- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers.
Have you been talking to your crush lately,
and you're not sure if they're flirting or just being nice?
Flirting can be a tricky thing.
Many of us are often left wondering
how we should act around the people we like
or what the right thing to say would be,
how we can subtly let them know
that we're interested in them
and, in turn, decipher if they feel the same way.
It can all get real complicated real fast.
And the last thing any one of us would want
is to possibly jeopardize our friendship with them
by making things awkward.
Don't worry though.
Here are eight telltale signs
that can help you tell the difference
between someone who might be interested in you
and someone who's just being nice.
Number one, they're nice to everyone.
The first thing you should always take a look at
when trying to figure out someone's feelings for you
is to compare the way they treat you
to the way they treat everyone else.
Are they just as friendly with you
as they are with a lot of other people?
There are actually a lot of people
who are just very friendly, chatty,
and comfortable joking around with lots of people.
Be careful not to read too much into it,
and keep an eye out for any of these other signs too.
Number two, they never initiate anything.
Sure, you might be talking to this person a lot
and spending lots of time with them,
but think back on the last time
the two of you actually made plans.
Who was the one to initiate it?
Have they ever actually gone outta their way
to spend time with you or strike up conversation with you?
If you're the only one doing most of the initiating,
then it's most likely that although this person
certainly enjoys spending time with you,
they're not flirting with you.
Number three, they don't hang out with you alone.
Similar to the points made earlier,
just because someone spends time with you
and talks to you a lot,
it doesn't necessarily mean
that they're trying to start anything with you,
especially if they never hang out with you alone.
So if the only time you and this person ever get together
is with a bunch of mutual friends around,
then they probably just wanna be friends and nothing more.
Number four, they keep a respectful physical distance.
While some people may be more comfortable
with it than others,
touching and other acts of physical affection
can be completely platonic and appropriate with friends.
Most people try to keep their touch respectful
and only reciprocate the touches you initiate
or when appropriate,
like to comfort you when you're upset, scared, or anxious.
Number five, they're careful about what they talk about.
Another telltale sign that someone's just being friendly
and not actually flirting with you
is if they're careful about what the two of you talk about.
Even our closest friends are mindful
not to send mixed signals.
That is, they usually keep your conversations
restricted to more friendly territory,
like what's going on in your lives,
how you're doing, how you're feeling,
and any common interests you might share.
Number six, they don't open up too much.
Again, the simplest act
of striking up a few conversations with someone
isn't enough evidence that they have feelings for you
or are trying to flirt with you,
especially if they're careful
not to open up to you too much.
So think back on the last time you and this person spoke.
Did they seem guarded to you at all?
Are there some things you sensed
they might have been reluctant to share
or talk to you about?
It might be because they were worried that sharing too much
might give you the wrong idea behind their intentions.
Of course, some people are naturally more guarded,
so that may be the case as well.
Number seven, they let conversations end organically.
One of the best ways we can distinguish
between someone who just wants to be friends
and someone who wants more
is by looking at the way our conversations end with them.
If they like to keep talking to you for as long as possible,
even about the most mundane things,
then they might be flirting.
On the other hand,
if they just let your conversations fizzle out
and reach their natural stopping points,
then they're likely just being friendly with you.
And finally, number eight,
they talk about their crushes with you.
Last but not least,
while this sign might be the most obvious of all,
it's still worth mentioning here.
If this person is comfortable enough to talk to you
about who they like, who they find attractive,
or who they might be romantically interested in,
then that's a clear a sign as any
that they only see you as a friend and nothing more.
After all, when you're flirting with someone,
it's particularly taboo to insinuate to them
that there might be other people you're interested in,
'cause that's just going to ruin your chances
of winning them over.
So do you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here?
Has this list helped you figure out
if someone is just being friendly to you
or if they're genuinely flirting with you?
Remember this list is not a guarantee.
Every situation is different.
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