I learned this little hack when I knew that I needed to become a reader. In high
school, I have this professor who is Jewish. And he would read 2 books a
week and always had a book hanging out of his pocket. I thought, "Man, that guy's
so much older than me." and he's got gray hair. And he's reading so much. And I hate
books. I hate reading. I mean, that was honestly the way I felt. And then I
learned this little hack: If you want to read a book, don't try to read the entire
thing at once. No cramming. In fact, don't even try to
read a chapter. In fact, don't even try to read a page. In fact, don't even try to
read a paragraph. Don't even try to read a sentence. Just make the commitment to
read a word. It is impossible to pick up a book and read a word and put it right
back down if your intention is to read the book. My secret that I found is that
if I can take a big ambitious goal and find the smallest common denominator
that all of a sudden I developed a love affair with books and I started reading.
My goal was 50 books. I plowed through those 50 books. But it was all based on
this idea of just reading a word at a time.
At some point I got sick and tired of carrying the extra 30 to 50
pounds. So this was years ago, I said, I'm going to do a physique competition. That's
like a bodybuilding category, right? So, I'm actually gonna go and compete and
get practically naked on stage in front of a thousand people and show off my
body. And I probably was always over 20% body fat. But I knew to get on that stage,
I had to be 5% body fat and I had 5 months to get there. So, I got myself a
trainer but I reduced it to this to the tiniest thing. Which was I just got to
show up and I got to do that one set. But if I got to the gym, I wasn't going to do
one set, I was going to do 4 sets and then I was going to pick another exercise.
and then I was reducing it to something as simple as when that alarm clock goes
off, "Kris you got to wake up in the morning. Kris, when you put food in your
mouth, this is the smallest denominator." And one day at a time,
in a day I didn't get down to 5% body fat. But by consistently doing the right
things every day, when it came Showtime for competition, I was a ripped 5% body
fat. And I own that stage. And ever since then, I've never had a problem with my
body or my weight. So, I learned something from mastering a new skill. It was kind
of like when I was young and I said, "I want to take down this money thing." Right?
Like, I want to be a millionaire by the time I'm done with college. Dude, it was a
crazy ambitious goal. Crazy that wasn't what any of my friends were doing. Dude,
my friends were. And they looked at what is doing real estate. Like, "Dude, you crazy?"
But you know what just started with, "I know I need to get a lot of houses to be
financially free but I just needed buy one." What do I gotta do to buy one? And
then I broke that down. Well actually, I need 5,000 in the bank. How do I do
that? Jeez, I don't have any excess money. So, I
need to save. And every month, I figured out how to save just a little bit of
money. Small steps led to that first house. That first house, check this out. It
started creating a snowball because now I didn't have to pay my mortgage so the
basement was covered. I rented it out and it paid for the whole house. That extra
money now got me out of debt. Using... I used that money to buy another house.
Then I had the income from both houses that easily bought my third. All of them
bought my fourth. I remember one had 2,000 a month coming in residually. And
then it was 5,000, it was 8,000. The first time I had $100,000 in my bank account.
I remember just going into my wife and
being like, "Dude, we've been... We've been doing this for only 3 years and we
got $100,000 in the bank account." This is wild. That's a tenth of a million
dollars. Little things turn into huge things when you can reduce them down to
their tiniest little piece. Let me just give you a couple more examples because
I want you to really see how you can do this in your world. My wife and I used to
really struggle in our marriage. Like, we... We just couldn't communicate on some
topics. Like there were eggshells. We would not walk on the eggshells when it
came to housecleaning, when it came to physical intimacy. When it came to
schedules. Like there were these topics that we just really struggled with. And
one day, I said, "Okay, Kris. How do you apply this?" Here's your ambitious goal. I
want to live on cloud nine with my wife. I want to be 10 out of 10. How do I get
10 out of 10 every single day? And I said, "Well, with unconditional love, I've got to
be willing to love her on her terms with what she wants and tie no conditions to
it." So, there's nothing... It's not a transaction. There's nothing in exchange.
And so basically, every day I would ask her "What can I do for you? How could I
show my love?" And whatever she asked, I did it. Doing every day. One thing. Not
5, not 10. Nothing huge. Whatever she asked. They were often really small
things unload the dishwasher, take the kids to school. Things that I could
manage. But after 60 days of everyday doing one
tiny little thing for her completely transformed the way that I felt about
Kalenn. And I think the way she felt about me because then we were both
reciprocating and playing. And for years now, our marriage has never been the same
since. Small little daily actions. Last one most recently is that I've been
evaluating how I am as a father. Like on the one hand I feel like an awesome
father. But then when I get like really critical. I'm like, "Alright. Am I really
the best father that I could be?" And if I'm critical, I can see where I'm not
spending enough time with my kids." I'm not getting with them at their level
playing at their games doing the things that they want. And so I turn to my wife
and I said, "Dude, there's a problem for me. I want to fix it." She says, "Well, what do
you want to do?" I said, "I want to find the smallest thing that I can do that I
we'll chain react everything." She's like, "What is it?" I said, "15 minutes a day. I'm
going to take 15 minutes a day one-on-one with one of my kids to start this." And
she said, well are you going to create a rotation? Are you going to like create a
system and then rotate kids?" I'm like, "No, I just going to spend 15 minutes every day
with whoever I feel I want to spend it with." And that first day, I was reading a
book with my child then I hopped on a bike and we're bike around the
neighborhood and that night we went to the park. And little things turn into
huge things. What keeps most of us from achieving our big ambitious goals is
that we just don't start. We get so hung up on the big thing that we put it off.
And if you can put something off one day, 1 is a powerful number. It's the
difference between possible and impossible. If you can put it off one day,
you will put it off a week. And if you can put it off a week, years later, you're
going to wake up and bed and say, "What if where did the time go?
Why didn't I?" it'll be regret. It doesn't have to be that way. So, if you have a
really big ambitious goal, all you got to do is ask yourself. What is the small,
tiniest, little step that I can take today and every day that will simply get
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