Hey everybody.
Happy Tuesday.
And sorry,
Sean has my light with him right now.
So that's why I kind of look like there's a lot of light here.
And I'm a little darker here.
So anyway.
When it is Tuesday,
I'm on tumblr.
So if any of you are curious how the system works.
Because I know we have a lot of new subscribers.
And a lot of new viewers.
And the way that it works is,
I'm on a different site Tuesday through Friday.
Monday,
Or like this week I put the video out on Saturday,
Because I did a collaboration with Ashley Elizabeth.
And if you haven't checked that out,
And checked out her channel.
You should definitely do that.
But then on Tuesdays I'm on tumblr.
On Wednesdays I'm on the website and youtube.
So, you'll ask your questions below today's video for tomorrow's video.
And on katimorton.com
Thursday I'm on twitter.
And Friday I'm on facebook.
And it always helps if you use the #KatiFAQ
Because on most of the sites I can search it that way.
And that just helps me better find the actual questions.
So yeah,
That's kind of how it works.
And I may be mixing things up a little.
Trying some new things.
I have some people that I'm trying to work with,
To maybe put out yoga videos.
And just different types of videos.
So that we can mix it up.
Because I know sometimes it it just gets kind of boring.
And we want to make sure,
Keeping things fresh.
So, I have two questions today.
As well as a journal topic from Rambles and Brambles.
That's her name on tumblr.
Thank you so much for sending me that.
So lets get started.
First question says,
'Hey Kati, I was wondering if someone has an eating disorder,'
'Do they have body Body Dysmorphic Disorder as well?'
'Do they come together or can you only be diagnosed with one?'
This is a great question.
And I have talked about it,
At various times with other videos.
But not specifically.
I have talked about it when I am talking about Anorexia Nervosa, I believe.
And then I did a video about BDD.
Which is Body Dysmorphic Disorder.
If you want more information on that,
Just search on youtube,
'Kati Morton BDD'
Or 'Kati Morton Body Dysmorphic Disorder'
It should come up with a bunch of videos.
And I would encourage any of you,
If you're new,
Prior to asking a question for the FAQ.
Search for it on youtube,
Using my name and maybe a main phrase.
Like 'school' or 'stress' or, you know, 'BDD' or 'anorexia'
And see what I have already done.
Because I answer a lot of questions.
And I always try to hash tag them at the bottom.
So that when you search, they will come up with the right answer.
So as far as an eating disorder and BDD.
They are completely separate.
The part of, the eating disorder,
In and of itself,
Is just like BDD for lack of a better explanation.
Because when we struggle with an eating disorder,
We're often so focused and so obsessed with how our body looks and feels,
And what it's doing and how often we're eating.
And we're just obsessed with that.
That's like,
I believe,
I don't remember what the insurances used to say when I used to have to call these in.
But it was like,
If it takes over more than 60% of your brain space, your time.
If you're spending most of your day thinking about your body,
And obsessing about how it looks.
Then that's one of the criteria for an eating disorder.
And so you can get coverage for treatment.
So that is an eating disorder.
I know that sounds a lot like BDD.
But in the DSM.
I forget what they call it,
Below it, it says that you have to like rule out other things.
And in BDD it says if this can be attributed to an eating disorder,
Then it's no longer BDD.
It's the eating disorder.
So the eating disorder kind of encompasses a feeling and symptoms like BDD.
But we can only really have BDD if we don't,
If it cannot be attributed to an eating disorder.
Is that clear?
I know sometimes it can be kind of difficult.
And, I feel like I need a white board where I like draw and explain the differences.
But that's kind of how those circles overlap.
And yes, the symptomatology.
The symptomatology, wow.
Can be very similar,
However that's how we differentiate.
Okay.
Now question number two says,
'Hey Kati, I'm not sure if I'm asking in the right place.'
Well you were.
'But here's my question.'
'I'm getting better slowly. But my best friend is not.'
'And I feel a tremendous amount of guilt for getting better when she's not.'
'And it's making me backtrack.'
'Do you have any advice?'
Now I really wanted to talk about this because a lot of you in general,
Reach out to me talking about having loved ones in your life or friends,
Who are struggling and you feel guilty for doing better.
Or you're able to get help and they're not.
And it's really hard.
Or you're really close to someone who's really struggling and getting worse.
And the best thing that we can do,
Is help ourselves.
I know that sounds ridiculous.
And I know that you're like,
'But I feel really guilty Kati, I just told you that. Are you listening? Geeze.'
But I am listening.
The best thing we can do is get help ourselves.
Because we can't care for someone else,
We can't help them in their walk,
We can't offer up advice,
If we're not doing good for ourselves in the first place.
If we're not actually working on our recovery.
Otherwise, it's like the blind leading the blind.
And we're both struggling.
And why should we both be feeling bad.
But when we're feeling better,
When we're getting better.
We'll have more energy and more,
You know, ways to help out for those people in our lives when we're still struggling.
Now I would encourage all of you to open communication with them,
About this so that they may,
So that we don't make them feel like we're pushing our experience,
And our thoughts and beliefs about recovery on them.
But let them know that you would love to be a resource.
You know, that you're always there for them.
That you love them.
And that you just want to be there to support in any way you can.
But we really can't do that fully if we're not taking care of ourselves.
So the best thing that we can do,
If you are out there,
And you have a person in your life that you love and care about,
And they are struggling.
The best thing you can do, if you're also in recovery,
Is to keep working on your recovery.
Because otherwise we can't help each other.
We can't be there for one another.
Because it's almost like the whole old saying,
Like, you can't love someone else without loving yourself first.
And that is for friendships too.
If I'm not taking care of myself,
I can't sit down with my best friend Liz and just chat about stuff,
I need to take care of myself.
So that when she needs to vent,
I can be there for her.
And I can listen.
But I can't do it on my,
I can't do it when I'm not doing well.
If I'm running ragged.
If I'm, you know, feeling bad.
Then I can't really be there for her in the way that she may need.
And so, in a way,
By helping ourselves, we help others at the same time.
I hope that makes sense.
And if any of you have any tips and tricks,
About how you communicated that to your friend,
Like, if you've opened up communication about recovery,
And that you know they're having a hard time,
And you're working really hard so you're there to support them.
Let me know below.
Because the more we share with each other,
The more we all grow together.
Am I right?
I think I'm right.
Okay, now.
The journal topic from Rambles and Brambles.
Such a cute name.
You guys have the funniest and cutest names on tumblr.
Okay, it says,
'Hey Kati, possible journal topic. It's a quote. And it says,'
"If your friend spoke to you the way that you sometimes speak to yourself,"
"How long would you allow that person to be your friend?"
'This is a reminder that the fight starts with you.'
And I don't know if I said this one before.
But I have heard it before.
And this is a great way to check in on our relationships.
And our, most importantly,
Our relationship with ourselves.
Because the fight does start with us.
And that negative voice that we allow to talk trash to us all day long.
Would we allow someone else to talk to us like that?
Probably not.
So I think we should start arguing back,
In the same way that we'd argue or, you know,
Distract, or ignore, the person that's talking trash.
So sometimes you have to ignore that voice.
Sometimes you have to yell back.
Sometimes you have to distract.
Whatever you need to do to get it to shut the hell up.
I recommend you start today.
Okay, I love you all.
Tomorrow, like I said, website and youtube.
So ask your questions here.
As well as on katimorton.com
And I'll see you then.
Bye!
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