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Today, I'm going to be talking about how to date during self-isolation.
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Dating during self-isolation, quarantine, stay at home, whatever you want to call this,
is about to be a little different than the dating that we're used to.
But it doesn't mean that dating is not possible, it just means that we have to be a little
open to the possibilities of different styles of dating.
This might be the sign for you if you've never wanted to try online dating, if you're like,
"I am not an online dating person, I like to meet people out in person.
I like to meet people in real life, IRL."
If you're really keen on meeting Prince Charming at a pub or a bar, or you're that person.
Now, since we're at home, this might be the time for you to actually just take a chance,
dip your little toes in, dip your toes in, and see what online dating and all the apps
can bring to you.
Now, you can just use this as an experiment and see if it's fun for you.
The cool thing is that there is no pressure.
A lot of people are going to be in the same boat as you.
So all those hot guys that were like, "I don't know about online dating.
I like to get my chicks at the bar," are also going to be thinking about getting online
and doing that.
And we don't know how long this self-isolation is going to last, it's a good chance we're
going to be in this for a while.
We've gotten over our feelings, and now we're ready to hit the dating.
We're ready.
We're like, you're going to take it by the horns and take control of your dating life,
and that is why I'm here for you.
And I'm going to give you some tips on how to date during self-isolation.
Social distancing does not mean that you have to give up on dating.
I want you to remember that, and I have these tips for you so that you can take your dating
life by the horns, and line up some dates so that when this is all over, you're just
like date, date, date, date, date.
They're like, "What are you doing this weekend?"
Date.
Okay?
Let's get to it.
Number one: as I mentioned, join the dating apps, the online game, even if it's just for
fun and experiment, no one is judging you.
Now is the time.
If you are at home, you have nothing but time.
So join one of the many dating apps.
Try your hand at swiping.
Even if you just do it for fun, you have no intentions of ever seeing these people.
I think that this will put the energy out there that you're taking control of your dating life.
That you're being serious about it, and that after this is all over, you would like to
meet someone in real life.
Now, the cool thing is, you actually do get to meet people doing this.
You get to have conversations, you get to test the waters, and the best part about right
now is that there's no pressure.
But guys shouldn't be asking you if you want to come hook up right now, because we're all
in social distancing, self-quarantine.
You can really get to know a person through the messaging atmosphere, and weed out people
that you don't want to talk to, and most likely, they're going to be a little bit more serious too.
Because the guys aren't going to be able to just be using it as a completely, just hookup
app anymore, because everyone's at home.
And even if they're not at home, the chances of them being able to hook up as much as they
used to, have gone down significantly.
So if they're on the app, they also want to make connections, that's good for you.
This is a time to try out some of the online dating apps.
You can sign up, try it for a few days.
You can always delete.
There is no proof that you were there, just delete it if you don't like it.
And remember, the cute guys that also were against dating applications, are contemplating
and giving it a try too.
So now the pool is bigger than ever, in terms of online dating.
Slide into the DMs.
We are all on Instagram right now, or whatever social media is your jam, that is what you're
going to be on.
So if you see someone cute in social media world, I don't even care if it's a celebrity.
This is when you take your shot.
Okay?
Celebrities are at home too.
Chris Evans, he at home.
Michael B. Jordan, he at home.
Whoever you think is cute, who cares?
Just slide into the DMs, say hi, comment on an Instagram story.
And I mean regular guys too.
I'm really not saying go stalk celebrities.
I'm just saying now's the chance where you could slide into the DMs, say a simple hello,
say hi.
If you see that you guys have mutual friends through Instagram, get an introduction from someone.
I mean, you need to be creative during this time in meeting people, and you also have
to remember that everyone is pretty much at home not doing anything.
So this is the time where you can actually slide into the DMs, and you might catch them
and get their attention, and who knows?
And if you do end up dating Chris Evans or someone like that, I would like an invite
to whatever wedding you are planning.
Because I would like to get out of the house and do fun things when all of this is over,
because I have nothing planned.
Virtual dates.
So if you met someone before we all went into quarantine, you can definitely keep going
with virtual dates and be very creative in the way that you guys stay connected.
You can have dinner dates with that person where they have dinner on their side, you
have dinner on your side, and you do it through video, FaceTime, anything like that.
Or if it's people that you meet through dating apps, you can also have fun dates with them.
Now, if you feel pressure like, "Ooh, I don't want to get in a weird video date with someone
from Bumble or Tinder, and be like, 'Ooh, I don't like this person,'" you can always
set a time limit before the date.
Like no matter how good the date is going, have a date for 10 minutes.
And then when that 10 minutes is up, no matter how great it's going, you just decide, "Hey,
we'll schedule another one of these."
And then that way, you can get off the video chat, and you give each other a chance to
see if you liked each other.
So there's no pressure, because if one person thinks it's going really well and in your
head, you're like, "I know it's really going well, but I'm a Gemini, and everything goes
well for me when I talk to people."
Then it gives you a chance to kind of assess and be like, "Yo, I'm not feeling this," so
you're not pressured into a three hour video call, because you can't get off of the video.
Now on Zoom, the cool thing is if you use the free account on Zoom, I believe it's a
40 minute limit.
Which I was talking on Zoom recently and I was like, "Yay, there's only a 40 minute limit!"
and then someone in the group was like, "I just got extended for an hour.
We can keep going," and I was like, "Oh snap, okay."
Well, that might not work, but just put a time limit on your date, and you'll just have
a good time.
But it's a cool way to connect with people, and you don't have the pressure of making
out, or some weird kiss at the end or any awkwardness, because it's just through video.
If you do decide to do video, here's some quick tips: make sure that you kind of try
to use natural light if you can.
If not, put a light behind the phone that you're using so it lightens up your face,
and so that you look all pretty, and bright, and beautiful.
And put a little makeup on.
Get it a little bit together.
I understand if he doesn't love you at your worst, he won't love you at your best or something,
something, but try to be your best.
Because we're all in quarantine.
Okay.
All right.
My last tip, I know we might be tired of it, but you know what?
We can bring it back.
This might be for a while anyway, so bring back the virtual happy hours.
Just plan one.
You do not have to do once a week, because I think that they can get intense sometimes,
but plan a virtual happy hour with some of your friends or just a few of your friends,
and ask each of them to bring someone else to the virtual happy hour that is single,
or that you can all kind of get to know each other, so that you can make friends.
I don't want to say to put this under the guise like, "Hey girls, I need you all to
bring a single man to a virtual thing, so that I can meet all these single men at the
same time," no.
Make it normal.
You are making friends, and by you making friends during quarantine, you are making
the possibilities of meeting new people when we're not in quarantine anymore.
You're just making your circle a little bit bigger, because I feel like when we move out
of quarantine and social distancing, there still will be a bit of social distancing.
Which means more intimate house parties, more small gatherings, and the more friends that
you make, the more likely you will be invited to these small gatherings.
These intimate house parties, so that you can meet people.
I've mentioned before that house parties are the way to go, I feel when you hit a certain
age in meeting people, that you would like to date.
That's it.
I don't want you to use this time as a way to sulk or be sad about your loneliness, or
being single AF.
I want you to know that there are options for you.
And if you're an introvert, this is the best time for you, because you don't have to worry
about going to a bar and being in a crowded place, or walking up to someone.
We're all in the same boat, so it's really just about saying hi through DM, or downloading
an app, and doing it all from the comfort of your home.
Even the first date's through video chat or from your home, you could be party on top,
pajama pants on bottom.
I want you to enjoy this time and see the positives.
That is all I have to say in terms of dating during self-isolation.
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Stay CreaTiff, and stay home.