Oh hello everyone. Just to fill you in on my physical state, I have a cold and I cheese-grated
part of my thumbnail off while making macaroni and cheese which was delicious even thought
it might have gotten a bit of my blood in it. I should totally do a cooking show. I
just think it's time. We could call it 'Blood in the Kitchen'. Your questions, no more talk
of my blood, after the intro.
So the question posed in last week's Ask Cristen was 'Can a girl ask a guy out?' and the answer
is obviously. For further proof, Sigurd Kristvik, I think I just butchered your name, writes,
'One girl asked me out, I said "yes", we were together for a year. It's fantastic when a
girl takes the initiative when approaching me.' Emmy Richards said, 'My boyfriend and
I got together because I came forward with my interest and asked him :)', smiley face.
And I bet he had a smiley face too when she asked him out. Finally John Smith, if that
is his real name, 'A girl asked me out over two months, we are still dating and I love
her more than anything in this world. I do not think girls should hesitate to ask guys
out because if they deny you because you asked them out they are sexist and not worth being
with.' That's cool cause there's now music playing below me. For this week's Ask Cristen
I acutally want to circle back to a question posed a few weeks ago by xjessgd, 'Cristen
I have a question. I'm modeled for a friend's project this week, it was a topless shoot
but I was covered in paint. It wasn't vulgar at all but somehow it managed to really tick
off my boyfriend, we had a terrible fight and I just can't understand what the big deal
is. Seriously, what's the matter with boobs?' This question of what's the matter with boobs
jumped out at me because when it comes to your predicament in particular we're talking
about the boobs but we're also talking about things not your boobs. First let's talk about
the boobs though, why are boobs so controversial? In a nutshell it's because women's bodies
have been so continually objectified and sexualized that a lot of times when we see cleavage even,
not even an entire breast, not even a nipple, not a hint of a nipple, we automatically assume
that there is a sexual connotation to that. Even if you just happen to be a larger breasted
woman wearing a lower cut shirt and that's the shirt that you want to wear and that should
be entirely fine, me as a smaller chested woman wearing that same low cut shirt would
not have the same amount of cleavage and I would not attract the same amount of automatic
snap judgements from people who would be assuming that I if I had more cleavage, larger breasts,
ect, was trying to be provocative, send some kind of sexual message by simply showing a
line between two pieces of flesh which is really all cleavage is. Not to say that cleavage
can't be sexy but I know for a fact from girlfriends of mine with larger breasts that it's frustrating
that we always assume or tend to assume that cleavage is meant to be sexy, that it is meant
to attract the gaze. To me breasts are the symbol of a lot of other problems that we
have in terms of how women are perceived and treated and objectified. Now in terms of the
second layer of this question in regard to your relationship, it's not what's the matter
with boobs, it's what's the matter with your boyfriend? In the way that you phrase it at
least it sounds like maybe there are some jealousy and trust issues going on. If you
say that it was an art project and you were comfortable with it and nothing weird happened
and you felt like your body was being honored, I don't know why he should be freaking out
to the point that it causes a fight. And to me it is a red flag if someone is more concerned
about how you are presenting your body than you are because that says that maybe he or
she feels more ownership over your body than he or she should. When your body can only
be seen in sexual terms then that is a problem. We aren't sex objects. And by me I'm saying
women. Women, what do you think though? What is, what is the matter with boobs? Have you
experienced this kind of breast-shaming before? And guys, what do you think as well? If you
have a girlfriend, sister, friend who is a girl and she happens to be showing a lot of
cleavage does it make you uncomfortable? Would it be something that you would get in a fight
about? And don't forget to ask me your questions as well. Ask me anything people, for reals,
you want me to talk about boobs, you want me to talk about man boobs. Clinical term,
gyneocomastia. See I'm already talking about it. And don't forget to subscribe.