, for asking things that is without reasoning.
And the same thing as the man to divorce his wife without a valid reason.
And as well he is sinful for asking such thing.
So they should have- Both of them, they should have a valid reason.
And the woman, when she's asking for the Khul', which is literally to nullify the marriage,
Based of that she does, she could then establish the rules of Allah (S.W.T) within the marital relationship.
As the hadith of the Prophet (PBUH);
A woman came to him and she said to him: (Arabic)
My husband, such and such, he is a good person.
And I don't see any bad things in him, but I cannot live in sin in Islam.
Meaning I cannot live like- I don't want him, I hate to stay with him.
At the same time, I couldn't fulfill his rights.
Which is, she said: (Arabic)
Meaning I hate that, to be ungrateful while I am a Muslim.
And then the Prophet (PBUH), he said to her:
He said: "Then return back the mahr or the dowry."
And she was taken a garden from him.
Or something, like a place which is a land, a piece of land that he gave her as a gift for the marriage.
And then he said: "Return it back to him."
And then he asked the man to do the Khul' for her.
So it was established at the time of the Prophet (PBUH).
And in fact, that nullification of the marriage,
as soon as the man grants the Khul' for the wife,
then she doesn't have to, according to the authentic and accurate saying of the scholars,
she doesn't have to stay for three months, or three periods as the normal divorce.
Because if the man did the divorce for his wife,
she has to stay for three periods, three menstruation periods
until the marriage is totally nullified.
In fact, in this, that she only need to wait for only one menses period.
And then after that, you know and even that marriage will be nullified as soon as the Khul' was granted.
But just only to make sure that the womb is clear from any babies.
So there she has to wait for her period,
and then after that she is entitled to get married to another person.
And that's what generally the rule in Islam-
even though some scholars, they said: "She has to wait for three months."
But the accurate saying, based on a hadith, which is a statement from the Prophet (PBUH),
that only she has to wait, for only one period.
So that's an answer for you,
so not just only the men has the privilege, actually the women, she has the privilege as well,
to do, to ask for Khul'.
Well the man doesn't have the same concept.
He is entitled to divorce.
And if he divorce, he has to give as well, which is the mahr, the dowry that was already given.
And as well he has to spend on her for three months,
until the marriage is nullified, you know totally.
So the woman, she doesn't have to do that.
So he has to spend on her, he has to take care of her,
until the third period has finished from her
and she purified herself from that, then after that the marriage is finished.
And as well the woman is entitled as well to ask for the nullification of the marriage,
based on harm.
For example if the husband is- for example abusive,
or the husband didn't fulfill her rights,
like for example, didn't spend on her and didn't for example-
for example was ill or something that he didn't fulfill her rights.
Then she is entitled to go to the judge
and asking the nullification of the marriage.
And based on this, if she- if the judge find that if she lives with him, she will be in harm,
and that could harm her more.
Then the judge is entitled to do the nullification of the marriage based on harm.
And she will be entitled to all her full rights,
including her dowry, including the being to spend on her
until her last period is finished. That's as well, she's entitled for that.
So that shows how Islam is fair dealing with men, women.
What we found in cultures,
in Christianity, there is no divorce, like authorized in the bible.
So there is no kind of authorized divorce in the bible.
It was only just by the protist stand later on they have established something kind of divorce.
But actually, that is not backed up from the concept from the bible.
And the same thing in Hinduism, since you are talking about the Hinduism.
You know in the old times what they used to do in Hinduism?
That the woman, she used to be married for life.
And even afterlife.
That in the old times, some of the Hindus, not all but some of them,
They have the concept that if the husband dies,
Then they will, we know that they burn the body, and then they burn the wife,
of the husband alive.
Because they said they are connected, and that's how they believe.
So they will burn the body of the husband, and they will burn as well the wife alive with him.
And that's kind of, it was established until they stopped it,
I think when the British came and then they stopped these acts.
So the point is, the concept of the divorce
as well it doesn't exist by the legislation of the, you could say divine, or what they call it? Not divine.
The legislation mentioned in the, you know in the Hindu text,
there is no concept of divorce because they believe that the marriage is for life.
So that's why in Islam, Islam established there is a concept of divorce.
And both, husband and wife are able to practice.
But generally, Allah give kind of because-
Allah give kind of the, in a way, the authority
to the husband to do the divorce, to initiate the divorce.
But yet, he will be questioned for the divorce if he was,
in the day of judgement, if he wasn't fair.
if he divorced her without a valid reason,
then Allah (S.W.T) will question him in the day of judgement, and he will be- he might be punished as well
if he did the divorce or harm her.
And she is entitled as well to ask for the Khul' or nullification of the marriage.
She is entitled for that.
So that's the concept. Did I answer your question?
Yes.
Now, I will ask you a question now here.
Now, did you read about Islam yourself?
I am just curious.
You are just curious?
And what do you think about the answer I mentioned to you?
What do you think about- Do you want to read more about Islam?
Are you interested to learn more about Islam?
Yeah, I would like to.
So I advise you to learn about Islam.
And related to the three divorce,
by the way, some people, they think the practice of the three divorce
even though it is a saying of the scholars of Islam,
that it is- vast majority of scholars of Islam, they believe
if the man did the three divorce in one go, then means the marriage is nullified instantly.
But we have some authentic hadith from the Prophet (PBUH),
that one of the Sahaba of the Prophet (PBUH), the companions of the Prophet,
did divorce his wife and then the Prophet (PBUH), he only accepted as one divorce.
Which means even if the husband said to his wife:
"You are divorced 1000 times."
Still is considered, according to the hadith of the Prophet (PBUH), that is considered to be one.
And that means she has to wait for her period,
the three months, naturally either three months or three menstruation periods.
Within that, he is entitled to return her back.
Or to return the marriage back,
By again, the same as he said it by word, he is entitled as well to return the marriage back.
So it's a concept as well, it's known by many of the Muslims,
but actually the accurate saying and statement of the Prophet (PBUH),
it was only considered to be one divorce, and it doesn't nullify the marriage instantly.
And after three months if they got back, and if he divorces her again,
She has to wait another four periods,
and if he return her back before the end of her
Iddah,
which is the three menstruation periods.
And the third time if he did the divorce, the final divorce,
that shows that the marriage couldn't be established between them.
And best for both of them to find, you know better spouse.
And that's what Islam shows, rather than to be stick-
keep divorcing and bringing back, divorcing and bringing back.
So at least they could move on to establish a healthier environment family.
Yeah? Is that clear sister?
Yes.
Alright, thank you. No problem.
Have a nice day.
Okay.
And that's an advice Inshallah for my brothers and sisters.
That not to haste into the divorce,
and not haste, and as well because unfortunately,
even non Muslims, they come and they notice these practices by Muslims.
So that's why it is an advice for my brothers and sisters,
as well not to haste into the divorce,
and not to haste into, especially the brothers who are married,
not to haste into giving the divorce, because at the end of the day,
you are bringing a bad example. Even not just only to Muslims
you are bringing as well a bad example to non Muslims.
That's why that the marriage is a concept in Islam.
And the divorce as well, it's a concept in Islam.
But it has to be based on the conditions of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH).
Jazakallah-u-Khairohum (Farewell)