CORY: The goal for today is really to focus on the outside.
That's what code enforcement is on for.
It really can be an easy day if she lets this stuff go quickly.
This [bleep] shouldn't be here, man.
I'm not tolerating this crap anymore.
I walked into my bedroom and Patricia had clearly
hidden some stuff in there.
Unbelievable.
To get rid of things like that, I
have to resort to go into a violent mode,
taking things and destroying them.
Smashing them.
Who would throw this stuff out here?
Is this a phone you threw out?
If you want to start throwing stuff,
I'll start throwing your stuff.
Go ahead.
It's garbage, Pat.
I'll decide what's garbage and what's not garbage.
Well, when it's near my bed, it's my territory.
They made me put that stuff there.
I didn't have it there.
Now put all this stuff in the house.
Because it's not going anywhere, except maybe in the shed.
It's not coming back in the house.
Don't even start, Bill.
Well, let's move it all the way out of here.
No, let's not.
Let's not, or I'll start throwing
your kids' pictures out there.
Well, if that's what you feel like is necessary to do,
go right ahead.
No.
How dare you throw stuff out.
Don't give me that [bleep].
I don't want to hear it, please, you know?
You drag more stuff in here in 5 minutes
than I can take out of here in 20.
What do you think paid for your car, and your coffee,
and your cigarettes?
It certainly wasn't that suitcase
that's been sitting in the same place for five years.
I'll tell you what can go and what can stay.
You're not going to dirty up or impede my space.
Don't do that!
This is what has to happen.
The lady that's coming might buy them.
Bring them back in the house.
Stop it!
You're making a mess!
You have no feeling for what this could do to someone else.
It's all about you.
All about Patty.
To hell with Bill, to hell with Jenny.
Let them burn.
ROBIN ZASIO: We're getting ready to start the day.
And the next thing that I know, I hear Bill and Pat yelling
at the top of their lungs.
And Bill has got a hammer in hand,
and he's destroying chairs and other items.
It was at that point I had to intervene.
Bill, Bill.
Stop it!
Bill.
You need to counsel him.
What's going on?
We make a decision, whether it be the two of us together
or her on her own, that that's junk.
It needs to go away.
And she will take this, hide it either in her truck,
behind the fence.
And then when I'm not home, she sneaks it back into the house.
This stuff has been around--
that heater has been around for five years.
I just picked it up.
I don't care if--
Let's stop for a moment.
Because this is what you guys always do--
No, it isn't
--is you argue and talk over one another.
I got Bill with a hammer, really upset.
I've got you wanting to take pictures because you're
more focused on how many trucks we have
rather than why we're here.
Bill is your significant other, which means--
the significant other part means he's 50% of this relationship.
And he has a voice, and the voice is important.
And I wanted to start helping you guys to listen and respect
what the other one says.
You don't have to agree with what he's saying.
But he needs to be heard.
OK, I don't disagree.
He doesn't need to break stuff so it's all in this driveway
and I have to pick it up.
I understand.
Can you just listen to what he's saying without talking?
Yeah.
ROBIN ZASIO: OK.
We have to help her understand that they've
got to start openly communicating with one
another, which means listening.
What I hear you saying is that there's just equal exchange
coming back and forth.
As you bring something out, she's on the back end
taking something in.
That's correct.
And if I don't completely destroy it,
it will end up in another place for another time to be
brought back in if I leave.
Now, what do you hear?
I want you to tell us what you hear him
saying, not to defend yourself.
I want you to tell me what you hear him saying.
I hear him saying he doesn't like the junk.
The junk's paying all the bills.
These chairs are $10 each.
I could sell them.
It may take a little time.
Selling her stuff is so much more important than talking
about the relationship.