I was recently on Tinder after finishing up one of my intergalactic orgies at the playboy
mansion
And something really strange happened to me…
I got rejected
I know i know, it even happens to a god like me sometimes.
But what’s more important than the fact that i got rejected is that i recovered it
smoothly AND it worked SO well that she actually gave me her contact info first - without me
even having to ask!
Yeah, godly stuff I know..
What else do you expect from a channel called Based Zeus?
It’s a short exchange but i wanna break down what happened in detail here and show
you the one lesson that most guys who get rejected don’t understand.
The first thing to learn is that There are 2 types of rejections:
Type 1) A hard rejection aka a hard no
This isn’t recoverable.
Once you get a hard rejection or a hard no, just cut your losses and move on.
The last thing you wanna do is push a boundary and make a girl feel uncomfortable because
that would be a dick move.
Type 2) A soft rejection
This is when the girl is saying no just by default.
She’s a hot girl who gets hit on by guys all the time.
So she says no because it’s her default, and she’s waiting to see how you respond.
Do you get butthurt..
Do you beg… do you get discouraged and just stop replying?
She’s feeling you out and seeing how you’re gonna react because the way you react will
tell her a lot about what kind of man you are.
Now sometimes this soft rejection might be a ‘shit test’ but not always.
Sometimes a girl gets hit on so often that she might’ve just written you off out of
habit.
This short Tinder interaction is an example of type 2, the soft rejection.
So as you can see I immediately open the conversation shooting for the date.
She responds with a soft rejection.
Suggesting that she wants to say no, but she still has some interest there…
she’s waiting to see if i play my cards right.
Because the truth is if she really wasn’t interested, she would’ve just not responded
to me.
Understanding this, I do what gods do - I execute perfectly under pressure.
Instead of getting butthurt, defensive, or trying to convince her that she should go
out with me, I do the opposite.
I say “that’s totally fine”.
I start off by saying, ‘hey, no problem its cool, i’m totally willing to walk away
here’ and that’s the most important part of my response.
I’m willing to walk away from a hot girl when she floats the idea of rejecting me.
I’m not acting needy, thirsty, or desperate for her to hang with me.
Now that i’ve shown her im not a desperate simp who’s begging girls to go out with
him…
I follow up by telling her that SHE is actually the one who’s missing out if she rejects
my date offer.
By saying “But we’d have so much more fun if you said yes” - I’m being flirty,
i’m being a little ambiguous by not telling her exactly how we’d have fun, and it’s
a tiny bit of sexual tension too by saying we’d have lots of fun and then leaving it
vague and open ended.
So we went from her almost rejecting me, to her giving ME her contact info without me
even asking for it.
She was so sold on a date with me, that she offered her snap to me UNPROMPTED.
How did I pull of this god-tier wizardry?
Well it was easy.
MEssage #1 showed me conveying that i’m willing to let her walk away and i’m not
losing sleep over not going out with her, and then I follow it up with message #2 which
makes HER feel like she’s missing out on ME.
2 short messages is all it takes for you to turn a situation completely around, if you
know what you’re doing.
Not to mention, my tinder profile was also dialed in and she references it in her next
message as the reason she’s agreeing.
Now, for every rejection I turn around like this, there are also times where I just get
no response.
Nobody hits a homerun every time, not even me.
But I always know what’s responsible for my rejection, and I fix those things to make
my rejection rate extremely low.
If you’re a guy trying to improve at dating - don’t overthink a rejection.
If you think you got rejected for doing something wrong, spend a minute or two thinking about
what could’ve went wrong, but don’t get emotional about it.
Observe what happened and how you could’ve played it better from a non-emotional point
of view, then implement those changes next time.
Don’t cry about it.
Don’t spend all day stalking her social media wishing she didn’t reject you.
And don’t go on the internet complaining that women don’t like nice guys and only
like chad.
Because blaming women for your own shortcomings will NEVER make you a better man, or better
at dating.
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See ya in there, Zeus out!