I get it.
You're a nice guy.
Maybe someone has told you you're a nice guy.
Or maybe you've seen all this nice guy stuff on the internet and you've labeled yourself
as a nice guy.
Listen, guilty over here, former nice guy.
The reason why is because there's some habits that I was doing and some habits that I guarantee
you're doing that we're going to try and break on this video so you're no longer labeled
as that nice guy.
I want to be very clear here when we talk about the nice guy or the nice guy syndrome.
I never want to turn you into a jerk.
It's not about being mean to people.
People think, if you're a nice guy, do the opposite, be mean.
But the idea is, it's not that you're a nice guy.
That's a fun little label that we've created.
But "nice guy" means that you're being a people pleaser and you're doing a lot of things so
people can like you.
Does that sound familiar?
Let's break this.
Let's give you some hacks.
Some new habits and stuff I promise you've never heard before.
If you start doing this and you start doing this today, this week, whenever you're watching
this video, you're going to start getting out of that nice guy mentality.
It might not solve it for good, but it's going to be a really nice start.
The first one is this stop apologizing all the time.
A lot of guys are very apologetic.
They're always saying I'm sorry, excuse me, I'm sorry.
Or maybe they're saying sorry for something they didn't do or they're saying I'm sorry
to someone even though they're having a bad day and you're saying I'm sorry.
It's very nice of you but it's not necessary to be apologizing all the time.
I want you to actually stop apologizing.
The only exception here is if you've actually done something very hurtful to someone and
it causes you to really have a sit down conversation and say to them and look them in the eye and
say, I'm sorry.
But of course we both know that those situations only happen from time to time.
Unless it's that very specific situation where you hurt someone and you need to tell them
I'm sorry, stop saying that word.
Take it completely out of your vocabulary.
What it's doing is it's reinforcing that you are always doing something wrong.
Then you feel you have to make up for it by saying I'm sorry or you probably don't even
mean it half the time and you're just saying it because it's a habit.
Let's take that word out and instead say "my bad".
For example, if you end up stepping on someone's toes as you're walking out of the train just
say "oh my bad" and keep walking.
If anything happens with someone or you're talking to a girl something goes on and things
get kind of flustered you say "oh my bad".
Use that instead of I'm sorry.
But please don't try to use that all the time.
Because I don't want you to be always saying that you're bad because it's not always you're
bad.
It's something to put in place of I'm sorry.
Here's another thing I want you to do.
I want you to do it this week when you're in conversation with someone or if you're
talking to a girl, especially if you're talking to a girl.
I want you to disagree with something that they say.
But here's how you're going to do it.
I don't want you to necessarily lie and just disagree to disagree.
I want you to really focus in on the conversation that you're having with somebody and make
sure that you're listening so much so if they say something you disagree with and it's very
normal to have different opinions from people, different interest from people, or just different
thoughts from other people that you're talking to, I want you to take note of that, be aware
and conscious of that and then I want you to outwardly state to them that you disagree
or that you don't think so or no I see it a different way.
Or you're going to say something where you are going to an opposite.
What a lot of nice guys do is they tend to agree and say the same things as the person
that they're talking to all the time.
What you want to do is try to do the opposite, but I want you to find a moment to be able
to do this and I'm sure that you can.
This is going to be the start to you having your own personality and talking in the way
that you want to talk and being able to express the opinions that matter to you so you can
be more of who you are and not be the nice guy.
I have one more left and I guarantee you have not heard this anywhere.
Before I get to it.
I want to remind you that if you're interested in working on being able to destroy this nice
guy syndrome that is inside of your head, if you want to remove it, I can help you do
that.
Personally, I'm offering coaching right now one on one coaching and group coaching, plenty
of options for you.
If you want me to help you get rid of this nice guy mentality, go to the description
below where you and I can work on this together.
Apply today.
Go to www.coachedbytripp.com.
That is in the description and you and I will talk and see if coaching is a good fit for
you.
Let's work on this together.
If you're finding that it's hard for you to do it yourself.
This week and ongoing what I want you to do is I want you to pick a date and I want you
to do something for yourself.
What this means is you and yourself are going to go out and do something fun just for you.
Here's the thing, you cannot cancel these plans.
You cannot cancel them, they are very specific to you and nothing should be able to get in
the way of these plans.
What I want you to do is I want you to start developing a relationship with yourself.
You can start to respect yourself more and you can do whatever you want.
It doesn't matter, go see a movie, go take a walk, go to a sports game, whatever it is
go do it, do it by yourself.
And I'm not saying that if you go do this thing, you can't talk to other people.
But make sure it's something that you're doing with you.
It seems like it's not a big deal.
But if you do this over time, it's going to start to create this relationship with yourself.
Where you start to build that respect, you start to really understand who you are.
That means that you're not going to be just doing things for other people, but doing things
for you.
Again, if you need help with this go to the description right now.
Click on www.coachedbytripp.com and you and I can start working together as soon as you
fill out that application.
Either way, start these habits this week.
I hope this helps and I'll see you on the next video.