how not to watch porn this weekend i'm dr trish leigh let me tell you how in this video first
we're going to talk about number one why not to watch porn this weekend number two
what will happen to your brain if you can leave the screen behind and number three how you're
going to do it so let's dig in number one why are you gonna leave porn behind this weekend
let me tell you in the states it's memorial day weekend which means it's a long weekend for most
people the perfect opportunity to pattern interrupt that negative feedback loop that
you have been stuck in for so long it's gonna give you three full days to break that pattern
and to begin to establish a positive feedback loop for long-term change now let me remind you
what the feedback loops are negative feedback loop it's your proverbial downward spiral so you get
triggered you're feeling stressed you have a ton of time on your hands this weekend you're bored
i'll watch some porn it will make me feel better because of the dopamine flood that i get in my
brain but because you get the dopamine flood in your brain then when you go back to your life
and your kids want to play cornhole you can't because it doesn't produce enough dopamine
negative feedback loop because now you gotta go watch more porn to get more dopamine
to feel okay with trying to go back into the world and it gets worse and worse and worse
what we're going to do is we're going to pattern interrupt that feedback loop
and create an awesome upward spiral so this is how it works you don't watch porn even though you're
feeling triggered and you find a healthy way to offset the stress of the boredom of the weekend
and you get dopamine albeit in lower levels when you get started you get dopamine from
healthy activities like playing pickleball with your family i know what you're thinking why am
i bringing up all these weird pseudosports uh they're they're hot at least in north
carolina these days uh then you are able to have family time and you're able to tell yourself
i'm the guy who hangs out with their family on memorial day weekend that begins to create
dignity and integrity for the upward spiral of the positive feedback loop that makes you stronger
being able to resist the urges next time because you're acting as the person that
you want to become and three days is better than two days when we're interrupting that pattern
now i have a caveat there's never a good time to struggle or suffer and you may struggle with some
withdrawal symptoms when your brain wants that massive release of dopamine and you don't give it
that release so you know what there's never a good time to do this if you are going to have some of
those feelings or some of those experiences but there's it's never a good time to lose your job
because you keep watching porn at work it's never a good time for a divorce and we know
that porn consumption leads to two times the amount of breakups or divorces it's never a good
time for your children not to talk to you anymore because the dynamics have been destroyed so let's
just take the weekend to break that pattern so we don't have to deal with that stuff in the future
that's the why the why is because today's the day to start and i know you can do it i know it might
be hard but i also know that it's not impossible and that you can do it if you're 100 committed
because on the opposite side of this weekend you are going to feel like a rock star if you're able
to do it okay so two what's that gonna do to your brain what it's going to do is it's going to start
pulling those extremes down the too much fast speed the too much slow speed they will decrease
and the calm focus in the middle is going to increase your brain will recalibrate its self
back to homeostasis it'll go back to that norm of the optimal brain pattern coming out of that
new norm that you've created through porn consumption that is what is going to happen it's
going to unwire itself and if you can engage in some dopamine producing activities you're going to
simultaneously rewire it in the right direction and you are going to begin to feel and perform
better you're going to get stronger in this journey you're going to be able to leave the
habit behind okay number three how are you going to do that you're going to do it by exactly what
i just said you are going to on thursday night you are going to flexibly schedule your weekend
with dopamine producing activities now this is what you're going to do you're going to fill your
weekend with primarily number one brain boosting activities things that make you feel good and help
you connect to other people in the world connect to your purpose connect to your hobbies and your
interests connection so you're going to get on purpose and you're going to set the intentions of
how you're going to do that through brain boosting activities this weekend you also are number two
going to include brain recovery activities this weekend so you're gonna give yourself enough time
to rest take a power nap take a little snooze take a chill on your back porch just relax take a walk
in nature recovery what you're also going to do is number three stay out of brain draining activities
so number one pornography very brain draining you're gonna stay away number two stressy
relationships if anybody tries to argue with you you are not taking the bait you are going to stay
in the chill zone you're going to avoid anything stressful anything overwhelming you're going to
let your nervous system recover this weekend so we can pattern interrupt flexibly schedule it do
not leave big holes in your schedule this is very important make sure you schedule something healthy
in the time frames when you would normally watch pornography we know most people have a ritual
put a new ritual in place this weekend make sure it involves connection and not isolation and make
sure you're trying to get as much dopamine as you can okay so i have a new podcast porn brain
reboot check it out i'm going to record a podcast episode right now where i flesh out the ideas of
things that you can do this weekend even more so if you want to join me over there it's at the new
website that i just created porn brain reboot.org our nonprofit organization is moving forward
and the website with the programs is live i would love for you to go check that website out
and the podcast is listed there under the podcast webpage so you can access that episode right there
uh and it's gonna have specific ideas for you beyond corn hole and pickleball
so jump on over and then if you are looking for help in this journey you can go to that
new website pornbrainreboot.org it has all the information that you need and the programs are
listed there for you too and as always remember control your brain or it'll control you