Hello everyone and welcome.
I’m Brad Browning, relationship coach and author of best-selling Ex Factor Guide program.
I’m often referred to as the “Ex Back Geek,” because I’ve spent most of the
past decade helping people from around the world recover from breakups and win back their
ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend.
In this video, I’m going to do something that’s a bit different from the rest of
my videos here on YouTube…
I’m going to share with you a couple of stories from my past coaching clients, each
of whom ignored my advice and did some very stupid things that killed their chance of
ever getting back together with their ex.
Now, since these are real stories from past clients I’ve worked with, I’m going to
change the names, locations, and other details to protect the privacy of these customers.
Confidentiality is very important to my clients so I don’t want to embarrass anyone publicly
here, I just want to share their stories with you so that you can learn from their mistakes.
Client #1 -- David from New Jersey
Let’s start with a client I worked with some time ago.
We’ll call him David.
David had signed up for my Ex Factor Guide program three weeks after his girlfriend of
2 years dumped him.
David was certain that she dumped him because she was too busy with her college school work,
and he refused to believe me when I explained that his ex was likely not being truthful
when she told him why she wanted to break up.
Now, David’s first mistake was to completely disregard the “No Contact” theory that
I advocate in my program.
This is a very important part of winning back your ex, and it’s almost always the best
thing to do in the first few weeks after a breakup.
The numerous texts David sent to his ex weren’t the kind of ‘attraction-building’ messages
that I recommend in my program -- instead, David sent her incredibly boring stuff, asking
her “what’s up” and “how’s it going”.
Occasionally, he’d also mix in a message telling his ex how much he missed her and
how badly he wanted to get back together.
David signed up for my 1-on-1 coaching service after 2 weeks of unsuccessfully pestering
his ex with boring texts.
I explained to him that these type of messages were doing more harm than good, and he seemed
to accept this and agree to stop messaging her.
He didn’t make it more than 48 hours before sending another message, this time via Facebook…
and contrary to my advice and everything I recommend in my Ex Factor program, David spilled
his guts to his ex in this Facebook message.
He wrote several thousand words explaining how he wanted to get married and how great
things would be if she would just give him another shot.
I can only give my clients advice on what to do -- I can’t force anyone to follow
my advice.
In this case, David’s insistence on ignoring everything I’d said to him was the nail
in the coffin.
His ex didn’t reply to the gigantic Facebook message, but she did have one of her friends
call David and ask him to stop pestering her, and that she never wanted to hear from David
again.
Ouch.
Naturally, he did continue to attempt contact with his ex sporadically throughout the next
couple of weeks, never getting a reply and always making himself look more and more desperate.
Finally, I convinced David that he’d ruined his chances of winning her back, and he was
able to eventually move on and start dating other women.
It’s unfortunate that David was so unwilling to accept my advice, because he had a very
good chance of saving his relationship in the first couple of weeks after being dumped.
But, by completely ignoring the fundamental steps in my program and pestering his ex with
counterproductive messages, he drove her away for good.
Don’t do what David did -- stick to the proven tactics that I outline in the video
on my website, www.BreakupBrad.com, and in my Ex Factor Guide program.
Client #2 - Chloe from Australia
Chloe was a client who signed up for coaching about a year ago, trying to get back together
with her on-and-off boyfriend of 6 years.
She was in her mid-thirties, and her ex was a few years younger.
Chloe’s situation was a mess from the get-go, because she’d essentially been stalking
her ex for a month, driving past his house late at night and showing up at his gym when
she knew he’d be there.
After talking with Chloe for a few days, it became clear that she was insecure, and that
jealousy and her controlling behavior was what led her to this point and cause the downfall
of her relationship.
She was constantly telling me about her ex’s movements, asking whether I thought the woman
her ex had been talking to outside the gym was a new girlfriend.
Obviously, I made it very clear to Chloe that this type of behavior was 100% guaranteed
to drive her ex further away.
I gave her suggestions on how to be more productive with her time, focusing on re-building her
ex’s attraction and shedding the image of desperation that she’d been projecting to
her ex since the breakup.
I thought Chloe had understood and completely change her tactics, until I received this
email from her a week or so after we first began chatting…
She wrote to me, “Brad…
i totally screwed up big time.
on monday night i saw Jon (Jon is not her ex’s real name of course) at that photography
class i told you about, and he was with some other woman i’d never seen before, so i
confronted him and the girl and got really angry and started crying and screaming at
him in the class, it was so stupid brad….
now i just got a phone call saying i have to appear in court because Jon has asked for
a restraining order…
OMG brad, im such an idiot, i ruined everything didn’t I?”
At this point, obviously, I had to tell Chloe to face up to the reality of the situation.
I tried to email her to follow up a week or two later, but she never replied and I haven’t
heard from her since.
It’s a sad story, and I don’t know how things ended for Chloe, but I think there’s
a learning here for everyone watching: when your ex has to have a restraining order against
you, it’s time to back off and move on…..
Client #3 - Warren from Singapore
Ok, the final client I want to tell you about -- we’ll call him Warren -- is also a bit
of a sad, pathetic story.
To make a long story short, Warren’s relationship had ended more than 9 months before he got
in touch with me.
It was never actually a very serious relationship to begin with, so naturally the odds were
stacked against him.
Although I usually feel confident that I can help clients get a second shot with their
ex, I knew that Warren needed to give up and move on, so I told him that, and gave him
some suggestions on how to move on and find love again.
Not long after I first started working with Warren, he did something that, to this day,
still blows my mind.
He showed up at his ex’s house -- 9 months since their breakup, and over 2 months since
they had last spoken -- got down on one knee, and proposed to her.
Not only did this make his ex *extremely* embarrassed, it also became very awkward for
Warren when he realized that his ex’s new boyfriend was there to witness the proposal.
I actually continued to coach Warren for a few months after his disastrous decision to
ask his ex to marry him, and he was able to find a new girl within a month or two, so
this story has a happy ending.
But, even though Warren found happiness eventually, there’s one thing I can say for sure: proposing
marriage to an ex who you haven’t spoken with in nearly a year, while her new boyfriend
watches the whole thing, is not a particularly good idea.
So, that’s three clients who failed to take my advice and tried to go their own route.
Thankfully, these are isolated incidents, and most of my clients are successful…
most of them don’t propose to their ex out of the blue or turn into certified stalkers.
If you’re in this situation and trying to figure out how to get a second chance with
your ex, don’t go it alone…. grab a copy of my Ex Factor Guide program by visiting
www.BreakupBrad.com, or sign up for personal coaching and I’ll give you ongoing personalized
guidance so that you know exactly what to do and say to win your ex back.
If there are any spots available, you can sign up at BreakupBrad.com/Coaching … I
can only work with a limited number of clients at any given time, so sign up now if you see
availability.
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Thanks for watching -- See you next time!