Heya playa, if you haven't texted your crush in a long time you might be wondering...
"What do I say to them to restart that conversation without it being awkward?".
Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to walk you through a few things that you could start
doing to help rekindle that connection with your crush so you can eventually ask them out.
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Now, this is an incredibly common problem.
You're texting your crush and maybe the conversation just falls to the wayside or
you just run out of things to talk about or even worse
they block you and you just don't know how to keep communication with them.
And maybe some time has passed and you want to start talking to them again or
they unblocked you and you want to bring things back to where they were before.
Well, you're only going to run into the same issues over and over until you understand why.
Why did that conversation take a nosedive?
Why did they read your message and then leave you on seen?
If you don't really reflect on what you can do differently the next time around,
you're going to run into the same issues.
So, if you want to keep that conversation going, flowing, and growing follow these tips.
Tip number one is to give them a reason as to why you're messaging them.
And one of the best ways to really do that is to shoot them a DM and say something like
"Hey I was driving by school the other day and you just popped into
my mind. I wanted to check-in and see how you're doing, what's up?"
The reason is entirely up to you. It could be from watching a movie or a tv show,
from visiting a place that made you feel nostalgic,
or participating in some kind of activity that reminded you of them.
The point of that message is to let them know that they were on your mind.
It gives them the opportunity to ask a follow-up question.
"Why were you thinking about them and what do you think that means?"
So, now you have the opportunity to keep the conversation going.
Tip number two is to jump right back into where you were before the conversation ended.
A lot of times people address the awkwardness of not talking for a long time but I think if you
jump right back into the conversation and make it seem like no time has passed, it's gonna be
easier for that person to also not feel awkward talking to you after not talking for so long.
That might mean giving them a brief update as to what's going on in your life.
Sharing some awesome news about things that you're working on or working towards and
asking them questions about their life to see where they are and what's going on there.
By doing that you're gonna start to rebuild
the groundwork for the two of you to start to talk more frequently.
And if you want to even just strengthen that even more
bring up things from the past that the two of you guys shared together.
Maybe it was graduation or a school trip or a project you worked on or class you took together.
Anything that can allow that person to feel like the two of you are
closer together through your shared experiences.
That always helps in rebuilding a connection.
"Remember that time we randomly ran into each other outside of Comic-Con before your panel?"
*Heh*
"Oh man such a good time. I wish Comic-Con wasn't canceled this year."
Tip number three is perhaps the most important piece here because you don't just want to have
a one-off conversation with them and have things go back to where they were.
So, display your confidence and make concrete plans to meet up.
This is the only way that you're actually going to start to really build things out with your crush.
You could talk to them but you don't just want to keep the conversation
through text. You want to move it to in person.
I know that sounds super scary and like 10 steps ahead and you feel like you're
at step one here but, there's plenty of ways that you can actually make it happen.
That might be asking them to hang out one-on-one or you might even want to opt for a group hangout.
Think about all the different mutual friends and connections you guys have with each other
try to invite all those people out together so you could spend time as a group.
The purpose of putting your confidence on display
and asking them to hang out is to avoid the "dead-end".
The "dead-end" is the point of the conversation where you say something like
"Man it'd be super cool to catch up one day"
and they respond with
"Yeah let's definitely do that!".
No concrete plans are made, no date is set. It's not really going to go anywhere.
And yet people make that mistake all the time.
But you're not going to do that, you're going to be different here.
You're actually going to reach out to your crush, reminisce about something
that connects the two of you together, update them on where you are in your life, ask them
questions about what's going on in theirs, and then put your confidence on full display.
Let them know that you want to hang out with them and you want to see them.
Don't just settle for a random text here and there where you
end up not talking to them for a long time again.
Now that you know what to do at the beginning and end of that text conversation, I put together a
video that's going to help you figure out more of the middle and to keep that conversation flowing.
I'll share that with you in a second but first I want to give a huge shout
out to all my patrons and YouTube channel members.
These are the people that help support the channel every single month so
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Now what I want you to do is check out the video over there on the side
to learn more about how to keep a conversation going.
This is a great way to kind of just really rebuild the connection you have with your crush over text.
Check out the video and I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.